Comment on Anon tries to understand his coworker
JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 weeks ago
I don’t get why anon believes he is being used. It was a miscommunication, sure. Did he spend money on her before this? Using him as a ride to go on a hike? Hikes being extremely cheap and only needing to pay parking, usually.
Hikes being extremely cheap and only needing to pay parking, usually.
Laughs in Finnish everymans rights.
You have to pay for hiking? Or you hike on trails where the only access is from a parking area that you have to pay for?
Seems ridiculous to me.
It depends. Generally speaking they’re free. I was told by a ranger at the Great Smokey Mountains National Park that they don’t enforce (or at least specifically weren’t that day) parking passes and only give people courtesy notices to pay for parking. They were only ticketing people parking in places that weren’t actual parking spots or blocking areas.
Generally speaking I think you can expect to pay about $5 on average, some places maybe more (like if it’s a trail in a city, then parking is usually more costly). But in tons of places it’s just totally free.
My point is that anon thinking he was being used was hilarious.
I get the point about it being a cheap activity in general, but aside from parking, who do pay the money to? Is there like a ticket-booth at the start of some trail which you couldn’t reasonably get to walking from other places?
Some places use an honesty system where you drop money into a box and get a thing to put on your dash. Other places have a gate house or booth where you can pay.
You aren’t forbidden from walking in. It’s usually just not a practical choice. Usually trails are in very remote places so you’d probably walk further than the length of the trail to get to it lol. Other places which are in more urban environments (like a trail through a city or places like Stone Mountain Georgia) might have easy places to park and walk in but it’s technically private property. And again, still usually just extra walking. For things like bike trails this is more viable probably.
The smokey mountains is strictly enforcing parking passes now anywhere without the park. They will tow vehicles and mail you the fee without question if you dont have a pass.
This was in November 2023. It may have just been that day or it may have changed since then.
DrFuggles@feddit.org 4 weeks ago
Yeah, no harm done, but she’d been leading him on for weeks. That’d make me pissed too.
Manifish_Destiny@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Or she genuinely wanted a friend and anon is so attention starved he can’t see the difference.
I wouldn’t want to go back to ahr awkward situation either.
Empricorn@feddit.nl 4 weeks ago
Oh, come on. Weeks of talking and flirting (coworkers agreed) and she never mentioned a boyfriend. To be painfully clear, this isn’t a gender thing and anyone can lead someone else on to stroke their own ego. And that’s what this is (if it happened).
jerkface@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
You only have the incel’s account of things.
jerkface@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
… so badly that you quit your job??
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Why not? I’d return, apologize for the misunderstanding, and then laugh about it. Maybe bring a small gift, like cookies or something to share, and make it clear that you’re looking for friendship.
But completely bailing is kind of weird IMO, which tells me there’s more to the story.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 weeks ago
I don’t necessarily agree she was leading him on. It was a miscommunication. It’s an extremely common story if men misinterpreting women’s behavior as pursuit when it is often just friendly. Even then, platonic flirting is a thing. If anon really intended for this to be a date, why did he at no point ask if she was single? We can sit here all day and debate whether the girl’s “flirting” was appropriate or not and whether she should’ve said she had a boyfriend, but it goes both ways. What we do know is that, to anon, this was a date and that anon never asked if she was single at any point in the two weeks.
erev@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I don’t disagree with you that anon should’ve asked more questions, but platonic flirting is kinda wacky without a well established rapport beforehand. Otherwise it’s just flirting, and can be confusing.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 weeks ago
It’s also confusing being asked somewhere and never being told it’s being treated as a date.
theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 weeks ago
You know you only have his side of this story right?
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Speak for yourself