damnedfurry
@damnedfurry@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
This is 10x more aligned with the smug condescension of the “Reddit” stereotype than anything I’ve ever written. You’re projecting.
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
Concession accepted.
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
your dumb misinterpreted study has been posted and debunked to hell and back.
- Show me the alleged debunking. Claiming it exists while seething at me is not convincing. If it’s the same argument made by that other person, I already broke it down and showed how it doesn’t hold water, so make sure not to repeat it.
- Actually, now that I think about it, it’s ironically you that can’t read by your definition of literacy, because you failed to understand that it was a hypothetical analogy to begin with, that works just fine even if said study didn’t even exist in the first place. The actual point all along is that it’s wrong, morally and practically, to generalize that way about the entirety of any demographic.
But it seems all you’ve demonstrated proficiency in is slinging clumsy, unoriginal (more irony!) barbs.
And you’re also delusional. I’m not surprised.
You know what’s extra ironic about your reply? It was literally my partner getting my attention for a moment that broke my train of thought and resulted in me not completing that sentence. Of course, now it’s best not to fix it until after I share this exchange with her, it’ll make her reading this part extra amusing. :)
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
Then I would tell you you’re not original
Is this a bad time to point out that “are the lesbians okay” yields a paltry 172 results on Google (and on top of that, the first page of results is mostly not people using it the way the hypothetical in my analogy does)?
Seems much more original than most things you can find online, objectively speaking.
“data”
Poisoning the well. State what makes it illegitimate, with specificity, if you can.
it doesn’t say what you think it says so you can’t read.
Even if I did misinterpret any given source of information, calling me illiterate for doing so is comically over-the-top cruel. For shame.
I’d also remind you reactions like that are why you’re single.
The person I just celebrated an anniversary with would be very amused to read this. And like me, she’d recognize
Anyway, if you’d like to at least pretend to be someone who’s interested in more than creating an illiterate unlovable strawman to insult for your own ego’s sake, here is my response to a far less caustic retort.
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
But that alone doesnt say who is doing the abuse. Remember lesbians often date men before coming out.
Short version: They certainly aren’t more likely to have dated men than the female demographic that dates exclusively men, and also reports a much lower domestic violence incidence than them. The above absolutely does not hold water as refutation.
Long version:
Even if we assumed the following for the sake of argument:
- X% of men are abusers
- zero women are abusers
- 100% of lesbians have dated men at some point
- The lesbians have the exact same number of male partners on average as women who have had exclusively male partners
Then in aggregate, the abuse incidence between hetero women and lesbians would be effectively equal.
However, in reality, 2 is obviously more than zero, 3 is obviously less than 100%, and re 4, lesbians obviously have fewer male partners on average than hetero women. And all three of those facts push the incidence rate of DV for the lesbians up to be higher than that of women who have only ever dated men, without there being any change in how many male abusers there are.
When asking whether the perpetrator was male or female and separating the data, the stats shifted. Lesbians experienced less DV from their female partners than straight women do from their male ones.
Got a link for that?
Women are also capable of abuse of course
That’s arguably a significant understatement, according to this study:
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 1 week ago:
If I linked to the data showing that f/f couples have higher domestic violence than either m/f or m/m couples and then said ‘I keep asking “are lesbians okay”’, would you not think that a callous and insensitive thing to say?
- Comment on The existence of billionaires is a policy failure 3 weeks ago:
The downvoters almost certainly didn’t even make it to the end of the comment before they clicked the down arrow and resumed scrolling. The last sentence made it 10x more obvious, imo.
- Comment on Linux gamers on Steam finally cross over the 3% mark 5 weeks ago:
The vast majority of the increase, is what I said. In other words, I’m saying it wouldn’t be nearly at the 3% mark without those users, and with over a quarter of all Linux users coming from the Steam Deck userbase, that is, in fact, true.
- Comment on Linux gamers on Steam finally cross over the 3% mark 5 weeks ago:
Just boot the computer, choose which DE you want to install
Yeah, that’s not at all accessible to the average consumer; they don’t know what a “DE” even is, much less why they should choose any over any other.
Very, very few people want to deal with something other than a ‘just works’ situation.
- Comment on Linux gamers on Steam finally cross over the 3% mark 5 weeks ago:
I think it will continue to rise. People are updating their rigs all the time. Whenever they update their rig they’ll have to ask themselves whether they want to continue with Windows on their new rig, or try with something new.
The vast majority of this increase is from people playing on Steam Decks, which run on Linux, not from people switching to Linux on their PCs.
If it continues to rise, this is the reason. The general public is less and less into using a desktop at all as time goes on, much less running, and much less changing to, an extremely niche operating system on one.
