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• str82L@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  They wiped your ass for years. They’ll live.

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  • Acamon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Totally. And eventually people get to the age where “embarrassing” medical stuff is so common that it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. Just be matter of fact about it, if you don’t act like it’s embarrassing then they won’t either.

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    • Apepollo11@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Seconded. As soon as you hit 40, every other visit to the doctor involves talking about something going wrong below the waist.

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• NABDad@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Your parents wiped your ass. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about anything.

  Just say it quick, like ripping off a bandaid:

  “I need to see a doctor about a hemorrhoid that won’t go away.”

  It’s not even in the top 1000 worst things kids have to tell parents. If you can’t tell them about a hemorrhoid, how are you ever gonna be able to tell them about the gay prostitute you accidentally knocked unconscious, thought you killed, and then tied up in the basement after they woke up while you were trying to bury them?

  If a hemorrhoid is the most embarrassing story you’ve got, you have no reason to be embarrassed.

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  • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Exactly. I mean, the first couple of times you might be able to think of an excuse to explain it, but the 3rd or 4th time they catch you, you’re just going to have to come clean

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• rustyfish@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I kinda get your point, but you have to see it this way: Both of them had it themselves almost certainly at some point in their lives. Haemorrhoids are kinda common. But it’s not something you tell your peers about while having a break next to the coffee machine.

  Also, don’t be embarrassed about medical issues in front of your parents. If they aren’t complete assholes, they won’t turn this into a show to shame you or something.

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• thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You’re far from the first person to ever get hemorrhoids. If my kid came to me with something like this, I’d do anything to help and never tell a soul. Hopefully your parents have a little empathy and will do the same. It’s not weak to ask for help when you need it. Good luck.

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• dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Agree with everyone else. It’s embarrassing, but it’s not like you have to show them what’s going on. Just tell them you need to see a doctor for it.

  If you’re really so uncomfortable telling them about this that you can’t bring yourself to do it, then you could try telling them “I need to see a doctor. It’s embarrassing, I don’t want to discuss it, I just need to make an appointment. I’ll handle the scheduling, I just need to know my insurance info* and a ride to the office”

  *Or however that works where you are.

  If you can reasonably do it, you may just be able to call and schedule it without their help.

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• mx_smith@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I had a high school teacher who used to say there are two types of people those who have hemorrhoids and those who will get them. Take your time on the toilet.

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• fdnomad@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Your parents used change your diaper and to them it feels like it was just yesterday. Once your parents reach a certain age, you might have to take care of them in similarly uncomfortable ways. There is no shame between you. And telling them you need medical treatment for what you think may be a hemorrhoid is not the worst, it’s not like you have to parade your butthole infront of them. There’s no way around feeling embarrassed, you have to suffer that, but you’ll make it through, I promise.

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• Dorkyd68@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Have you tried actual otc hemorrhoid cream?

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• Rakudjo@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I thought it’ll pass on it’s own but it hasn’t.

  I had an internal one (no pain, lots of bleeding) within the last 2 years, went to see the doc at the 2 month mark. Was informed it usually takes up to 6 months to resolve. There’s a few more-drastic measures that can be performed to take care of it if it’s a significant health risk or doesn’t fade in that time period. Sorry for your pain and suffering, but other comments about Prep H, and your sitz baths, are good advice. Yes, they’re not so uncommon.

  The sooner they know, the less embarrassing it’ll end up with frequent, painful trips to the bathroom. Just be up front.

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• NutinButNet@hilariouschaos.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Don’t worry about being embarrassed. This is your health and it is important. You don’t want to let things like this go on too long.

  What are your alternatives? Just keep quiet about it and live in discomfort and let it get worse? Or spend a few moments POSSIBLY feeling embarrassed and getting the help you need? I say “possibly” because I doubt your parents will let you feel that way about something that is medically bothering you like this. Good parents will care and do what they can to help you.

  Go get yourself taken care of. This is important.

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• kn33@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I deal with anxiety a lot. Actually, recently diagnosed. I often find myself struggling to discuss difficult topics, too. Here’s what sometimes works for me.

  You only have to be brave enough for as long as it takes to say what you need to say. After that, it’s over. Just figure out the quickest way to say it while still communicating effectively. Amp yourself up, spit it out, and it’s over.

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• billwashere@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I doubt there is an adult alive that has kids old enough to have issues like this that hasn’t also had issues like this. They really aren’t that uncommon. Google the percentage of women that get them during pregnancy. And men also can have terrible bathroom habits that lead to them often using the toilet to escape for some quiet time (guilty as charged).

  Just remember though, these people wiped your ass for several years so I doubt very likely they will give it much thought.

  If my kid came tome with this problem I’d be like “yeah those can be quite painful and uncomfortable, let’s go get this looked at”. Just remember first and foremost, your parents are just people and likely want the best for you. This really isn’t a reason to be embarassed.

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• remon@ani.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Hemorrhoid are like super common, like 50% of people will get them eventually. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

  I guess you can continue waiting, but I bet eventually the pain will beat out the embarrassment. Just tell them and get help.

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• EmbarrassedDrum@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s a funny subject too. Maybe try bringing it up as a half joke and be like “OK but now fr what am I supposed to do??”

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• Lemming6969@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Aside from some over the counter numbing creams and surgery there is nothing to be done by a doctor anyway. At best you can massage it gently in a shower or bath. You didn’t say how long you’ve had it, but it takes weeks to reduce. Just tell them if you feel you must, there is no magic way to say embarrassing things except for practice doing so.

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• broton33@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I got these. Just tell them, it’s really a normal issue for us humans and other humans (your parents, doctors) will understand. And! Then you can get some off-the-shelf cream and it’ll help a lot and you’ll feel much better. Go for it and trust that human bodies have bodily “features” and that other humans will understand.

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• altima_neo@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Get some preparation h. The cream, not the ointment. Takes about a week or two to do it’s thing.

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• sasquash@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  there are special ointments that you can buy in normal large supermarkets. at least in my country. should work if it’s not to bad.

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• Berttheduck@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Aside from telling your parents you probably need to change your toilet habits and diet. You should spend less than a couple of minutes on the loo to open your bowels. Lots of water and a high fiber diet will help. Most people spend way too long straining on the toilet and that’s how you get haemorrhoids. Don’t be embarrassed though it’s a really common problem your parents likely have them themselves or know people who struggle with them.

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• breakfastmtn@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Do your parents need to know why you need to go to the doctor? Can’t you say it’s for some other, less embarrassing reason? Not that you need to feel embarrassed but I don’t think your parents will be harmed by the white lie. And it doesn’t really change the outcome for you, right?

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• RobotZap10000@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My condolences for your medical situation. When you tell your parents about this, what do you think will happen? Will they ridicule you for their own entertainment, or will they fulfil their basic duty to keep their children healthy and safe? I would expect the latter. Even if it is difficult for you to confess, you must still do it. I can’t imagine that the situation will improve if you wait even longer. Good luck and strength to you.

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