Submitted 1 day ago by codewizard@hear-me.social to [deleted]
@nostupidquestions instead of asking, "what tasks l have for the day ?" , is it better to ask, "What do l feel like doing now ?"
No, this is a bad idea. 90% of life is getting through the things you don’t want to do so you can get to the things you do. Also you might want to cut back on the edibles.
As someone with ADHD, no absolutely not lol. However I do it all of the time anyway
No, it’s better to have awareness of both. What needs to be done, how long it takes, and what dependencies exist. I feel like taking a nap, but I have work and house chores. So I’ll take care of some small things that aren’t too taxing while I drink coffee and regain some energy.
If I have the motivation to do the task it doesn’t matter how I ask myself, I will do it.
Likewise if I have no motivation.
Another thing, say “I get to”. “I get to do laundry!” “I get to go to sleep soon!”
It does help
All my family members in my house have chronic illnesses, so any given day I may be taking them to scheduled appointments, the ER, or massaging my wife’s legs as she has severe neuropathy that causes her intense pain but my massage helps temporarily alleviate it. I’m also the sole working person in the family and the only one who can drive(until next month when my youngest gets his license!) most days I don’t get to pick my schedule, I might have all of 1 hour not consumed by the needs of the family on any given day and I must always be ready for my plans to be destroyed by an emergent event. I wish I could ask the question you pose.
@TheRagingGeek thank you for sharing your perspective.
For me it’s wait tell my wife tells me what I’m going to do today!
Can confirm, if you have that prerogative it sure as hell is!
@LovableSidekick don't understand.
That is unintentionally how ADHD brains work. It results in executive dysfunction
@Witchfire what's ADHD brain ?
I would like to live life like that but life makes me do the task list.
Some of column A, and some of column B. You are going to have tasks which need to get done, but you don’t really want to do. Do I want to wash the dishes? Honestly, no. It’s not something I enjoy doing. Do I need to wash the dishes? Yes, if I don’t we get ants in the kitchen, the dishes start to smell and we run out of clean dishes. There will be tasks which ate less time dependent and I can do something I feel like doing first. Maybe the chores I need to get done around the house are done for the day and I can spend a bit of time playing a video game.
Life isn’t all playtime and roses. Sometimes:
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@sylver_dragon thanks for that wonderful answer :)))
Emotionally I agree but my employer would certainly say otherwise,
It totally depends if you are working for yourself or somebody else.
AcesFullOfKings@feddit.uk 1 day ago
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 1 day ago
You and me both, brother.
EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Then rephrase to “I HAVE to do something, what do I feel like doing?”
I mean, the answer is still nothing, but at least I’ll feel more compelled to choose.
I just need to make a chore dart board…