my fling and I are opposites but very compatible

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• JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I’m (53) happily married but if I wasn’t, I’d likely have to date someone inappropriately young. I’m just not sure i could find a single womay age that’s into what I’d like to do. In most cases I’d have more in common with their kids’ interests.

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  • krisevol@lemmus.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    It’s easier that you think. Just take a class in your local jc college, once they find out you have a house, pension, 401k, and are a cool dude you can have several of them. My last gf i meet because she was a delivery driver and was crying about not being able to pay rent and her boyfriend was a dead beat. I straight up said, in taking applications for a 2nd and my wife is cool with it. She said, “you hiring?”

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    • JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I live in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Finding super cool young women who want to date me is beyond easy. I get hit on all the time as it is. I guess what I am lamenting is not being able to find someone my age that shares my interests and energy levels.

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  • Chef@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    This is where I’m at now.

    I’ve never married. I have no children nor do I ever want them.

    I’ve been what many would describe as “successful” in my professional life.

    I have modest personal wealth which allows me to travel far more extensively than most people.

    In the last few years, I’ve started dating an age pool that many of my contemporaries consider “too young.” Not even close to the age gap that our dear Violet is describing, but enough that I’ve gotten the eye rolls and comments and “sugar daddy” accusations.

    The women I date have college degrees. They have independence. They have their own money. Many are entrepreneurs, as am I. Almost all, like me, can work remotely from anywhere that has internet access.

    A vast majority of women my age are not interested in the lifestyle I want and have. I’ve found it to just be far more rare.

    Younger women are more likely to be aligned with me politically. My experience is that women my age are more likely to have the old pension mindset rather than entrepreneurial mindset.

    Can I find someone my age that shares my values and lifestyle? Absolutely - but I’ve found that pool is far, far smaller as you increase the age range.

    I’ll take the eye rolls and comments if it allows me to go to away at the last minute for a weekend in Ibiza or Saint Tropez whenever I choose. My childfree ass will take that over visiting her grandkids any day.

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    • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Changing where you live can really reverse what you’re describing, but I know that’s not always realistic. I live in the Bay Area and I’m middle-aged. The dating pool is full of people with my values and who like doing stuff I’m into, like going to live music and rocking out. Less than with younger people, but that’s about stamina more than interests.

      If I lived in the midwest, where my family all live, there’d be nothing. Conservative bland bullshit. Dunno where you live, but something to consider.

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    • JoMiran@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      ☝️Exactly this almost word for word.

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  • jdr@lemmy.ml ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Interests in youthful flesh aside, what’s this about having to share interests?

    You don’t both need to be into Pokemon and kickboxing and old church Slavonic to be in love.

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• CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  But retirement age is definitely not middle aged 🤔

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  • Thalion@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Any age is retirement age if you can afford it

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  • Agent641@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    You can retire from cops or military at a surprising young age.

    That probably doesn’t apply here though

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• SailorFuzz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  yea… I don’t care how “two consenting adults” shit is… massive age gaps are always going to be weird and creepy to me.

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  • db2@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Then don’t do one. As long as one party isn’t a kid it’s not your concern.

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    • bloogoose@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      This has the same vibe as “she’s 18” like 18 isn’t a child…

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• thecommonistagenda@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Nothing has made me want to delete lemmy faster than this post and the comments on this post what the fuck is wrong with y’all

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• jdr@lemmy.ml ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Where’s the grindset in that?

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