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Banana@sh.itjust.works 5 days agoThank you for sharing, that was an extremely appropriate example of exactly what I was talking about!
And I think you’re absolutely right that that may be the reason a lot of SA goes unreported. Likes yes there are situations where systems of power are used to silence people, but there are also a lot of clumsy sexual interactions we had as teens that may technically be rape or sexual assault, but we were all still learning.
The boys were learning that consent is a very real concept and the girls were learning how to advocate for themselves. All of these were happening in tandem with systems of power making things just that much more complicated.
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 5 days ago
Yea, I think it’s extremely sad that women’s bodies are essentially used as a training ground for men’s understanding of consent, and therefore woman have to deal with the consequences of any misunderstandings the men may have. It’s also sad that a women’s inability to advocate for themself may mean a man legitimately doesn’t understand the harm he’s causing as he’s causing it. And vice versa of course.
One of the reasons I am so verbal about enthusiastic consent is because that requires both parties to understand what is needed of them. It’s not just about knowing how to recognize consent, but also how to provide consent. I appreciate the nuance you added to the conversation. Sometimes the internet can be hit or miss about these things.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
100% agreed. All great value-added points!