vonbaronhans

@vonbaronhans@midwest.social

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I said I think it’s possible. You said “horseshit”. Not sure what you mean other than it’s impossible for a man to do that.

  I’m not saying it’s super likely or anything like that. But given this is pretty far off the path from my original comment, I’ll just drop it here.

  Best of luck out there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean… what about those actions is impossible for a guy to do?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I agree with that 100%.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t really disagree with your overall point, I just think that’s being way over generous to the anon here.

  Like, do you think talking to your wife like she was a dude is really the only thing at play here?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Who knows, lol. But I’m more than happy to engage with people who disagree, so long as it remains relatively civil.

  I’ve had plenty of gender-coded miscommunication with my wife over the years. But that’s far, far outweighed by more individual differences (like neurotypical v neurodivergent, mismatched communication habits, and mismatched expectations from how we were raised. Hell even just regional differences.

  And when it comes to the other married guys I know, I’ve provided advice (upon request) that basically boiled down to (1) you don’t “win” a marriage, (2) treat her like a partner not an adversary (even if she’s treating you adversarially for now), and (3) be open and vulnerable when you can. It’s amazing how many of them have just… never once heard that advice from anyone else their whole life. Wild out here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe I’m misunderstanding your point, but I could see a man doing what the wife in the greentext did. It wouldn’t fit the stereotypes we have of dudes, but yeah I think it’s possible.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Time to embrace my gay side, for sure.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  To be fair, I don’t mean like, raging, beating your wife misogyny. Just the standard kind that results in overgeneralizing and venting in this particular way.

  The behavior described seems like either (1) the wife has big attachment and insecurity issues (maybe a personality or mood disorder) or (2) the anon has major, major communication issues (essentially driving the wife to desperate measures she might not have gone to otherwise). In either case, these are extremes. And extremes really shouldn’t be generalized to the whole gender population, y’know? I can’t think of anything BUT some amount of misogyny that would lead to that type of generalization.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  How could I possibly calm down? Who am I married to then? Fuck!

  (That was me joining the joke for anybody who might not get that otherwise.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you think that’s what’s happening (both in my example but also the OP greentext)? That they’re admitting they have trouble communicating?

  I could see a literal interpretation of “I don’t understand women” as a standalone sentence being reasonably interpreted that way, sure. But given the context, I think that’s really unlikely.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m honestly not sure what point you’re trying to convey, but that’s alright.

  But best of luck out there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That is unfortunately the tendency for men, yeah.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Men and women have tendencies and subculture, sure. But they’re not mutually unintelligible if you make even a little effort to try and understand the other side as fundamentally human people. For example, by listening to them and taking their positions seriously (even if the specific situation does not call for believing every factual claim).

  I think we mostly agree here, just with slightly different framing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  This presupposes that men and women are fundamentally and irreconcilably different. I just don’t think that’s true, based on both my experiences and the psychological data I’ve reviewed throughout my life.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has marital problems⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  “I don’t understand women.”

  Whenever someone has an issue with an SO, then extrapolates that to all women… that’s a red flag to me that this guy has a lot more misogynistic views just outside the frame of view.

  It is unfortunately common. Pretty much all of the guys I know IRL complain about their SOs with “Pft. Women, right?” And I’m sitting here like… No? Maybe that’s just your SO? Or just your SO when they’re with you?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Glorious⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Meanwhile Guilty Gear has BEDMAN.

  Who is, in fact, a man who is now a bed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨who's the ceo?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, inflation actually is at 2% or just I over that, isn’t it?

  Ideally they’d match that with 2% pay raises for staff, but yeah that seems unlikely.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Pro-tip for this capitalistic hellscape⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d eat bugs well before I tried to eat another human, billionaire or not.

  But if you gave me a flyswatter to kill a random bug or a gun to kill a random CEO, and I HAD to choose one or the other… the bug would probably make it out alive.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If Open Source is so great...⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Krita isn’t that much worse than Photoshop/CSP for digital illustration. That said, going back to CSP after a year was such a relief I didn’t know I needed. So many little stumbling blocks removed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Steam is 'an unsafe place for teens and young adults': US senator warns Gabe Newell of 'more intense scrutiny' from the government if Valve doesn't take action against extremist content⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Iirc, when the ADP put out their guidance on Pepe, it was during the 2016 election when Pepe was being actively coopted by alt-rightera and neo Nazis. One of those "take something innocuous and poison it by using it as a pseudo secret signal to other bigots.

  I vaguely recall them saying that Pepe was a hate symbol only insofar as it was being used for that purpose. I wonder if that changed, or if this investigation is ignoring that nuance to hamfist a “hate speech” argument.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Read-onlys are cancer. Post stuff you want to see.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Hey I comment from time to time, that’s contributing! Kind of!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How is anime and manga more popular than comics and western cartoons?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I dunno “comics” in the US are still mostly superhero stuff. Once you get into the non-superhero stuff it generally gets referred to as “graphic novels”. Maybe that term is used only to separate it from the superhero image, or it may have to do with syndication and release schedules? I’m not entirely sure.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nintendo has reportedly shut down Ryujinx, the Switch emulator that was supposedly immune⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Or giving yourself ulcers

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Emma Roberts says internet culture doomed Madame Web⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I thought they made it so they’d have a place for a Bollywood dance scene.

  Which I’m not against. Bollywood dance scenes kinda rock.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Emma Roberts says internet culture doomed Madame Web⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I just watched the marvels a few weeks ago. It was fun!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cursed wretched marketing⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That tends to make your phone screen look yellow/orange. Pink is a different thing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cursed wretched marketing⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I had that issue on an old phone, could very well be hardware variance.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cursed wretched marketing⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  White light is the combination of all those wavelengths. It is only the combination that makes it “white” in exactly the same way that a smaller range of wavelengths are “red” or “blue”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Stay Mad⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s true, it could be racism, it could be both.

  God, if Taylor Swift runs for president I’d be stunned. I mean, given the circumstances I’d vote for her, but geez Louise.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Stay Mad⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The only outcome that might suck even more is if Biden did step down, Kamala steps up, and she still loses. Cuz then it’s like… oh so we’re just gonna be misogynistic as a voter base now, great, thanks fellow Americans. Like, we were ready to vote for a shambling shell of an old man but not a lady with Hillary Clinton energy, okay. 🤦