Would you ever call your son a disappointment?

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• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Yes, assuming they have disappointed me.

  It’s normal to express your emotions.

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  • angrystego@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It’s normal to express emotions and it’s good to learn to first process them properly and then express them in a healthy way that is not harmful for others.

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    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Yeah, no.

      This ‘do no harm’ shit is nothing more than toxic positivity.

      Pain is part of life. Learn to deal with it and stop trying to avoid it pathologically. You should feel bad for disappointing people.

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  • Ikon@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I agree thats its normal to express your emotions, but there is a difference between telling someone that they have disappointed you and telling someone that they are a disappointment.

    Calling someone a disappointment implies that it is something intrinsic about the person, while saying that someone has disappointed you shows that it is something that they have done and isn’t an overarching accusation.

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• z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Only if my son is Mr. Frog.

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• mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Yeah if they landed in jail and or did some heinous crime. But knowing me, I’d word it as “you disappointment me” instead. Like this is a moment in time and they can still change

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• homes@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  No, because I don’t want to find out what a true disappointment is

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• FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Maybe if they were openly a bigot

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• RBWells@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  What the actual fuck? NO. Kids who are little are little kids, they are all potential, you can be somewhat disappointed in their behavior occasionally but not them. Grown kids are grownups with their own lives, they can disappoint themselves I guess but not me, and if they somehow managed it I still would not say that, they don’t exist to satisfy me, that’s not the point of having kids. Had kids to have a family and to grow some independent adults so they could have lives of their own.

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• theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Yes even though it would be partially my fault if they’re racist, sexist , transphobia, join the military or police and so on, that’s a failure to raise them on my part and choosing to be a worthless being on their part.

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• ptolemai@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Telling anyone they’re a disappointment isn’t helpful. Instead ,ask if they can do X or Y and express why you think its helpful.

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• philanthropicoctopus@thelemmy.club ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I wouldn’t no. There’s only afew things he could ever do to justify those words, and even then, what purpose would it serve?

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• KissyCat@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Absolutely not. No matter what they have done, my love and support is unconditional. They may do things I don’t approve of, but I try to understand what motivates them and forgive them.

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  • dogs0n@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Even if they murder your dog in cold blood and eat it?

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    • KissyCat@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      They wouldn’t do that.

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• BilboBargains@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  It’s difficult to imagine a situation where this would be an appropriate thing to say. We don’t get to choose how we feel but articulating those feelings can be incredibly damaging. I would think carefully about why you think that. Children need love and compassion no matter what, else they may find themselves in the same situation that you are now in.

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  • dogs0n@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Maybe they eat your dog?

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    • BilboBargains@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I am disappointed you ate my dog. There I said it, are you happy now?

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• hexagonwin@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  i would say that’s a terrible parent. glad mine’s not.

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• Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I’d be disappointed to find I had one. I’d be a terrible mother and my wife would be even worse!

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• rossman@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I was called lesser so kinda the same thing. I never use that word cause it’s reserved for tywin Lannister type of dudes lol

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• BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  My kid is a dream. I was an older Dad, and I worried about dealing with a teenager during my 50s, but he has always been level headed. We never had to deal with drug, alcohol, smoking, no pregnancy scares, nothing. He got great grades, really talented, a school leader without even trying. He could be a little lazy, I used to have to remind him that he couldn’t be a slacker because his peers were watching him.

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• edgemaster72@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I am the disappointing son but I’ll never have children so I don’t have to worry about that

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• Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I can’t be disappointed when I didn’t have any expectations

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• justlemmyin@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Reminds me of the epic song…

  All I all I all I all I, Want is, Just a little bread. Mama calls me disappointment, Papa calls me fat.

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• Iconoclast@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  No. That would imply belief in the kind of free will I don’t think exists.

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