U tell me
I think it’s 100% reasonable
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Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
no girls who are on dating apps like Tinder
But why tho?
lilsolar@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I’m old and don’t understand. Elucidate me, nerd
unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
You: Dont like Tinder girls because you are sexist and dont like “hoes”.
Me: Dont like Tinder girls because it means they gave all their private data and pictures to a big tech corpo that sells it for profit.
lilsolar@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Based
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Now I’m curious, are there any FOSS dating apps out there? Even as kind of a joke?
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
I know a reasonable girl that wouldn’t use Tinder in the intended way, she just made an account to see how many guys in Delhi would swipe right on her when she enabled a VPN to pretend to be in India. (Lots)
Vilian@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
70% of users from dating após are guys, after no many misses you start getting desesperated to find someone, and India is even worse because it has more man than woman youtu.be/x3lypVnJ0HM
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Yes, I have watched that video. She is pretty and very white and got a match for every right swipe. She never replied to their pick-up lines, making her part of the problem.
TheBat@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The answer was about 500k, I guess?
j4k3@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Makes sense to me, but I’m odd like anon too I guess. I won’t work for places that have an HR department for (likely) similar complex reasoning. I don’t fit the mold or follow the rules like most people in a job. Just give me responsibilities and I’ll be as reliable as if you do them yourself. I don’t handle arbitrary people and bureaucracy well. I just do what makes sense in the moment like a business owner that is very conservative. I ran my own businesses for a long time and act like the employees I wish I had been able to find. When a company has an HR department it says they are inflexible and incompetent in efficiency and abstraction. I know I will be miserable in such a place where layers are used to mask managerial incompetence and political maneuvering.
Similarly, a person that likes to shop around and date a lot says quite a bit about their ethics and mindset. I’ve never used a dating app in my life. All of my long term relationships are from friends of friends. I have no curiosity about who is out there in general or judging people based on their best sales force lies or old pictures. I am only interested in the rare people that say or do something candidly interesting when I am not expecting it; like if someone has a nerdy passionate interest or interesting quark. The average person is not interesting to me, and average people are on dating apps.
Plus, I know what I am, and I do not care to try and sell that to anyone. I would much rather the person at least have some familiarity with me beforehand. Starting off formally of calling it “dating” just sounds silly to me. Like, let’s be friends first for awhile. “Dating” puts sex in play on some kind of level. No one can think straight after that addiction starts. So, friends-first for me, and dating apps are not the kind of environment where I can find nerdy interesting friends without extra baggage and expectations.
shalafi@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Fair question! I’m guessing he views such women as sluts and beneath him.
j4k3@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I adore sluts over or beneath me, far too much so tbh. It is like my weakness, and it battles with my deep need for trust and loyalty. A group of friends used to call me Capt. Save a Hoe. I don’t do well with sifting through a list of people and putting myself out there. I’m not some promiscuous type at all. I am someone that tends to see the best in people and their real potential in unique ways. My rather out of the box perspective on everything in life and the way I care about people in my close social orbit tends to draw and keep potential partners that are not very good for my own needs. I have an enormous number of interests and sort of mold myself within different spaces over time. Many relationships are only effective when I have a limited range of interests and maintain certain patterns. Most of my relationships end when I am constrained from changing like this over a period of years. The ways I change and mold to different curiosities is very introverted and not an aspect I can effectively share. These are times when I need my independence and space while also having a partner open minded and willing to evolve with me. Like if I get back into hardcore cycling, she gets a bike and often comes along doing whatever it takes to rise to the challenge. Not for every ride, but to share the occasional experience. Or let’s say I get into metallurgy and casting again, or airbrushing automotive class graphics, or CAD design projects, or programming games, or robotic cat toys with microcontrollers. The thing is, I need someone that is not just able to flex to me like this, I want someone that is independently doing the same. I want to shape myself to explore with them in their unique and independent interests in any space they are passionate about. It does not matter if it is stereotypically masculine or feminine to me. I have no concern over such marketing nonsense or gendered dichotomy.
So no, it has nothing to do with how I view people on dating apps in some judgemental context. It has everything to do with a known weakness I have. I will commit myself to a cause that is unhealthy for me. I don’t put a lot of thought into myself and my interests in this area. My mind is like a little kid in wonderment at the world around me; drawing in my curiosity so much that I forget to eat. I therefore keep my distance and only take notice when someone stands out for reasons that infer they might be functionally abstracted like I am. I’ve tried other types of people to my detriment and learned that lesson hard.
accideath@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
A reasonable argument would be because oop sees sex as something special and would like a partner that thinks of it the same way.
In reality, oop probably thinks of woman who are on tinder as worthless sluts and doesn’t want a woman with a higher headcount than him because it bruises his ego.
MossyFeathers@pawb.social 2 weeks ago
I too, would be upset if my hypothetical partner had more kills than me. Excuse me, I’m the killing machine here. I’m the one who’s body is designed to rip and tear and glide through the air! You’re making me look lazy.
How dare u!
(I will almost always take the chance to make fun of the act of using “headcount” or “bodycount” to refer to the number of sexual partners someone has had.)
accideath@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I also always use the term a little tongue in cheek
Slovene@feddit.nl 2 weeks ago
Giggity