Vespair
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- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
There is validity to this argument, certainly, but we are not talking about a social moral defined solely by legality, we are discussing a case where legality was defined within the confines of social expectation.
Legality is not inherently morality, but it can be an indicator of social morals.
There will be times when they are at odds, but I have yet to hear a compelling case in this situation.
So I ask, why social harm is being caused by defining adulthood at 18? And let’s be clear, I am looking for actual harm here, not potential for harm; going through a dangerous intersection is not the same thing as experiencing a car accident.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
I think you’re making serious assumptions and assuming a binary where none exists.
First off, nobody, here or in mainstream popular culture, is holding Leo’s relationships as model behavior. Leo may perhaps have “role model” status, but all avenues to which that moniker can be affixed apply to his body of work, talent, work ethic, etc; there is just nobody in mainstream culture referring to him as a role model in terms of romantic entanglements, at least not seriously.
So with that in mind, let’s discuss the binary here. Things aren’t either good or bad, they just simply aren’t. A entire gulf of experience in neutrality lays between the enviable and damned. So as I see it, the question here, at least the one posed by my comment, isn’t “are Leo’s relationships enviable role model behavior?,” because I don’t think that was ever in question, but rather “are Leo’s relationships damnedable?”, and to that the answer is a clear and resounding no, for me at least.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
There are a million valid reasons to value and date a person, and their looks, even potentially the youthfulness of those looks, is one the same as any other. We don’t live in the world of perfect reason devoid of animalism that you’re pretending; sexual attraction is and is always going to be a part of the equation. While we should continue making strides to ensure women are valued for their contributions to society and have more equitable positions and opportunities, I do not believe that means sterilizing or desexifying society nor artificially pretending the inherently inequitable nature of human attractiveness is somehow something that can be forced into equity through social pressure. Life is just simply more nuanced than that.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
No, it doesn’t. I address this with “I personally believe it is a reasonable one, designed conservative enough so that one can safely assume anyone on the other side of the line has had the chance to develop and grow free of unnecessary outside influence to rightly be deemed an adult after,” where I clearly state that I think 18 is a reasonable age. You’re welcome to disagree with and argue with my points but I am not going to allow you to insult my character for the sake of attempting to win your argument.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
Legality.
For most of humanity “childhood” wasn’t even a concept in the way we think of it today. Our ability to give the people in society this society is truly one of the greatest achievements of modernity. But it’s still a somewhat arbitrary line in the sand we drew, yes. I personally believe it is a reasonable one, designed conservative enough so that one can safely assume anyone on the other side of the line has had the chance to develop and grow free of unnecessary outside influence to rightly be deemed an adult after.
If society wants to redefine the terms of where that line is drawn, that is fine, as we as members of society can do so.
But for the time being we drew the line at 18. It seemed fucked as hell to say “this is the line, this is what’s appropriate” and then demonize a man for staying within those lines. It’s fucked to say “here’s the line” when you actually mean “actually the real line is way over there and by being this close you’ve actually broken the rules.”
Dude is staying inside the lines, and interacting with those we have deemed full legal adults imbued with the right and power of autonomy. To the best of my understanding there have been no claims of coercion, abuse, or anything of that nature. So I’m sorry, but trying to convince me that dude is doing something wrong by adhering to the rules as laid for him just isn’t going to vibe with me.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
What shit? Allowing adults to make autonomous choices rather than infantilizing and pre-ascribing victim status to them?
Again, y’all can’t pretend we’re talking about children, we are talking about full legal adults with rights to autonomy.
If there is coercion or abuse, absolutely demonize and mobilize against that. But until there is, all you have is suspicion and suggestions that infantilize the real adult women in the scenario.
- Comment on Apparently Bluesky lets you require a sign in to view a post 3 days ago:
I can’t fathom how people have been using the redesign in the first place. Old.reddit was the only way.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 3 days ago:
Adulthood is the difference.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 4 days ago:
Do you? Because that sounds like an assumption to me.
- Comment on Leo knew it was a joke and laughed because it was just a joke 4 days ago:
Hot take, but with so many actual sexual assailants and literal pedophiles in the world, I will just never be able to give two shits about what Leo does or does not do with other legal consenting adults, sorry.
- Comment on A daunting realization 4 days ago:
Reminds me of this modern classic: youtu.be/Cf2Q-McO_Fw
- Comment on Yes that is definitely what I was going for, thank you 1 week ago:
God I can only imagine!
