Comment on HELP! How do I help educate my son about his body when I know nothing about boys??

• LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  It does happen. Had a woman poke holes in all of the condoms in my nightstand when I was 18. She later admitted she thought I was going to leave her because I was going to a University and she was going to the state college. I’m sure it is rare that such happens, but I wouldn’t fully dismiss it. I was paranoid after that and always went to the bathroom after and filled the condom with water to make sure they hadn’t broke or had a hole in them after sex. It wouldn’t do anything to prevent it at that point, but at least I had the peace of mind I guess that I knew it wasn’t leaking and could get a 9 month head start on planning.

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  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    It absolutely happens, no doubt! Never disagreed with that!

    But putting out such a general statement like “women will baby-trap you!” is such a broad statement. Statements like that are often used to stir up hostility and is a common tactic used in spaces that are anti-women.

    Me saying “men will assault you!” would not be acceptable and would get me attacked and downvoted to hell. It’s astounding to me that statements like this about women are supported.

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    • Allero@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Yeah, a better way to put it would be “There are women that may attempt baby-trap you, and you should always be mindful of that”

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      • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Absolutely.

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    • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Yeah it really wasn’t the response I expected to a teaching your child about their body. Not sure what that person has been through, but it did seem random. I expected responses like how to properly clean oneself.

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      • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Yeah… don’t love the “women will be actively trying to ruin your life”–angle.

        However, it’s a good idea to let him know that some potential partners will have bad/manipulative intentions, no matter the gender, and how to look out for that.

        I made no mention of my kid’s orientation, so… make of that what you will. Lol

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• pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Lemmy.world is worse than fucking reddit was with gender relations lmfao

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  • vonbaronhans@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Weirdos end up on Lemmy. Many of us are a splendidly wonderful, if pedantic, sort.

    And then there’s the weirdos that… aren’t that. The ones who never built social skills or the ability to look at the world from beyond their own limited experiences. The ones who extrapolate with reckless abandon, usually in the traditional directions of punching down.

    I’m sorry if they or someone they know got baby-trapped, but that is DEFINITELY not the usual nor should it be phrased like it is.

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    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      I’m more shocked at the amount of upvotes the comment has.

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      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        His point isn’t wrong. He could have explained it better but telling a teenage boy how to not get girls pregnant regardless of what they tell him is not a bad idea. I definitely had experiences with girls I slept with telling me not to worry about it and at least one of them went on to have a teen pregnancy by another dude. They weren’t trying to trap me. They were just dumb. So was I and I got really lucky that there were no consequences. Teenagers say and do dumb shit and the more cognizant your son is of that the better.

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• Krudler@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  You need to understand that is one of a host of reasons and things that can be said. I’m not going to write a 40-page essay. Frank talk is necessary, too bad you can’t see that and choose to focus on the gender thing. That’s really about you and not me. Frank talk about all aspects of sex is vital. Get a grip.

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  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Frank talk is necessary, too bad you can’t see that and choose to focus on the gender thing. That’s really about you and not me. Frank talk about all aspects of sex is vital. Get a grip.

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  • vonbaronhans@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Do you think “frank” means “without nuance or care for how what I’m saying could be misconstrued as bigotry”?

    Like, literally the only change I know I’d like to see is “there are some women who” and like… that’s hardly an imposition, y’know? Definitely not a “40 page essay” either.

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