My mum often wonders why she has barely a relationship with any of her 5 kids, of which I’m the youngest. However, her eldest is on life support with a couple of days left and she’s already declared that she won’t be going to the funeral because “you don’t know how much she’s hurt me!” (yes, I do, now grow the fuck up)
Similar to dumblederp, I saw what my siblings and I went through and decided that along with the fact that I was born without a maternal bone in my body, I wasn’t going to risk raising kids and turning out like my parents.
Sorry, not the answer, but also an opportunity to trauma dump.
dumblederp@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I did not have kids because of my relationship with my parents. I knew this when I was a kid myself.
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Agreed and same. Knew I didn’t want kids when I was in kindergarten and that never changed. I can’t even say it’s because of my parents, because they were good for the first 10yrs of my life, but it just never interested me.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Interesting. I saw it more as a drive to not F up myself. I know how it could be if I shit the bed, and the damage it can cause.