Gloomy
@Gloomy@mander.xyz
- Comment on GOG NSFW Giveaway 1 week ago:
Could it be AI getting better at solving them, so they need to be more complex? No idea how this works, so just a thought.
- Comment on Payment Processors Are Pressuring Major Gaming Vendors to Pull LGBTQ+ and NSFW Titles 1 week ago:
The Article dosn’t bring up anything the Austraians have done SO FAR to remove LGBTQI+ content from steam. Is there a creditable source for that?
- Comment on First they came for steam, then they came for itch.io . 2 weeks ago:
Thanks for the context. Might have been caught up in the crossfire, but very worrying indeed.
- Comment on First they came for steam, then they came for itch.io . 2 weeks ago:
Shit. Would you provide a source please?
- Comment on I'm doing my part 2 weeks ago:
That’s a sane take on a matter that is easy to act on blind rage. I agree.
We’ve had some success here with a program called “Don’t become a perpetrator”. Pedosexuals (which is the scientific term for people attracted to minors without acting upon their urges) could enter, as long as they hadn’t committed any crime in regards to children or consuming illegal content. They could get psychological help as well as a chemical castration. Preventive approaches like this should be more common.
- Comment on I 🖤 LaTeX 2 weeks ago:
The local BDSM clubs male participants are like 80 % doing something IT related. The overlap might be bigger than you expect.
- Comment on I 🖤 LaTeX 2 weeks ago:
Well, lets start you off with this beauty (NSFW)
- Comment on These totally legitimate comments 2 weeks ago:
🫥😬🥰
- Comment on I'm doing my part! 3 weeks ago:
- Comment on Vintage gaming advertising pictures: a gallery 4 weeks ago:
Love the PS2 ones. They almost have a Goth vibe in their aesthetics.
- Comment on The UK Stop Killing Games petition has reached 100.000 signatures 5 weeks ago:
And Fashism!
- Comment on The Elder God 1 month ago:
Edit: added The
Come on, don’t leave us hanging here. What did you add???
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Gosh, I wish there was some water near by to give it a rinse.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Nothing. I switched to a bar of soap and a bar of shampoo years and years ago. It saves plastic waste, is waaaaay cheaper and worka the same way any liquid would.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Toothpaste? Completly overrated!
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 months ago:
Thanks. That’s actually one of my own words, but you can use it all you want if you wish to do so.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 months ago:
My steppairents are like this and beeing them, at a meal table and have nobody say anything for 20 Minutes is so fucking wired. I am getting used to it, but it’s still off as fuck.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 2 months ago:
So yeah, complex issue. Thanks for your valuable contribution.
On the contrary, I was happy to engage with a position that wasn’t along the lines of “all pedophiles should commit suicide”.
It is, as you say, a complex issue. That complexity and any nuance is usually absent of discussions about the topic on the Internet. Thanks for adding it here.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 2 months ago:
Do you have any real-world or professional experience with people suffering from pedophilia?
I have been schooled on pedophilia in a professional context, during my undergrad and in a work-context. Yet I have not worked wotj pedophiles directly, nor have I had any contact to one, that I would be aware of.
Looking at science both of our positions are reflected. As with so many things the answer is not a simple “yes” or “no”.
If you want to take a bit of a deep dive, I recoment this study from 2023.
It looked at both of our positions: FSM (Fantasy Sexual Material) leads to real sexual violence against children vs. FSM reduces the risk of said practice.
Here is their summary of my position (FSM leads to sexual violence against children):
When applying the motivation-facilitation model to the context of FSM use, it can be theorized as to why, for a subset of users, engaging with such material could become problematic and increase the likelihood of committing a child sexual offense (whether that be offline or online), while for others this is not the case. As pedohebephilia is thought to be a motivating factor towards sexual offending in Seto’s model [21], engaging with FSM relating to children could heighten sexual arousal and therefore act as a facilitator to increase offending likelihood. With abstinence from masturbation being self-reported as a risk-management technique by some people who are attracted to children [16], this is a recognized idea by some members of the community. Over time, engaging in CSEM (especially forms such as child-like sex dolls, which offer a more realistic sexual experience) may contribute to the development of offence-supportive beliefs and the adoption of implicit theories about the acceptability of engaging in sexual activity with children (or child-like targets). The combination of enhanced sexual arousal to children (a potential motivator of offending), coupled with the development of permission-giving beliefs (facilitators of offending), may subsequently increase the risk of abuse being committed by somebody with attractions to children.
