Gloomy
@Gloomy@mander.xyz
- Comment on Cause and Effect 5 days ago:
I have very much NOT called you right wing. I pointed out, correctly, that calling science a “dogma” is a right wing talking point. I have asked you to elaborate your point, so one is able to determine if you use it in the same context (as a blanket statement to make your own position stronger) or not.
It is deeply ironic that you are ranting about how scientists don’t want to be questioned and “bulk” when told so, yet you have not elaborated a single one of your points yet (you are more than welcome to still do so) and have reacted to me asking you to do so in what i very much read as an aggressive tone.
- Comment on Cause and Effect 5 days ago:
I assume that i disagree, but i think it mainly is because “the dogma of science” is a phrase that i immediately recognize as a right wing talking point.
But since you kind of only put that out there and i don’t expect right wing idiots on Lemmy i’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and ask you to kindly elaborate a bit.
What is the dogma of science? Who holds it? What sciences? All of them? Just STEM? And speaking of, who is obsessed with STEM? How and where does that obsession express itself?
- Comment on OK what is your Roman name? 1 week ago:
Brinjal Bhajiius
- Comment on Shh 2 weeks ago:
Think of it in scale. It’s not just you. It’s millions of people. Even if every household only used one bottle over one year that still would be tons of tons of (easily to avoid) waste. And of course it’s a lot more than one bottle a year.
- Comment on Shh 2 weeks ago:
I use bar shampoo and body wash. Daily, because i sweat a lot (genetics too).
I use bar stuff because i have to shower daily. It prevents so much waste, because i work through soap fast, so at least i am not producing plastic waste.
If you have to wash your hair a lot, thats an argument for bar shampoo, not against.
- Comment on Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd 3 weeks ago:
I am happy to read at least one sane voice amongst the sea of people who don’t understand that we are doing exactly what they are accusing us of doing by celebrating his death. I honestly am taken aback by the amount of people who think this is good.
- Comment on Aged like milk 3 weeks ago:
There is a difference between not tolerating intolerance and actively calling for the killing of / celebrating the death of an intolerant person.
- Comment on No Man's Sky: Voyagers update releases today, introduces customizable "colossal, fully furnished, completely bespoke Corvette-class starships" 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, i feel same-ish.
I used a save game modifier to unlock the cool stuff hidden behind the grind. Since then I spent some time building a base in a nice looking planet and flying around looking for a cool world.
Thing is, you are right: it gets old fast. Planets are boring. There are some cool combinations here and there, but 90% of them are just the same old same old. Seen them once, seen them all.
From time to time i still hop in, but it doesn’t grab me more than a couple of hours every six months or so.
- Comment on The recent Steam censorship debacle actually sort of opened me up to adult games. 1 month ago:
Ai, loverslab comes to mind. Used that to kink the hell out of Sims back in the day.
- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
And I’m always picking what he’s least likely to want.
So parents can be assholes too.
- Comment on Anon is Banished 1 month ago:
Best series i have read. Read it.
- Comment on GOG NSFW Giveaway 2 months ago:
Could it be AI getting better at solving them, so they need to be more complex? No idea how this works, so just a thought.
- Comment on Payment Processors Are Pressuring Major Gaming Vendors to Pull LGBTQ+ and NSFW Titles 2 months ago:
The Article dosn’t bring up anything the Austraians have done SO FAR to remove LGBTQI+ content from steam. Is there a creditable source for that?
- Comment on First they came for steam, then they came for itch.io . 2 months ago:
Thanks for the context. Might have been caught up in the crossfire, but very worrying indeed.
- Comment on First they came for steam, then they came for itch.io . 2 months ago:
Shit. Would you provide a source please?
- Comment on I'm doing my part 2 months ago:
That’s a sane take on a matter that is easy to act on blind rage. I agree.
We’ve had some success here with a program called “Don’t become a perpetrator”. Pedosexuals (which is the scientific term for people attracted to minors without acting upon their urges) could enter, as long as they hadn’t committed any crime in regards to children or consuming illegal content. They could get psychological help as well as a chemical castration. Preventive approaches like this should be more common.
- Comment on I 🖤 LaTeX 2 months ago:
The local BDSM clubs male participants are like 80 % doing something IT related. The overlap might be bigger than you expect.