- Comment on Yes that is definitely what I was going for, thank you 1 week ago:
What’s 100x more annoying is when you type a real word but they decide you must have meant something else. That shit makes me bonkers
- Comment on English is a strange language. 2 weeks ago:
This seems to apply to a number of speech impediments, as “rhotacism” is the term for people with difficulty saying R sounds and apparently “stutter” is a particularly difficult word for people with stutters.
- Comment on I liked Star Trek before it got woke. /s 3 weeks ago:
Star Trek is and always has been deeply as inherently political
- Comment on Do You Even Squid Game Bro? 3 weeks ago:
I choose to watch dubbed with sub captions. You often get two different translation attempts that way and I think between the two i occasionally pick some some nuance i may have missed had I only received the sub or dub translation alone.
After almost 30 years of anime and foreign content watching, I have consumed tons of content subbed and tons of content dubbed, and still regularly watches subbed content for huge amounts of no-dub content out there, and have concluded that dub + sub is the overall best experience for me by far.
That being said. I don’t personally care how any other person consumes their content. If you want subs, that’s cool. If you want dubs, that’s cool too. But I’m sorry, all you dub folks, you are not cooler, better, or smarter for listening to voices in a language you don’t understand. It’s a preference. It’s fine to prefer subs, but it genuinely does not make you more your experience superior.
- Comment on 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 DuckDuckGo survey 3 weeks ago:
Sweet pickle relish armpit play btw, since I know you’re all wondering.
- Comment on 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 DuckDuckGo survey 3 weeks ago:
Exactly. That’s how I vet my assistants; if they don’t come back with that really specific niche underground fetish shit I’m into then I know their attention to detail won’t be up to snuff in other avenues either.
- Comment on This one is going to be controversial 3 weeks ago:
Just call me Laurel.
Or Yanny.
Man, aren’t we all just so edified and fulfilled having now shared in this communal sharing of sentiments we definitely actual care about
- Comment on 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 DuckDuckGo survey 3 weeks ago:
Flaccid tho
- Comment on 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 DuckDuckGo survey 3 weeks ago:
This but unironically. Why shouldn’t you be able to use an AI assistant for that? I mean it’s kinda dumb, shouldn’t adults be allowed to make dumb choices?
I fucking hate corporate nannyism.
- Comment on This one is going to be controversial 3 weeks ago:
omg u really C me
- Comment on This one is going to be controversial 3 weeks ago:
I actually tear it apart sheet by sheet and stack the sheet for a toilet tower, the most reasonable choice in this debate that definitely matters and should definitely be used as a personality indicator.
- Comment on This one is going to be controversial 3 weeks ago:
Nobody has ever actually given a shit about pineapple on pizza. This is just a dumb pop culture thing like pretending to be bothered by the word “moist” (nobody on earth is actually bothered by it until told to be).
We don’t have to play along with the machinations of pop culture; we can reject manufactured responses.
- Comment on crying and shaking 3 weeks ago:
Ah yes, either you’re all-in on this fucking trojan horse to the MRA movement bullshit or you’re an ignorant goon-brained coomer, no in-between allowed
- Comment on crying and shaking 3 weeks ago:
This is what I mean. It’s this shit. Calling circumcision “genital mutilation” may be technically correct, but to any reasonable person who is aware of the reality of actual genital mutilation, it makes you guys sound fucking insane.
- Comment on crying and shaking 3 weeks ago:
I didn’t say penis obsession, I said this penis obsession.
If you want to celebrate penises, I am all for that.
If you want to talk about how beautiful penises are and how the idea that they should be shameful or inherently indecent, I am all for that.
If you want to talk about how fun it is to grab the head of your flaccid cock and pull it taught to strum it like a rubber band guitar, I am all for that and request you post video.
Penises are fucking wonderful.
I’m talking about this stupid circumcision obsession by a bunch of tiny dicked losers convinced somebody stole their precious inches at birth. It’s literally the least significant injustice on the planet and yet so constantly front of mind for some many people. It’s fucking embarrassing. Not penises, circumcision obsession. But yes, I should have clarified.
- Comment on How do they make a "ghost" for a movie 4 weeks ago:
I ain’t going to Instagram for shit, sorry.
- Comment on crying and shaking 4 weeks ago:
Keep this weird fucking penis obsession on reddit, please.
- Comment on Hierarchy of needs 1 month ago:
I still think about the chicken sandwich from this place that used to be near me that closed more than a decade ago now.
Goddamn I miss that sandwich.