Also if every woman and or man would be like this it wouldnt be special and you wouldnt look up to it soo… yeah
I eat food every day, but there are also plenty of meals I’ll remember fondly and think of as special.
I like hosting dinner parties where I cook for my friends and family. I can assure you that even though I do this for a lot of loved ones, they generally still appreciate each dinner I make. It is still perceived fundamentally differently from a commercial transaction (like buying takeout from a licensed restaurant).
It doesn’t just apply to food, either. Sometimes it feels good to have someone do something for you, where the exclusivity or rarity of that act doesn’t even factor into whether it feels meaningful.
So no, your hypothesis of “if everyone was fucking all the time, fucking wouldn’t feel special” doesn’t seem to hold up in comparison to other things in life.
JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days ago
A relationship is not special because you fuck. It is special because you’re with a person you mesh well with. No amount of fucking will save a relationship that is not built on mutual compatibility.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Right, and someone with >100 partners kinda outs themselves as rubber either incapable of or uninterested in a stable relationship.
RBWells@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
I mean, it depends on how old you are, right? I did a 22 year monogamous stretch, but before that and between that and my husband now (10 years so far monogamous) got around some & had fun, my # would doubtless be shocking to many if I could even figure it out but it doesn’t mean I can’t be in a stable relationship, I was before and am now too. Husband similar story.
Some of us can enjoy recreational sex and also enjoy committed relationships.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 18 hours ago
Oh sure. I’m just saying that most people with a ton of partners probably aren’t interested in settling into a commited relationship. There are always exceptions.
JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days ago
Nah. Knowing that someone has fucked 100 people, what this 4chan user is talking about, just tells you that that person does not view sex and relationships as a single thing.
You only get a body count that high by doing one-offs, where you are just looking for sex and aren’t trying to turn it into a relationship. That tells you nothing about how good a partner they will be once they actually enter one.
This assumption that sex should only happen between partners in a relationship is exactly why people jump into self-destructing relationships instead of waiting for a person they actually vibe with.
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
Yeah thats what im saying. A relationship is both physical and emotional(for me at least). Theres a reason why most couples move in together, sleep together, etc. Youre not just fucking the person but their soul as well(literally what my english teacher said💀, but i agree).
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Right. You can have all of one without the other, or you can have a mix of both. Someone with >100 partners is communicating that they’re probably more interested in a physical relationship than a deep emotional one.
SmoothOperator@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Or maybe they’re perfectly capable of a stable relationship, they just also enjoy casual sex. Maybe even at the same time in a non-monogamous context.