Comment on my fling and I are opposites but very compatible
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 day agoChanging where you live can really reverse what you’re describing, but I know that’s not always realistic. I live in the Bay Area and I’m middle-aged. The dating pool is full of people with my values and who like doing stuff I’m into, like going to live music and rocking out. Less than with younger people, but that’s about stamina more than interests.
If I lived in the midwest, where my family all live, there’d be nothing. Conservative bland bullshit. Dunno where you live, but something to consider.
Chef@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Definitely appreciate the comment.
I’m bicoastal in two gigantic cities and counterintuitively that likely exacerbates the problem.
I would love to be with someone “age appropriate” (hate that term) if they align with my lifestyle. I’ve probably encountered that less than five times.
Maybe I’m immature? Midlife crisis? I don’t think so and my therapist is brutally honest - she doesn’t see any red flags. I’m choosy about those with whom I share my time and I’m probably overly conscious that there isn’t an unhealthy power dynamic (as is common with larger age gaps.)