All dads I know including myself are the opposite. They do all the shopping and wrapping.
Comment on True of mine but he more than made up for it
squirrel@piefed.kobel.fyi 10 months ago
Are dads still like that? The young dads I know are pretty involved in their children’s lives
Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world 10 months ago
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
Yep, dad here, can confirm and get tired of these tired old jokes. Such a boomer joke
kn0wmad1c@programming.dev 10 months ago
I wrapped for two different families, including mine, this year. My wife works super hard, and this is something I can do to help.
shalafi@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I am in this exact situation. Very little idea what’s under the tree.
Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 10 months ago
My wife did basically all the shopping and wrapping.
But i drove across the state christmas eve to pick up the kitten and hid it for hours. And built all the things that needed to be assembled. I was up til about one while she was in bed by 9. Then the stuff that wasnt from santa was built today.
Each parent doesnt need to be involved in everything to still be involved.
prettybunnys@piefed.social 10 months ago
hid it for hours
Sounds like pure hell ;)
metallic_z3r0@infosec.pub 10 months ago
My wife did the shopping for some of the bigger ticket stuff, I did the stocking stuff (which included some fun toys), I did most of the wrapping but it probably would’ve been more even split if she didn’t have a chronic disease sapping her energy.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 10 months ago
I feel like people assume parenting is everyone is doing everything.
As a dad, I cook and clean. I wash dishes. I organize.
My wife wash clothes, fixes things around the house, and shops for goods.
So yeah, she buys all the presents, because she loves doing it. I’m making Christmas breakfast and dinner, because that’s my thing. We can do both.
prettybunnys@piefed.social 10 months ago
LadyButterfly has been hurt and does not like men.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 months ago
I love men! In many ways I prefer them because I find them more straight forwards than women. Of the 3 people I trust the most, 2 of them are men.
Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world 10 months ago
MITM0@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Oh righty this, yeah the “Emotional labour” BS. She’s actually a pretty popular man-hater
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I can’t tell if she’s being sarcastic. That could be some, “I have a black friend” reference.
prettybunnys@piefed.social 10 months ago
You make it so obvious how much you love them.
khannie@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I did basically all the gift shopping this year and set up all the Santa stuff with the help of one of my older kids as my wife was knackered yesterday.
Other years my wife has done the bulk of the shopping and we usually do the setup together. There’s no structure to who does the shopping I suppose, it’s more whoever has the time or energy any given year.
prettybunnys@piefed.social 10 months ago
Some people are like that.
sparkles@piefed.zip 10 months ago
Yeah my ex came over for 30 minutes to watch the unwrapping and took one bag of trash with him on the way out the door. I did absolutely everything else.
bricklove@midwest.social 10 months ago
Makes sense that he’s your ex
sparkles@piefed.zip 10 months ago
Oh absolutely, lol. Ten years and nothing has changed. Good news is the kiddo is understanding this is not how we should treat those we say we love, hence I doubt he will get too many more invites.
then_three_more@lemmy.world 10 months ago
You’ve done great leaving it to the kid to decide if and when they want to reduce / stop contact.
fascicle@leminal.space 10 months ago
Theres millions of people so theres bound to be all kinds
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
dad bad is the new wife bad.
MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world 10 months ago
ahem
semperverus@lemmy.world 10 months ago
No. Bad.
🩴
MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world 10 months ago
No, I mean it’s my father who is like that, not me
MissJinx@lemmy.world 10 months ago
My brother goes with my sil to do the shopping and goes out of his way to find the things he knows my nieces love. This year was frozen and kpop deamon hunters
douglasg14b@lemmy.world 10 months ago
My wife went out Christmas shopping while I took my toddler to go play in the snow.
Separating responsibilities is functional, I don’t understand the negatives here.
HazardousBanjo@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I think its more referencing the dads who are entirely uninvolved untrained the their kids lives whatsoever to the point they don’t even participate in any Christmas planning or prep for the family.
Not your specific situation.