The people with no or few friends tend to be weird but not really bad in any meaningful way: socially awkward, shy, odd interests, neurodivergent etc. Difficult to get to know, plain and simple.
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nimpnin@sopuli.xyz 14 hours ago
IDK man, the people with no or few friends tend to be weird but not really bad in any meaningful way: socially awkward, shy, odd interests, neurodivergent etc. Difficult to get to know, plain and simple. People with a lot of friends are often worse people, manipulative and/or have a transactional attitude to relationships
Bubs@lemm.ee 5 hours ago
dingus@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Yeah I’d like to think I’m not a bad person. I just have intense social anxiety. The only way I’ve made friends are when chatty people tend to talk to me and invite me to things. I’ve always appreciated when people do this, but then I just don’t retain the friendship when I’ve moved across the country or when we’ve moved into different life stages. I’m fortunate enough to have a friend now who is just nice and talks to me. Prior to that I didn’t have anyone for a while outside of my online friends. Some of us are really just terrified of other human beings is all.
possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
Just be chill
I rarely do anything with people I know. I’m not a super social person and I tend to keep to myself. I tend to hang with people that I either know very well or that I work do something with.
3dogsinatrenchcoat@slrpnk.net 11 hours ago
When I was in high school there was only one kid with no friends and he was racist
possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
At least he wasn’t the popular kid
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 9 hours ago
Same. It was in the Tennessee suburbs so there was actually a lot of racism, but dude was like, Klan level racist, and that’s just rude.
danhab99@programming.dev 13 hours ago
And when it’s not any of those cases then that person has a horrible pattern of behavior. I’ve learned this lesson way too hard.
doomcanoe@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
Idk man, the people with no friends and the people with a lot of friends and even the people with a middle amount of friends seem to follow a standard distribution of personalities.
Some awkward people and some charismatic people just suck. Some awkward people and some charismatic people are awesome. But most of all, people are just kinda shades of in-between.
dingus@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Yeah I don’t think it’s really fair for anyone to be generalizing people over the number of friends they have. There are shitty and no shitty people in both camps.