Gloomy
@Gloomy@mander.xyz
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 2 days ago:
So yeah, complex issue. Thanks for your valuable contribution.
On the contrary, I was happy to engage with a position that wasn’t along the lines of “all pedophiles should commit suicide”.
It is, as you say, a complex issue. That complexity and any nuance is usually absent of discussions about the topic on the Internet. Thanks for adding it here.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 3 days ago:
Do you have any real-world or professional experience with people suffering from pedophilia?
I have been schooled on pedophilia in a professional context, during my undergrad and in a work-context. Yet I have not worked wotj pedophiles directly, nor have I had any contact to one, that I would be aware of.
Looking at science both of our positions are reflected. As with so many things the answer is not a simple “yes” or “no”.
If you want to take a bit of a deep dive, I recoment this study from 2023.
It looked at both of our positions: FSM (Fantasy Sexual Material) leads to real sexual violence against children vs. FSM reduces the risk of said practice.
Here is their summary of my position (FSM leads to sexual violence against children):
When applying the motivation-facilitation model to the context of FSM use, it can be theorized as to why, for a subset of users, engaging with such material could become problematic and increase the likelihood of committing a child sexual offense (whether that be offline or online), while for others this is not the case. As pedohebephilia is thought to be a motivating factor towards sexual offending in Seto’s model [21], engaging with FSM relating to children could heighten sexual arousal and therefore act as a facilitator to increase offending likelihood. With abstinence from masturbation being self-reported as a risk-management technique by some people who are attracted to children [16], this is a recognized idea by some members of the community. Over time, engaging in CSEM (especially forms such as child-like sex dolls, which offer a more realistic sexual experience) may contribute to the development of offence-supportive beliefs and the adoption of implicit theories about the acceptability of engaging in sexual activity with children (or child-like targets). The combination of enhanced sexual arousal to children (a potential motivator of offending), coupled with the development of permission-giving beliefs (facilitators of offending), may subsequently increase the risk of abuse being committed by somebody with attractions to children.
Here they are summarising your position, as I understand it (FSM helps to prevent sexual child abuse):
Alternatively, FSM use could be seen as beneficial by the motivation-facilitation model and instead reduce the likelihood of offending. Rather than heightening arousal, FSM could act as a safe sexual outlet that allows for a feeling of release and sense of catharsis [84], which could reduce a motivation to seek out real children as a sexual partner. Engaging with FSM also avoids the problematic suppression of sexual interests, with such suppression being linked to increases in self-perceived risks for offending among those with attractions to children [15]. In contrast to Stevens and Wood [16], Houtepen and colleagues reported that engagement in masturbatory fantasies was a common coping mechanism used by some people experiencing attractions to children, avoiding the need to access CSEM due to an alternative outlet being identified [3•].
They conclude that more research is needed:
Given the present lack of understanding of FSM and how they are used, it is important to identify the factors associated with use and whether they are risk-enhancing or risk-reducing (i.e., protective). This knowledge could be beneficial to clinicians in the search for more effective methods to support people who are attracted to children when they are seeking help to manage their sexual interests. Nonetheless, Seto’s motivation-facilitation model provides a theoretical framework for thinking about this topic in a more nuanced way [21].
So, there we are. A long post to say maybe.
I suppose both of our positions might be viable and it can’t be said yet, under what circumstances each one of us might be right.
- Comment on Catchiest video game song? 3 days ago:
My brain defaults to this if I fell the need to fill silence with sound. It’s like it’s implanted into my Brian as the “default” song.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 days ago:
Because your not trying to fulfill the wish to murder a person by substituting it to computer character.
At least some mass murderers and school shooters have played violent games in order to fulfill their violent phantasies, couldn’t do so in a long term and murdered real people instead.
Same goes with pedophiles. They want to fuck a child, use fictional characters to fulfill the phanstasy, get used to it and then escalate to pictures of real children and eventually real children.
The “video games cause violence” argument is wrong, because the cast majority of gamers don’t try to use games as a substitute action for violent behaviour.
- Comment on Inspired by a friends current vacation 5 days ago:
You mean picking the spiders from you or from your hammock?