Here they are summarising your position, as I understand it (FSM helps to prevent sexual child abuse):
Alternatively, FSM use could be seen as beneficial by the motivation-facilitation model and instead reduce the likelihood of offending. Rather than heightening arousal, FSM could act as a safe sexual outlet that allows for a feeling of release and sense of catharsis [84], which could reduce a motivation to seek out real children as a sexual partner. Engaging with FSM also avoids the problematic suppression of sexual interests, with such suppression being linked to increases in self-perceived risks for offending among those with attractions to children [15]. In contrast to Stevens and Wood [16], Houtepen and colleagues reported that engagement in masturbatory fantasies was a common coping mechanism used by some people experiencing attractions to children, avoiding the need to access CSEM due to an alternative outlet being identified [3•].
They conclude that more research is needed:
Given the present lack of understanding of FSM and how they are used, it is important to identify the factors associated with use and whether they are risk-enhancing or risk-reducing (i.e., protective). This knowledge could be beneficial to clinicians in the search for more effective methods to support people who are attracted to children when they are seeking help to manage their sexual interests. Nonetheless, Seto’s motivation-facilitation model provides a theoretical framework for thinking about this topic in a more nuanced way [21].
So, there we are. A long post to say maybe.
I suppose both of our positions might be viable and it can’t be said yet, under what circumstances each one of us might be right.
- Comment on Catchiest video game song? 2 months ago:
My brain defaults to this if I fell the need to fill silence with sound. It’s like it’s implanted into my Brian as the “default” song.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 2 months ago:
Because your not trying to fulfill the wish to murder a person by substituting it to computer character.
At least some mass murderers and school shooters have played violent games in order to fulfill their violent phantasies, couldn’t do so in a long term and murdered real people instead.
Same goes with pedophiles. They want to fuck a child, use fictional characters to fulfill the phanstasy, get used to it and then escalate to pictures of real children and eventually real children.
The “video games cause violence” argument is wrong, because the cast majority of gamers don’t try to use games as a substitute action for violent behaviour.
- Comment on Inspired by a friends current vacation 2 months ago:
You mean picking the spiders from you or from your hammock?
I case of the former, there are mosquito nets for hammocks. I use them when I go wild camping with my hammock almost every time.
- Comment on Are there any plot arcs, or missed opportunities from any TV series that were abandoned that you think should've been picked up or continued? 2 months ago:
Game if Thrones. Best four seasons I have ever watched in my live. Things counted. Every character could potentially die. Every fight has real odds to it. I was So hooked.
Shame they never continued the series after season four.
- Comment on What's yours? 2 months ago:
Nightwalker Gloomy
I think I just died of cringe.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 2 months ago:
Fair enoth I guess, it’s not the same.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 2 months ago:
Seems to be an urban legend tough. Also racist.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 2 months ago:
I know plenty of women that carry an old school second name because there grandmother’s names are passed down. Like Elisabeth, or Rose or the like.
- Comment on Steam Deck / Gaming News #15 2 months ago:
Gothic was one of the games of my youth. I am realy looking forward to the remake, thanka for bringing it up.
Recently I have been playing Valheim with my wife again. After a year of more or less non stop caring for the twins we have finally arrived at the point were we can game again together and it makes for even shorter nights but is such a treat to have that back. We used to game and hike a lot together before the children were there. Looking forward to go on long hikes again too, but for now a shared boat ride into the mistlands will do just fine.
- Comment on Lemmy needs more donations 3 months ago:
But why would I “hire” someone that behaves the way they do towards people?
You are not hireing them, tough. You are using their service, a service they a putting a lot of work in and that might be one of the only real alternatives to corporate sites right now.
By donating you are not hireing anybody, you are deciding that you are able and willing to support the service they provide to you.
In regards to the second point: I am close to 100% sure that there are areas, where you spend money on people or companies that behave in a way that doesn’t aline with 100 % of your values. If you are this critical with all of them then thsta fair. It the Lemmy Devs are held to higher standard than other people you are happy giving money, then i think your point is not valid at all.
Personally, I don’t expect everybody to aline completly with my values. Humans have very different ways of viewing the world and their lived experiences leads them to different ways of engaging with the world and different ideas of what is good and what is bad.
So, I will donate money for a cause I think is important. Even if it means giving money whos worldview isn’t completly the same as mine. In the end we are standing on the same side here. And I refuse to see somebody on my side as. My enemy.
- Comment on America is fucked 3 months ago:
It do you know what their mum says about them?
