Same. 100% same.
A friend thought she was edgy to throw rimming in a “never have I ever” as if it defined kink. Awww… Sweetie, that’s cute.
Comment on most perverted men are actually very vanilla and run away when faced with a perverted woman
de_lancre@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Each time this meme is posted I look into comments to search for proofs of those “perverted” woman. Yet to see one. “Uh, I do rimming, that is sooo kinky”. Your “kinks” so uncommon that you can find them in top 10 tags on rule34, focking adorable.
I’ve seen things you people wouldn’t believe
hansolo@lemmy.today 2 days ago
pootzapie@lemmy.world 2 days ago
No shade intended but for my own curiosity what’s like a normal kinky thing or a very kinky thing? Ty
VirtigoMommy@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Kink is weird. There are some things that are considered kinky but aren’t super kinky (biting, feet, degradation/praise, ect) that come natural to me and can be done with anyone if the vibe is right. Then there are kinky kinks that are a little less common and require more trust and familiarity.
Kinky for me is to be tied down and have hot wax poured over me while I’m blindfolded. Or free use / cnc type stuff, being available 24/7 without word at literally anytime to be used as they please. Or ddlg / age regression with a daddy dom that extends outside of the bedroom.
ironycanal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
I’ve never liked CNC. Feels more like masturbation with a safety officer. Prefer those kinds of tools be operated manually.
blarghly@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Kinky for me is to be tied down and have hot wax poured over me while I’m blindfolded. Or free use / cnc type stuff, being available 24/7 without word at literally anytime to be used as they please. Or ddlg / age regression with a daddy dom that extends outside of the bedroom.
Idk, I feel like these are still pretty vanilla. At least as far as the people in this thread are saying “I’m soooo kinky”.
Of course, this is all the societal hedonic treadmill in kink. All kink becomes vanilla eventually. But at this point I feel like it isn’t “real” kink unless it makes me queasy or say “what the fuck?” Like, furries, pet play, shit, piss, vomit, blood, asphyxiation, and sounding are “real” kink to me. Anything that boils down to basically “you’re in charge of me” or “you inflict pain on me” is pretty vanilla.
And then I’ve heard of being set on fire and sensory deprivation, which seems less like a kink and more like a silly experience / party trick
Semester3383@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Shibari is normal for me. That’s just my jam. Not into impact, blood, not super into choking, but can do it more-or-less safely if that’s what my partner enjoys receiving. No shit or piss (technically squirting is mostly pee, but somehow that’s okay). I like tying a partner up, blindfolding them, and then alternating between soft/erotic touch and riding crop/paddle/etc. Or tickling, but that’s one is a bit risky, since I had a partner that nearly dislocated a shoulder straining at the ropes. Feet are meh, biting is okay, wax seems like a pain to clean up.
Had a partner that really wanted to be ‘abducted’ and ‘raped’; never got around to it before we broke up. It would have been risky in a big city, but still…
Chaotic_Altruist@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
Had a girl pull out a full set of knives for “scraping and light cutting”. Never been more scaroused
I’d say three ways are pretty common, but trains and glory holes and the like get pretty kinky imo
Definitely goes much further down the rabbit hole but I’ve not gone that deep
titanicx@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
scaroused
Fuck I’m using that term from now on. One of my girls loves knife play, and, well so much more.
hansolo@lemmy.today 2 days ago
Normal kinky is whatever you like that’s a step or two beyond vanilla missionary stuff. Intentional, deliberate stuff that requires a bit of trust. Or, at least, willingness to try something. Could be rimming or other butt stuff. Could be dressing up or light role play. Dirty talk. Threesomes. Spanking. Things like that. Things that most couples might try one or twice to satisfy curiosity.
Very kinky requires a lot of trust. Bondage. Knives. Group situations. Hugely demeaning public stunts. Glory holes. It’s consensual teamwork toward a deep, psychological goal.
Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
If your kind has more then 100 entries on e621 you ain’t depraved enough!
basxto@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
What if I drew them all myself?
de_lancre@lemmy.world 1 day ago
To be fair and to not look absolutely deranged: I do understand that it’s not a competition.
If you like vanilla or popular stuff — good for you, no kink shaming. It’s just that I’m a perverted male and I’m not scared by hypothetical “perverted woman”, cause I yet to see one that outkink me (albeit, in answers to my initial comment there some potential one, I’ll admit).
So meme kinda doesn’t make sense and doesn’t work for me. That the whole point.
VirtigoMommy@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
I mean if they bulk at timing doubt they’re going to be excited to chase me through the woods 🙄
Warl0k3@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Polite cough.
ironycanal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
My first date was to Folsom street fair and I lived in a sex dungeon for two years. There aren’t names for the things that get me off. I was asked, after the best orgasm of my life, ‘was that sex?’
forkDestroyer@infosec.pub 2 days ago
How did those 2 years go? Was it with health insurance and a good salary, or was it more of an after job thing?
ironycanal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Started off in desperation and affinity. Ended up hourly. I got real good with bleach.