- Comment on I 🖤 LaTeX 2 months ago:
Well, lets start you off with this beauty (NSFW)
- Comment on These totally legitimate comments 2 months ago:
🫥😬🥰
- Comment on I'm doing my part! 2 months ago:
- Comment on Vintage gaming advertising pictures: a gallery 2 months ago:
Love the PS2 ones. They almost have a Goth vibe in their aesthetics.
- Comment on The UK Stop Killing Games petition has reached 100.000 signatures 2 months ago:
And Fashism!
- Comment on The Elder God 3 months ago:
Edit: added The
Come on, don’t leave us hanging here. What did you add???
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
Gosh, I wish there was some water near by to give it a rinse.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
Nothing. I switched to a bar of soap and a bar of shampoo years and years ago. It saves plastic waste, is waaaaay cheaper and worka the same way any liquid would.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
Toothpaste? Completly overrated!
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 4 months ago:
Thanks. That’s actually one of my own words, but you can use it all you want if you wish to do so.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 4 months ago:
My steppairents are like this and beeing them, at a meal table and have nobody say anything for 20 Minutes is so fucking wired. I am getting used to it, but it’s still off as fuck.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 months ago:
So yeah, complex issue. Thanks for your valuable contribution.
On the contrary, I was happy to engage with a position that wasn’t along the lines of “all pedophiles should commit suicide”.
It is, as you say, a complex issue. That complexity and any nuance is usually absent of discussions about the topic on the Internet. Thanks for adding it here.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 months ago:
Do you have any real-world or professional experience with people suffering from pedophilia?
I have been schooled on pedophilia in a professional context, during my undergrad and in a work-context. Yet I have not worked wotj pedophiles directly, nor have I had any contact to one, that I would be aware of.
Looking at science both of our positions are reflected. As with so many things the answer is not a simple “yes” or “no”.
If you want to take a bit of a deep dive, I recoment this study from 2023.
It looked at both of our positions: FSM (Fantasy Sexual Material) leads to real sexual violence against children vs. FSM reduces the risk of said practice.
Here is their summary of my position (FSM leads to sexual violence against children):
When applying the motivation-facilitation model to the context of FSM use, it can be theorized as to why, for a subset of users, engaging with such material could become problematic and increase the likelihood of committing a child sexual offense (whether that be offline or online), while for others this is not the case. As pedohebephilia is thought to be a motivating factor towards sexual offending in Seto’s model [21], engaging with FSM relating to children could heighten sexual arousal and therefore act as a facilitator to increase offending likelihood. With abstinence from masturbation being self-reported as a risk-management technique by some people who are attracted to children [16], this is a recognized idea by some members of the community. Over time, engaging in CSEM (especially forms such as child-like sex dolls, which offer a more realistic sexual experience) may contribute to the development of offence-supportive beliefs and the adoption of implicit theories about the acceptability of engaging in sexual activity with children (or child-like targets). The combination of enhanced sexual arousal to children (a potential motivator of offending), coupled with the development of permission-giving beliefs (facilitators of offending), may subsequently increase the risk of abuse being committed by somebody with attractions to children.
Here they are summarising your position, as I understand it (FSM helps to prevent sexual child abuse):
Alternatively, FSM use could be seen as beneficial by the motivation-facilitation model and instead reduce the likelihood of offending. Rather than heightening arousal, FSM could act as a safe sexual outlet that allows for a feeling of release and sense of catharsis [84], which could reduce a motivation to seek out real children as a sexual partner. Engaging with FSM also avoids the problematic suppression of sexual interests, with such suppression being linked to increases in self-perceived risks for offending among those with attractions to children [15]. In contrast to Stevens and Wood [16], Houtepen and colleagues reported that engagement in masturbatory fantasies was a common coping mechanism used by some people experiencing attractions to children, avoiding the need to access CSEM due to an alternative outlet being identified [3•].
They conclude that more research is needed:
Given the present lack of understanding of FSM and how they are used, it is important to identify the factors associated with use and whether they are risk-enhancing or risk-reducing (i.e., protective). This knowledge could be beneficial to clinicians in the search for more effective methods to support people who are attracted to children when they are seeking help to manage their sexual interests. Nonetheless, Seto’s motivation-facilitation model provides a theoretical framework for thinking about this topic in a more nuanced way [21].
So, there we are. A long post to say maybe.
I suppose both of our positions might be viable and it can’t be said yet, under what circumstances each one of us might be right.
