Yeah. It turns out a bunch of tech obsessed nerds aren’t the most socially well adjusted.
Reddit is even better than this.
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Leomas@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
The comments on here make me glad I’m aromantic.
GeneralEmergency@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
As a lesbian leaning pansexual, I keep asking the question “are straights okay”
damnedfurry@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
If I linked to the data showing that f/f couples have higher domestic violence than either m/f or m/m couples and then said ‘I keep asking “are lesbians okay”’, would you not think that a callous and insensitive thing to say?
BananaIsABerry@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Marginalized groups have no problem acting in the exact way they expect others not to about them.
stevedice@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Then I would tell you’re not original, we’ve all seen that “data” and it doesn’t say what you think it says so you can’t read. I’d also remind you reactions like that are why you’re single.
damnedfurry@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Then I would tell you you’re not original
Is this a bad time to point out that “are the lesbians okay” yields a paltry 172 results on Google (and on top of that, the first page of results is mostly not people using it the way the hypothetical in my analogy does)?
Seems much more original than most things you can find online, objectively speaking.
“data”
Poisoning the well. State what makes it illegitimate, with specificity, if you can.
it doesn’t say what you think it says so you can’t read.
Even if I did misinterpret any given source of information, calling me illiterate for doing so is comically over-the-top cruel. For shame.
I’d also remind you reactions like that are why you’re single.
The person I just celebrated an anniversary with would be very amused to read this. And like me, she’d recognize
Anyway, if you’d like to at least pretend to be someone who’s interested in more than creating an illiterate unlovable strawman to insult for your own ego’s sake, here is my response to a far less caustic retort.
Manticore@lemmy.nz 5 weeks ago
I know the study you mean and you’re misrepresenting it. It asks people who identify as lesbian whether they have experienced domestic abuse at all, and concludes they’re more likely to than straight women.
But remember lesbians often date men before coming out. When asking whether the perpetrator was male or female and separating the data, the stats shifted. Lesbians experienced less DV from their female partners than straight women do from their male ones.
Women are also capable of abuse of course, but a large amount of the DV lesbians received was still from men.
damnedfurry@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
But that alone doesnt say who is doing the abuse. Remember lesbians often date men before coming out.
Short version: They certainly aren’t more likely to have dated men than the female demographic that dates exclusively men, and also reports a much lower domestic violence incidence than them. The above absolutely does not hold water as refutation.
Long version:
Even if we assumed the following for the sake of argument:
- X% of men are abusers
- zero women are abusers
- 100% of lesbians have dated men at some point
- The lesbians have the exact same number of male partners on average as women who have had exclusively male partners
Then in aggregate, the abuse incidence between hetero women and lesbians would be effectively equal.
However, in reality, 2 is obviously more than zero, 3 is obviously less than 100%, and re 4, lesbians obviously have fewer male partners on average than hetero women. And all three of those facts push the incidence rate of DV for the lesbians up to be higher than that of women who have only ever dated men, without there being any change in how many male abusers there are.
When asking whether the perpetrator was male or female and separating the data, the stats shifted. Lesbians experienced less DV from their female partners than straight women do from their male ones.
Got a link for that?
Women are also capable of abuse of course
That’s arguably a significant understatement, according to this study:
AntiOutsideAktion@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
I am a straight and look how not okay I am
Leomas@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
No, they are not. (As a straight person by most definitions probably)
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
Does that mean you get turned on by smelly stuff?
ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
No that’s automatic. They mean antioxidant.
TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I enjoy working and making things. I find being intellectually stimulated almost as satisfying as being happy or anything else. You have absolutely no idea how much of a super power being an aromatic asexual would be for me. I’d be unstoppable, lol.
Leomas@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I think I know what you’re getting at, I wouldn’t necessarily call myself asexual though, as I do watch… naughty things (I’m too lazy to look up rules, I’m not shy in that respect) I just waste a lot of time getting informed on politics instead, so no guarantees for more free time😉
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
That does make you on the asexual spectrum. You ARE asexual.
Leomas@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I would tend to agree, I’m just not really interested in discussion definitions and I think argueing I’m not aromantic is hard (except my family of course).
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 5 weeks ago
Welcome to being Greysexual, my friend!
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
My wife identifies as this. It really suits them. They do experience sexual arousal, but it’s rare, though it’s not repulsive either.
smeenz@lemmy.nz 5 weeks ago
I misread that as aromatic and was quite confused.
Leomas@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Look, I might be a bit aromatic sometimes, but no, that’s not what I meant.
bitjunkie@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
They reproduce by spreading spores like Rob Lowe’s character on The Orville
JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
“Glad I smell good reading this”