- Comment on Get over yourself 5 weeks ago:
Don’t like to think about things, do you? You just comment.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
I repeat the oblivious words of someone projecting their own thoughtlessness onto another, as well-deserved mockery of their foolishness.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
Don’t like to think about things, do you? You just comment.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
- “Actively trying to avoid looking gay, is fucking gay.” is not a joke.
- That’s actually not really true. A lot of great comedy is born from the ‘dissection’ of previous comedy, understanding how/why it was so effective. Analysis isn’t destructive.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
Don’t like to think about things, do you? You just comment.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
Don’t like to think about things, do you? You just comment.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
Extremely ironic thing to say, considering you’re the one actively failing to follow your own line of thinking.
Why does it make you so uncomfortable to be asked a simple question that directly follows from your own words? Ironically, your decision to insult me instead of simply answering the question “screams insecurity”.
Also ironically, you’ve almost certainly put zero thought into how statements like that are fundamentally homophobic; they indirectly perpetuate stereotypes about how gay people act.
Perhaps think about that, instead of projecting your thoughtlessness onto others.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
Trying your best to not look gay just makes you look closeted.
Only to those who’ve already made assumptions about that person.
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
So, insecurity is gay?
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
How do you figure?
- Comment on Get over yourself 1 month ago:
This is the original article the bitly link points to:
psmag.com/…/how-gender-stereotypes-affect-pro-env…
I see nowhere in there talking about anyone actually ‘avoiding green behavior to avoid being considered gay’, in real life.
The studies mentioned are surveys of hypothetical people, and its conclusion is something that’s already known and obvious: the more things you do that are associated with the stereotype of the sex you aren’t, the more likely it is that the average person will assume you are gay.
The only distinction is that they were looking only at how ‘acts of environmentalism’ are stereotypically aligned with femininity, but the above is true of literally everything that’s stereotypically aligned with either femininity or masculinity.
This post is disingenuous tripe.
- Comment on Oh no my harvest is too bountiful 1 month ago:
cis he/him
insert ‘I’m gonna pre’ compilation
- Comment on Anon is a comedian 2 months ago:
Some of my favorites:
I came from a real tough neighborhood. Why, every time I shut the window I hurt somebody’s fingers.
I’m not a hypochondriac, but my gynecologist firmly believes I am.
My mother, she never breastfed me. She told me she liked me as a friend.
Nothing goes right. I joined Gamblers Anonymous. They gave me two-to-one I don’t make it.
- Comment on Microsoft doing shady Microsoft stuff again 2 months ago:
I’ve been using Firefox for over a decade, and Windows has never complained about it. What are you talking about?
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 months ago:
were those numbers perhaps cherry-picked to make the situation look more dramatic than it actually is?
If anyone can go from 554th to 5th in any sport/event just by competing among the other sex, nothing else changing, then that obviously indicates something. You can’t handwave that away.
Her personal 100m freestyle time dropping less than a quarter of a second post-transition is honestly a bigger indicator that transition is not making a substantial difference, because that angle completely removes the ‘chance’ element in your opponents being different people.
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 months ago:
The very fact that their ranking is lower than what it should be is an issue in and of itself, your disingenuous mockery notwithstanding.
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 months ago:
The question is fair, but so very few people are affected, who cares?
The vast majority of people are never murdered, either. But I’m sure it matters to them and their loved ones.
It’s an extreme example for the analogy, but the point stands: it doesn’t follow that a bad thing being rare makes it less bad. This is not a valid argument against.
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 months ago:
My understanding is that there is absolutely no evidence that trans women have an advantage.
Going from 554th place pre-transition to 5th place post-transition doesn’t line up with that claim.
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 3 months ago:
The fact that the University of Pennsylvania swimmer [Lia Thomas] soared from a mid-500s ranking (554th in the 200 freestyle; all divisions) in men’s competition to one of the top-ranked swimmers in women’s competition tells the story
In the 100 freestyle, Thomas’ best time prior to her transition was 47.15. At the NCAA Championships, she posted a prelims time in the event of 47.37. That time reflects minimal mitigation of her male-puberty advantage.
During the last season Thomas competed as a member of the Penn men’s team, which was 2018-19, she ranked 554th in the 200 freestyle, 65th in the 500 freestyle and 32nd in the 1650 freestyle. As her career at Penn wrapped, she moved to fifth, first and eighth in those respective events on the women’s deck.
It may not be an issue to you, but it’s an issue to every woman whose ranking is lower as a result. I imagine it especially hurts if you’re pushed out of first place in that way.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 3 months ago:
Incel implies a level of indoctrination into a misogynistic POV
No one is thinking this deeply when they call a man who just said/did something they don’t like an “incel”. People just use it mindlessly as an insult, same as with “virgin”.