depression is quite normal nowadays (unfortanate)
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stevedice@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I find it slightly amusing and very unsettling how many of 4chan greentexts are basically
> I have severe depression
protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 hours ago
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 day ago
I get the impression that in a lot of countries, therapy is pretty hard to access.
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 1 day ago
“Now that you’ve been on these pills for 3 months, do you feel better? No? Ok, try this one instead for 3 months and see if things change.”
Motherfucker, that’s time. You are prescribing time.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 day ago
TBF, antidepressants really are trial and error. Plus they can have pretty severe side effects. Some antidepressant are literally prescribed as sleep aids …
Flickerby@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Yeah this quite literally how I found the anti depression meds that actually worked for me. It took fucking years of trial and error but that’s the rub.
SlurpingPus@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
Worse even, apparently some meds can stop working after the person tries other ones. At least, this happened for David Foster Wallace.
Damage@feddit.it 1 day ago
When I went to the psychiatrist (it’s free in my country, psychologist isn’t), it was: “oh cool the pills worked, you can quit now.”. The vibe I felt in the air was like “yeah well you can cope, we’ve got to take care of those who are worse off, sry.”
slaacaa@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Exactly
go to psychologist
yakko@feddit.uk 1 day ago
Goo straight to therapy, do not pass 4chan, do not collect far right propaganda
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 day ago
TBH I’ve been to psychologists. I suppose the medication worked somewhat, but the talk therapy part? Meh. Though TBF I’m not the kind of depressed where you basically function and even have a social life but just aren’t happy (like the original OP), my life legitimately sucks in a lot of ways that aren’t easy to change.
sean_lemmy@sh.itjust.works 21 hours ago
Yeah, I’ve been there. Therapist says something like exercise and to take deep breaths.
While I’m getting yelled at by people for crap wages daily 😢
Had one guy just tell me to buy a book which essentially “You’re outlook is too negative”
You know what actually cured 80% of my depression? Getting a job that isn’t crap.
Turns out if you get paid well enough and are not in a hostile environment for 40 hours weekly your mental health greatly improves 🤷
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 21 hours ago
This is something I think UBI could help with, at least a form that allows you to survive without working. Being able to quit without worrying how you’ll make rent is super empowering and is something therapy can’t provide.
This wouldn’t work for everyone, but I think there’s a good chance overall productivity would improve if people felt like that instead of terriified of losing a job. Maybe then people would stand up for problems they see instead of hiding it so it’s someone else’s problem.
Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 20 hours ago
You had a crap therapist too if i may say so. I’m sorry that happened and happy that you are in a better place now!
I worked in costumer service for many years and was yelled at a lot, just like you. You know what my therapist said?
He said (paraphrased): “I can’t understand how these people dare treat another human being like that. Your anger about what happened is completely justified. Lets work on what we can do to improve your situation.”
We talked a lot about how to distance yourself from the situation while it happens, to not be afraid to tell people to stop yelling if that doesn’t work, rationalizing fears related to job loss, healthy ways to express aggression to vent without hurting yourself. That’s what a therapist should do, not tell you to grow a thicker hide (that is what will kill you in the long run if you are so detached from your feelings that you get completely overwhelmed if that fails even once).
I agree with @sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works that in the long run UBI will be needed to help with that - the way it goes currently means sooner or later there will be more people without jobs than with jobs, and if we don’t want the guillotines to come up (we are well on the way to that, since it becomes more and more mainstream to openly talk about stuff like that), it will be necessary to ensure a worthwhile life for the people who are not needed in classic jobs to create value, so they can create whatever they want without fear.
slaacaa@lemmy.world 1 day ago
For me, cognitive behavioral therapy really helped a lot with my anxiety, but I needed to find a certified psychotherapist for that (I live in EU). I talked a lot with a psychologist before, but that was only midly helpful. CBT brought a lot of structure to the whole thing, and I quickly improved.
I was very sceptical, but now I’m impressed. It’s not like I gaslight myself and pretend my life is perfect, but I ended up seeing my difficulties in a more balanced view.
Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
My dr calls it "major depressive disorder with borderline personality disorder and generalized anxiety disorder " but that dudes hiding in the closet with a wife at home. So you tell me, whose really fucked up here?
umbrella@lemmy.ml 19 hours ago
or
> i am unmedicated neurodivergent
protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 hours ago
neurodivergent != need to be medicated
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 hours ago
That’s just depression with extra steps!
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 hours ago
Me too, thanks.