Submitted 2 days ago by PixelNomad@sopuli.xyz to [deleted]
Would you ever straight up say to your son, ‘You are a disappointment’?
I’d like to believe I wouldn’t, but I’m a flawed man, and going crazy with my words is one of my big ones. Hopefully, God willing, I won’t. I have become a much more considerate and softer person thanks to my wife, maybe that’ll be enough.
Yes, assuming they have disappointed me.
It’s normal to express your emotions.
It’s normal to express emotions and it’s good to learn to first process them properly and then express them in a healthy way that is not harmful for others.
Yeah, no.
This ‘do no harm’ shit is nothing more than toxic positivity.
Pain is part of life. Learn to deal with it and stop trying to avoid it pathologically. You should feel bad for disappointing people.
I agree thats its normal to express your emotions, but there is a difference between telling someone that they have disappointed you and telling someone that they are a disappointment.
Calling someone a disappointment implies that it is something intrinsic about the person, while saying that someone has disappointed you shows that it is something that they have done and isn’t an overarching accusation.
Yeah if they landed in jail and or did some heinous crime. But knowing me, I’d word it as “you disappointment me” instead. Like this is a moment in time and they can still change
i would say that’s a terrible parent. glad mine’s not.
No, because I don’t want to find out what a true disappointment is
I’d be disappointed to find I had one. I’d be a terrible mother and my wife would be even worse!
Yes even though it would be partially my fault if they’re racist, sexist , transphobia, join the military or police and so on, that’s a failure to raise them on my part and choosing to be a worthless being on their part.
Telling anyone they’re a disappointment isn’t helpful. Instead ,ask if they can do X or Y and express why you think its helpful.
I wouldn’t no. There’s only afew things he could ever do to justify those words, and even then, what purpose would it serve?
I was called lesser so kinda the same thing. I never use that word cause it’s reserved for tywin Lannister type of dudes lol
My kid is a dream. I was an older Dad, and I worried about dealing with a teenager during my 50s, but he has always been level headed. We never had to deal with drug, alcohol, smoking, no pregnancy scares, nothing. He got great grades, really talented, a school leader without even trying. He could be a little lazy, I used to have to remind him that he couldn’t be a slacker because his peers were watching him.
I am the disappointing son but I’ll never have children so I don’t have to worry about that
I can’t be disappointed when I didn’t have any expectations
Reminds me of the epic song…
All I all I all I all I, Want is, Just a little bread. Mama calls me disappointment, Papa calls me fat.
No. That would imply belief in the kind of free will I don’t think exists.
neidu3@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Fuck no