Comment on When the nice guy
theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Surprise anyone who calls themselves a “nice guy” was never actually nice.
What else would I call myself? I mean, if someone says “hey, what type of guy are you?” Am I supposed to dance around the word “nice” because someone coined a social media buzzword for it mean “guy who thinks hes owed a blow job for holding a door open”?
So now when someone asks: “What type of guy are you?” and you just stick the nikes on and:
My 7th grade English teacher didn’t let our class use the word “nice.” She considered it a lazy word, one easily replaceable by a variety of adjectives without any meaning being lost. Every time we thought to use the word “nice,” we were challenged to explore our vocabulary and come up with something more fitting and descriptive.
Therefore, the argument that there is no better word to describe one’s self than “nice” is weak. English is a rich language full of diverse vocabulary, much of which carries more powerful meanings than “nice.” If 12 year olds could do it, I’m sure you could too.
Ill take things that didnt happen for 1000, Alex…
But lets role play this, and see if we can say something other than “nice” that doesnt make the person look like a fucking prick that sniffs their own farts.
“What type of guy are you?”
“I am a debonair guy!” = A prick.
“I am a winsome guy!” = A prick that will buy you lunch.
“I am a Pulchritudinous guy!” = A prick that doesnt just huff his own farts, but expects you to huff them as well directedly from his arsehole while he fucks your sister.
“I am an Amiable guy.” = Not a prick, but a push over. And you will treat him like hes a prick.
“I am a Blandishing guy!” = A prick that says nice things.
Using these words over “nice”, clouds the meaning rather than clarifying it. It tells me the person Im speaking to values impression over clarity of communication, and instead of conveying honesty, tells me they wish to project that they are superior. Its performance. Vain theatre that confuses style with substance. And ultimately tells me that the person isnt being honest about who they are or what they want from me.
Or to put it another way, if “I pride myself on possessing an innately benignant disposition. A temperament both debonair and complaisant, such that those acquainted with my congenial sensibilities frequently remark upon the winsome, even pulchritudinous, quality of my gracious interactions, which, I daresay, are nothing short of blandishing in their amiable intent.” is preferable to you than “Im a nice guy.”. Then you are fucking weird as fuck. Or should I say, “One cannot help but observe that your existential frequency oscillates at such an aberrantly non-Euclidean register of comportment that the very geometry of ordinary human temperament appears to bend, quiver, and ultimately collapse beneath the centrifugal absurdity of your personhood.”.
Ill take being direct and simple over being a performative prick any of the day of the week.
“I’ll take being direct and simple”, proceeds to overexplain point to the point of absurdity.
But also have you ever had a real conversation? What context would you be saying, “I’m a nice guy” and not be able to give any elaboration?
Also also calling yourself nice is kinda sketch anyway. Obviously you wouldn’t call yourself a dick if you weren’t one; so either you’re lying, oblivious or think the other person isn’t able to form an accurate opinion of you themselves (these aren’t exclusive). Nice is a word best used to describe someone else.
Fine! Consider me a gentleman.
My english teacher did the same this about the verb “to be” or “is”. If you used it you lost a grade off your paper. He was and probably still is a bit of an ass.
If you’re legitimately worried about someone asking you that exact question (which is sort of an odd phrasing, I don’t think it would happen often) and you’re worried it would be done by people who don’t know you well, just talk about a hobby or something.
Or, and hear me out, we could just not assume that some saying they are nice is a cunt because social media turned into it a clickable buzzword? Judge people by their actions, not whatever dogshit you were told was a red flag by some sad pathetic loser who does nothing all day but hate everything and anyone.
“Hes a nice guy!” is something people often say about others. Its not a trick, its a not a trap, and its not code for cunt. If someone is a cunt, just call them a cunt. Its easy.
The more you comment the more you sound like a nice guy.
Don’t worry I don’t think you’re a cunt because you describe yourself as nice. It’s because you’re acting like a cunt.
What type of guy are you?
I’m an averaged dude.
Yo you must be a pretty cool guy. Even in the darkest timeline you’re still averaged. (/~s does this work as an anti-sarcasm marker? Was worried that sounded sarcastic, it markedly was not)
I just say that I’m the worst.
hey, what type of guy are you?
I’ve never been asked that question without some context like food or music. I don’t know why anyone would ask that in a sense of “are you a nice guy or an asshole?” There’s just no way to be sure you’re getting a useful answer: many people think of themselves as nice, some have self-esteem issues and put themselves down instead and very few are actually genuine assholes and unashamed to admit as much.
So if someone were to ask me that without context? I’d respond “what do you mean?”
turdcollector69@lemmy.world 2 months ago
They always say shit like “at least I don’t hit her” or “at least I’m not an alcoholic” while missing that those qualities are a given.
I think it’s a form of narcissism where they can’t handle that their personality is shitty so they project it into the world. They have to use outlandish examples because they’re not such hot catches themselves.