Light and easy are well tolerated by my older clients.
Comment on Discussion Thread đ¨ Monday 16 June 2025
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Olâ girl goes in for her colectomy tm. In for a week +.
Bit worried about the recovery as she weighs bugger all. Definitely not going in in the best of shapes. Iâve locked horns w/ the olâ boy way too many times but the main thing is food.
Dude canât cook and that will be a problem.
How the fuck you can go through life and best you can do is a crumpet or overdone steak is beyond me. Hasnât even tried once.
I understand that generation is a bit different w/ gender roles etc. but following a recipe isnât exactly hard.
Ffs, drop the âitâs a womans jobâ shit mentality and learn. Seriously stuck in the 1950âs.
Thanks for reading my rant.
Eagle@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
just_kitten@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
10/10 rant except for the part where it is a very real problem đ the dickhead husband of my favourite aunt is a bit like this - he can cook some very basic meals and a couple of overspiced dishes. But it doesnât matter how sick his wife is, he cooks when he feels like it (esp if there are guests to show off to), but she is expected to always cook. Really grinds my gears. Your old man might need a bit of a slap in the face about the reality of the situationâŚ
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
get lots of ready made frozen meals
call Meals on Wheels
then let him fend for himself
of course the worry will be he will expect Olâ Girl to cook once sheâs back home
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
expect Olâ Girl to cook
Yep.
The problem is she can only eat soup, which he wonât eat. Expecting her to cook 2 different things in recovery is just not reasonable. She wants to be seen that sheâs cooking (as weird as that sounds) but sheâs increasingly making poor decisions in the kitchen.
The expectation that she cooks for him has been there for decades and itâs pretty much dangerous now (hot liquids / poor eyesight / weak etc.).
Made a whole bunch in the last few days so sheâll be fine. Just pisses me off there hasnât been an effort by olâ boy.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Is it possible that she could stay with someone during her recovery from major surgery and/or palliative care to protect her from this?
This is really not a safe or reasonable expectation - especially if heâs able bodied and simply considers the job beneath him.
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
I went through similar stuff with my parents and I do remember a dr explaining to me that people that age are unlikely to change their ways (probably after Iâd expressed frustration about the situation), which was very hard to get my head around.
Could you stock the house up with microwaveable soups and meal packs (thereâs a few companies that deliver). Hospitals also have social workers who can help, although if your dad is in the medical field I suspect heâd be resistant to âbeing told what to doâ. Mine definitely was.
Could you enlist one of his mates or a rellie to have a quiet word? Or could your mum spend a bit of recovery time in a rehab place, if thatâs an option?
I reckon youâre across all these things but just putting them out there. Sending healing thoughts for your mum and hugs for you - itâs such a difficult situation.
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Arenât those meal kit boxes pretty simple? Helofresh
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
The kit is fine. The problem here is actually turning the kit into food. Hot liquids, stove elements etc. suck a big one when vision/balance/grip strength is impaired. Remembering my mother when she started her final decline - all the elbows of her cardies were burned through where sheâd brushed them too close to the stove element ⌠it amazed us all that she didnât get seriously burned but that was the point where she had to go into residential care to keep her away from the stove.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨days⊠ago
Theyâre not really that simple, they do the planning and provide the ingredients but there is still a lot of actual cooking and chopping involved. They also donât do single meals, so you either need to work out how to divide it over a couple of nights cooking or have a lot of leftovers.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Local council might have assistance available - especially if itâs only for meals. If moneyâs no object, then hiring someone to come in and cook every couple of days might be a useful way to deal with this.