Posters at the city college with helpful information on how to stop raping prople

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• unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Do you actually believe that there is only “rapists” and “good people” in this world? Because no, there are indeed lots of stupid teenagers out there who genuinely do not understand how to talk to people. This poster is not just about straight up rape but also about unsolicited saying of weird shit, or non-consensual hugging and things of that nature.

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  • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Great point! Also it isn’t just teenagers, adults do this a lot, too! Also I’d venture a guess that most rape is accidental and borne from a lack of education rather than malicious. Doesn’t make it less rape, but it does challenge our views of what a “rapist” looks like.

    When we understand we are all capable of rape, we can all help to prevent it and change into better people.

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  • j_elgato@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Not my intention to disparage the effort or make light of the problem.

    But to see such weighty subject matter addressed by a cartoon at a college level is both surreal and terrifying.

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    • wander1236@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      It got your attention

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    • Soulg@ani.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      College kids are just slightly larger children, it’s not really that weird

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    • eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Meh.

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• Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Most rape occurs by accident by people who don’t understand consent. People just like to treat it like it’s all violent because they are afraid of accepting that they are both capable of rape and have likely committed it at some point in their life because they were never taught about consent and were raised in a culture that teaches them to ignore the concept of consent

  All unconsensual sex is rape, but not all people who have raped intended to rape. This is extremely important to understand and this is why it is extremely important to teach people about consent.

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  • MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    This is probably not the place to share this, but to your point here’s a personal story about that:

    I went on a date with a guy who was a friend of a friend and I’d known casually for a while. We were at his place and hanging out. He tries to do something I didn’t want and I didn’t want to ruin the mood so I casually move away. He tries again and I verbally very seriously say that I don’t want that. He tries again a bit later and I end up leaving. He legitimately has no idea what he did wrong. He calls and texts an apology. He’s a nice guy otherwise. He asks if we can chat about it because he’s confused and concerned. We do. He grew up very sheltered and literally didn’t understand that no means no. I know that sounds idiotic to anyone with a normal upbringing, but it was the case. We have an extended conversation about enthusiastic consent. He apologizes again and asks if I would feel comfortable going out again at any point. We do and he acted exactly as one would hope. We dated for years with no issues afterwards. I’m sure someone will probably be thinking “he was manipulating you” or “he was worried about his reputation”, but in reality he just never had someone talk to him about consent and bought into the “no means yes” bs that was popular in media when he was growing up.

    If I didn’t know him as well as I did, or if I was someone else, it’s possible I would have been too concerned to speak up about it and he would go on never knowing that what he did was wrong. This sign would probably legitimately have helped him.

    I think this is a part of why a lot of SA goes unreported. No one want to report their boyfriend because of what in a non sexual circumstance might be called a misunderstanding. If I say I don’t want dessert and my BF orders me dessert anyway, I can just not eat it. That’s not the case when it comes to sexual contact and people seem to struggle with that.

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    • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Thank you for sharing, that was an extremely appropriate example of exactly what I was talking about!

      And I think you’re absolutely right that that may be the reason a lot of SA goes unreported. Likes yes there are situations where systems of power are used to silence people, but there are also a lot of clumsy sexual interactions we had as teens that may technically be rape or sexual assault, but we were all still learning.

      The boys were learning that consent is a very real concept and the girls were learning how to advocate for themselves. All of these were happening in tandem with systems of power making things just that much more complicated.

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• IAMgROOT@lemmy.wtf ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  it is extremely sad but some people just dont know

  because they are extremely sheltered due to their parents who dont think theyre “old enough” to learn about sex and consent

  this is why its in a college

  because in college you dont have mum and dad over your shoulder deciding what you can and cant see

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• CandleTiger@programming.dev ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Yeah there really are such people.

  The whole mass of humanity is mostly doing whatever feels kind of normal most of the time and not thinking about it.

  Countering the momentum of “holy shit I really want to be fucking right now I am so hot for this” takes a LOT of work.

  If you can make “I changed my mind and I don’t want to get fucked after all” a thing then you need to seed that idea in advance firmly in the mind of insecure young people who never had any deep thought about sex at all before.

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• Typhoon@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Start a campaign to mass mail these to Trump.

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  • j_elgato@leminal.space ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Seems to be about a 3rd - 4th grade level. Probably still too advanced.

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• gigastasio@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Somewhere there’s a student council member who’s really proud of this poster.

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  • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    And they should be, because it’s visually appealing and it’s a good way to simplify the concept in a way most people will understand.

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  • Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    In college. Not fifth grade

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• Rajtinka@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  If you’re going to choose food to illustrate a point, Tacos and Fries are pretty good choices! Who wouldn’t listen to a delicious taco??

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• janewaydidnothingwrong@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  This was a big thing in the military. If someone was assaulted, or if someone committed suicide, they would gather everyone in to one place for an all-day or even several-day powerpoint presentation on why that is bad. We did that “training” annually anyway, so it was just extra iterations of exactly the same prefabricated lessons and presentations, the most “check in the box” reaction you could possibly have. As if people with the propensity and inclination to commit assault would remember the extra lessons and choose differently, or the stressors leading someone to a fatal choice would be fixed by the powerpoint.

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• TheDankMemegician36@thelemmy.club ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Its exactly as effective as a “gun free zone” sign.

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• Soulphite@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I hate when people rape prople.

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  • Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Nah. Prople shouldn’t have worn that dress that shows the butthole

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• Sineljora@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  They need to put these up around Microslop campus. They don’t understand what consent means.

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• ElectricAirship@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  If only this poster was on Epstein’s island somewhere

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• Drewmeister@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Okay, that’s what “fries” stands for. Now what about “taco?”

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  • Telodzrum@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Tolerate Affirmative Consent Only

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• Grimy@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  You want to put mayo on his fries but isn’t there someone you forgot to ask?

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• BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Continuous Enthusiastic Content!

  1000033346

  m.youtube.com/watch?v=UBQkTvy3u18

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• Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  If only this was around when Cosby was young.

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