I case of the former, there are mosquito nets for hammocks. I use them when I go wild camping with my hammock almost every time.
- Comment on Are there any plot arcs, or missed opportunities from any TV series that were abandoned that you think should've been picked up or continued? 1 week ago:
Game if Thrones. Best four seasons I have ever watched in my live. Things counted. Every character could potentially die. Every fight has real odds to it. I was So hooked.
Shame they never continued the series after season four.
- Comment on What's yours? 1 week ago:
Nightwalker Gloomy
I think I just died of cringe.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 1 week ago:
Fair enoth I guess, it’s not the same.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 1 week ago:
Seems to be an urban legend tough. Also racist.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 1 week ago:
I know plenty of women that carry an old school second name because there grandmother’s names are passed down. Like Elisabeth, or Rose or the like.
- Comment on Steam Deck / Gaming News #15 2 weeks ago:
Gothic was one of the games of my youth. I am realy looking forward to the remake, thanka for bringing it up.
Recently I have been playing Valheim with my wife again. After a year of more or less non stop caring for the twins we have finally arrived at the point were we can game again together and it makes for even shorter nights but is such a treat to have that back. We used to game and hike a lot together before the children were there. Looking forward to go on long hikes again too, but for now a shared boat ride into the mistlands will do just fine.
- Comment on Lemmy needs more donations 3 weeks ago:
But why would I “hire” someone that behaves the way they do towards people?
You are not hireing them, tough. You are using their service, a service they a putting a lot of work in and that might be one of the only real alternatives to corporate sites right now.
By donating you are not hireing anybody, you are deciding that you are able and willing to support the service they provide to you.
In regards to the second point: I am close to 100% sure that there are areas, where you spend money on people or companies that behave in a way that doesn’t aline with 100 % of your values. If you are this critical with all of them then thsta fair. It the Lemmy Devs are held to higher standard than other people you are happy giving money, then i think your point is not valid at all.
Personally, I don’t expect everybody to aline completly with my values. Humans have very different ways of viewing the world and their lived experiences leads them to different ways of engaging with the world and different ideas of what is good and what is bad.
So, I will donate money for a cause I think is important. Even if it means giving money whos worldview isn’t completly the same as mine. In the end we are standing on the same side here. And I refuse to see somebody on my side as. My enemy.
- Comment on America is fucked 1 month ago:
It do you know what their mum says about them?
- Comment on It's a sin in Christianity to consume media based on ancient mythology and folklore? 1 month ago:
If you have the time, I heavily recommend Center Place as a great source for Christians and Atheists alike who wish to learn about schoolary views on Christianity.
It’s like a free seminar lecture. Here is one about Plato and Christianity:
- Comment on It's a sin in Christianity to consume media based on ancient mythology and folklore? 1 month ago:
Nice guidelines, I like them. Satanism?
“Ours” are a bit more complex and long winded but have quite a few paralells:
I’ll copy paste them from here.
Right Speech
Right speech means abstention (1) from telling lies, (2) from backbiting and slander and talk that may bring about hatred, enmity, disunity, and disharmony among individuals or groups of people, (3) from harsh, rude, impolite, malicious, and abusive language, and (4) from idle, useless, and foolish babble and gossip. When one abstains from these forms of wrong and harmful speech one naturally has to speak the truth, has to use words that are friendly and benevolent, pleasant and gentle, meaningful, and useful. One should not speak carelessly: speech should be at the right time and place. If one cannot say something useful, one should keep “noble silence.”
Right Action
Right action aims at promoting moral, honorable, and peaceful conduct. It admonishes us that we should abstain from destroying life, from stealing, from dishonest dealings, from illegitimate sexual intercourse, and that we should also help others to lead a peaceful and honorable life in the right way.
Right Livelihood
Right livelihood means that one should abstain from making one’s living through a profession that brings harm to others, such as trading in arms and lethal weapons, intoxicating drinks or poisons, killing animals, cheating, etc., and should live by a profession which is honorable, blameless, and innocent of harm to others. One can clearly see here that Buddhism is strongly opposed to any kind of war, when it lays down that trade in arms and lethal weapons is an evil and unjust means of livelihood.
