But why would I “hire” someone that behaves the way they do towards people?

You are not hireing them, tough. You are using their service, a service they a putting a lot of work in and that might be one of the only real alternatives to corporate sites right now.

By donating you are not hireing anybody, you are deciding that you are able and willing to support the service they provide to you.

In regards to the second point: I am close to 100% sure that there are areas, where you spend money on people or companies that behave in a way that doesn’t aline with 100 % of your values. If you are this critical with all of them then thsta fair. It the Lemmy Devs are held to higher standard than other people you are happy giving money, then i think your point is not valid at all.

Personally, I don’t expect everybody to aline completly with my values. Humans have very different ways of viewing the world and their lived experiences leads them to different ways of engaging with the world and different ideas of what is good and what is bad.

So, I will donate money for a cause I think is important. Even if it means giving money whos worldview isn’t completly the same as mine. In the end we are standing on the same side here. And I refuse to see somebody on my side as. My enemy.