VirtigoMommy

@VirtigoMommy@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I Got This Right, Right?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean yeah, stigmatizing an entire group of people over their shared mental illnesses, illnesses usually brought on by severe childhood neglect and trauma, just because there are there are vile public figures or people you may know personally that also fit the description definitely rubs me the wrong way. 

  Don’t get me wrong, there are loads of horrible people with cluster b disorders, just like there are loads without. The bad ones should absolutely be called out for their shitty behaviors, but the readiness to villainize people over a general description doesn’t help anything but your own ego and only ostracizes the ones that actually do take accountability. 

  I’m sure you could guess but I have a cluster b disorder myself (bpd) and the way the media portrays us, doctors brush off and ignore us seeking help, and the way people just LOVE to group all of us in with the worst of them is draining and damaging to those of us who genuinely just want help, try to do good for those around them, and are just trying to live their lives in peace.

  Hatred is hatred, replace the words “cluster b” with “trans folk” or “black people” and you might see what I’m talking about. Instead of beating down on these shit politicians for having mental illnesses, maybe beat down on them for being the fascists they are.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I Got This Right, Right?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No, no I don’t say that. Just like I don’t assume everyone with adhd is going to yell “squirrel” in the middle of a sentence.

  It’s belittling and ableist to presume having a cluster b disorder precludes someone from being able to partake in acts of personal accountability.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I Got This Right, Right?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You know there’s more to cluster b than just narcissism right?

  Not everyone with a cluster b disorder is incapable of admitting fault.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tender moments⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I see an Altima, I give them their space. Not trying to have my car missing a bumper too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Similarly, what counts as a date?

  If I get a bottle of wine, make dinner with and get cozy on the couch with my best friend… is that a date? Or are we just hanging out? What if we kiss?

  I feel like it comes down to intent, and if that intent is shared and understood. Which is why communication is so important in any relationship.

  I tend to take my friendships as seriously as my romantic relationships, because, often there is no tangible difference.

  I’ve had so’s that were asexual, I’ve had friends I fucked but never “dated”. I’m still friends with most of my ex’s. Sex is sex but the relationship depends on how you define it between the two of you. A label is a label, what matters is that both people feel comfortable with the dynamic and are on the same page as far as what the relationship actually is.

  Love comes in a myriad of forms and can evolve overtime, so often living in that grey area. Getting bogged down in trying to label and define what something is or isn’t will just make you rigid when reality comes and you’re in that grey area.

  A poster above responded with something about building into a common future which also helps differentiate but can’t really be used as a hard line. I’m actively working into a common future with my best friend and partner but I’m only dating one of them. Devotion, trust, respect, vulnerablity, consistency, and common morals/boundaries seem to be the things I look for when i’m looking at someone I’m considering to be a partner.