These three factors (right speech, right action, and right livelihood) of the eightfold path constitute ethical conduct. It should be realized that the Buddhist ethical and moral conduct aims at promoting a happy and harmonious life both for the individual and for society. This moral conduct is considered as the indispensable foundation for all higher spiritual attainments. No spiritual development is possible without this moral basis.
Mental Discipline
Next comes mental discipline, in which are included three other factors of the eightfold path: namely, right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration. (Nos. 6, 7 and 8 in the list).
Right Effort
Right effort is the energetic will (1) to prevent evil and unwholesome states of mind from arising, and (2) to get rid of such evil and unwholesome states that have already arisen within a man, and also (3) to produce, to cause to arise, good, and wholesome states of mind not yet arisen, and (4) to develop and bring to perfection the good and wholesome states of mind already present in a man.
Right Mindfulness
Right mindfulness is to be diligently aware, mindful, and attentive with regard to (1) the activities of the body (kaya), (2) sensations or feelings (vedana), (3) the activities of the mind (citta) and (4) ideas, thoughts, conceptions, and things (dhamma).
The practice of concentration on breathing (anapanasati) is one of the well-known exercises, connected with the body, for mental development. There are several other ways of developing attentiveness in relation to the body as modes of meditation.
With regard to sensations and feelings, one should be clearly aware of all forms of feelings and sensations, pleasant, unpleasant and neutral, of how they appear and disappear within oneself. Concerning the activities of mind, one should be aware whether one’s mind is lustful or not, given to hatred or not, deluded or not, distracted or concentrated, etc. In this way one should be aware of all movements of mind, how they arise and disappear.
As regards ideas, thoughts, conceptions and things, one should know their nature, how they appear and disappear, how they are developed, how they are suppressed, destroyed, and so on.
These four forms of mental culture or meditation are treated in detail in the Satipatthana Sutta (Setting-up of Mindfulness).
Right Concentration
The third and last factor of mental discipline is right concentration, leading to the four stages of Dhyana, generally called trance or recueillement. In the first stage of Dhyana, passionate desires and certain unwholesome thoughts like sensuous lust, ill-will, languor, worry, restlessness, and skeptical doubt are discarded, and feelings of joy and happiness are maintained, along with certain mental activities. Then, in the second stage, all intellectual activities are suppressed, tranquillity, and “one-pointedness” of mind developed, and the feelings of joy and happiness are still retained. In the third stage, the feeling of joy, which is an active sensation, also disappears, while the disposition of happiness still remains in addition to mindful equanimity. Finally, in the fourth stage of Dhyana, all sensations, even of happiness and unhappiness, of joy and sorrow, disappear, only pure equanimity and awareness remaining.
Thus the mind is trained and disciplined and developed through right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration.
Wisdom
The remaining two factors, namely right thought and right understanding, constitute wisdom in the noble eightfold path.
Right Thought
Right thought denotes the thoughts of selfless renunciation or detachment, thoughts of love and thoughts of non-violence, which are extended to all beings. It is very interesting and important to note here that thoughts of selfless detachment, love and non-violence are grouped on the side of wisdom. This clearly shows that true wisdom is endowed with these noble qualities, and that all thoughts of selfish desire, ill-will, hatred, and violence are the result of a lack of wisdom in all spheres of life whether individual, social, or political.
Right Understanding
Right understanding is the understanding of things as they are, and it is the four noble truths that explain things as they really are. Right understanding therefore is ultimately reduced to the understanding of the four noble truths. This understanding is the highest wisdom which sees the Ultimate Reality. According to Buddhism there are two sorts of understanding. What we generally call “understanding” is knowledge, an accumulated memory, an intellectual grasping of a subject according to certain given data. This is called “knowing accordingly” (anubodha). It is not very deep. Real deep understanding or “penetration” (pativedha) is seeing a thing in its true nature, without name and label. This penetration is possible only when the mind is free from all impurities and is fully developed through meditation.
From this brief account of the noble eightfold path, one may see that it is a way of life to be followed, practiced and developed by each individual. It is self-discipline in body, word, and mind, self-development, and self-purification. It has nothing to do with belief, prayer, worship, or ceremony. In that sense, it has nothing which may popularly be called “religious.” It is a Path leading to the realization of Ultimate Reality, to complete freedom, happiness, and peace through moral, spiritual, and intellectual perfection.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 1 month ago:
Same logic applied to something the right does:
“We are not banning books, we are just not allowing them in libraries and schools. You can always buy them if you feel the need to expose your child to them.”
So, following your logic, the right isn’t suppressing information about LGTBQI+ people.
Dont get me wrong please, I don’t think right wing content should stand unchallenged. I am just not a big fan of only allowing the “correct” information. Because, that is what the right is doing already (while screaming about free speach, mind you). I think it’s better to engage with right content and destroy it with arguments, rather then just banning it. I know I’m a minority with that opinion on Lemmy. I’m fine with that.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 1 month ago:
I would argue that censorship includes the suppression of information in its definition, not only it’s removal.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 1 month ago:
I’m going to play devil’s advocate and ask: How is it not censorship?
- Comment on trapped in the middle with u 1 month ago:
Thanks for your answer. The space part is easy but the time part still goes over my head.
- Comment on trapped in the middle with u 1 month ago:
Do time and space realy change places if you go past the event horizon of a black hole? How does that work?
Maybe not the right field of knowledge, but i heard this recently and haven’t come along anybody able to dumb it down enoth for me to understand. So I thought I might ask anyway :-)
- Comment on trapped in the middle with u 1 month ago:
Thanks for sharing, I never heared about that.
- Comment on trapped in the middle with u 1 month ago:
Darm Matter and Dark Energy?
- Comment on This place is back online! 1 month ago:
I second that, sounds like a good idea.
- Comment on Anon watches It 1 month ago:
Impressively accurate meme. 4650630 is indeed a 2x2 lime slope peace.
- Comment on Enshittification 2 months ago:
Fuck. Like, I need a new vehicle, yet my dad has a 2022 truck that already needs a new transmission. I already put 8k in my 2007 vehicle to keep it running, but I can’t do it anymore. Are there any fucking newer cars that just fucking run?
Translated with DerpL
- Comment on Late 1900s 2 months ago:
I study social study and frequently use papers that are referring to Karl Marx. Or feminist literature from the 70s. Or black literature from the 60s.
- Comment on Cathy, do the math. 2 months ago:
Ah, might be my wired humor kicking in. I just found it hilarious to find that T-shirt on Amazon of all things. It’s like a Butcher selling Vegan cakes. Amazon is like the Anti-Thesis to Unions, but happy to make a buck selling the line.
It felt like “discount etsy agitprop” moment to me. Just shows how ridiculous capitalis is, realy.
But than again, I am wired sometimes. My humour doesn’t always translate. Oh well.
- Comment on frenly warnin 2 months ago:
Whoooosh
- Comment on Cathy, do the math. 2 months ago:
Sure. Have your pro Union T-shirt. And what better place to buy it from than
- Comment on Your all-time favorite game? Let's discuss the best options! 2 months ago:
Total War: Warhammer 3. I play it more or less exclusively with a buddy in multiplayer. Been playing since part 1 came out. I love how the addition of magic and flying creatures changed the Total War formula up, the immense size of the map, the mixture of races.
Rimworld with a couple of hundert mods is still at the top, although I tend to let it rest for some months before I pick it up again.
Baldurs Gate 3 and Divinity Original Sin 2 are my favourite RPG games.
Used to play Skyrim with a bassilion mods a LOT and love it for the hours of enjoyment, but after so many years I have possibility played enoth of it… But who knows, might feel the itch and spend 48 hours trying to get every mod to run just to stop playing after one hour again at some point.
Loved the Mass Effect Triology. Only did one playtrough, that was intens and great.
Binding of Isaac is still my go to for a quick 30 minutes gaming session when I feel like it. I realy suck at it too, so after 12 years there’s still a lot left to do.
