Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: 🌧 Monday, November 18, 2024

LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’m sorry you had to go through that.

  I know it’s difficult to dismiss a parents opinion, but I would highly recommend it in this case.

  It sounds like he has no understanding of the way the world works at the moment. I hear this a lot from people. That their parents are completely disconnected from the realities of life these days.

  You’re not a loser and I hope you know that ❤️

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Thank you! I will (try to) dismiss it.

    I agree, he doesn’t understand the way the world works at the moment.

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    • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’ve been through it in the past, and the best thing you can do I think, is to focus on the fact that you’re doing your best, and that’s more than good enough ❤️

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• TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Yesterday my dad called me a loser because I am underemployed right now. what a prick. You didnt need to say or justify anything beyond that. Hes a prick. Nothing more to say and nothing else matters beyond that. You dont speak to your kids like that. EVER. Even if you aint a kid any more.

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    He did apologise, saying he believes in me and that he was just trying to push me, but that’s definitely a mean thing to call someone.

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    • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      He may be sincere in his apology, but I’m so sorry you experienced that from your father. The things our parents say tend to stick around a while in our heads (my egg donor said “you’re just like your father!” And slapped me when I replied “good!” lol, I’ll never forget), but know that YOU ARE NOT A LOSER!!! no one here would ever say or think that about you, because it’s untrue! You are nowhere near to being a loser and your dad should spend the rest of his life making it up to you imo.

      We love you!

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      • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        💜💜

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    • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It’s the sort of comment that might have motivated him as a young man, and may be motivational for your twin, but definitely is not effective as a motivator for you. And as your parent he should have seen that a lot earlier.

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      • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Yes, he should know by now I’m sensitive!

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• just_kitten@aussie.zone ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Let me add to the pile of outrage at your dad for saying such a horribly hurtful and useless comment.

  I want to write a whole essay to you because I have a similar family dynamic (very accomplished eldest bro who seems to be doing fine with a very fast paced life) - and I certainly didn’t get taken seriously for much of my early adulthood

  I should go pack though. But all I can say is… it does get better, with age and experience their opinions matter less, and life becomes more about keeping yourself afoat the way that works best for you.

  For comparison, said wildly successful older bro had massive setback later in life that’s been going on for years now. And he is far worse equipped to handle it mentally and emotionally because his life has always been superlative and successful. He had never really experienced failure before. It’s a huge learning curve later on in life. So take that for what it’s worth…

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• Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Jesus Christ, I’m sorry but a parent should not be calling their child that.

  That’s just not right!

  People go through different journeys through life to get to where they want, there’s no playbook by any means.

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Exactly!

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    • Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I hope you’re ok coming from this, it did make me pretty angry reading about it, that’s not the way to encourage someone.

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• melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Has… he seen the job market? A very hurtful and clueless thing for him to say. Very boomer.

  And yes mental health struggles make life a lot harder. Not everyone can be a machine. Those expectations are pretty high, I’d even say unrealistic, and I think your sister might even secretly be feeling the high pressure job. If not now then at some point. If anything happens that pace might not be sustainable.

  Comparing you to a sibling is also not appropriate to do.

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• CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  As a parent sometimes we say things out of frustration. It doesn’t make it right though. Big hugs for you because you are going forward and that’s the main thing. 💛

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Thank you 🫂

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• SpinMeAround@aussie.zone ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  That’s so shit and so fucked up. I’m glad he apologised, but it’s not fair that he did that in first place. Comparison is the thief of joy, you’re doing YOU and that’s all that matters. You are loved!

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Thank you, that is very true :) I will keep doing me and trust that things will click into place.

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• Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  wtf, i wouldn’t say that to a friend let alone a daughter

  you know you’re right , you know they were wrong

  but it hurts so bad, hurts because why would they even say that, they are supposed to be kind and supportive, and you know they know how to be supportive because they are to other people

  so many many hugs

  I know it hurts, I know that having the kindness and support of those we love makes us feel like we can conquer the world but there are times we need to be our own best friend

  you have us as your friend and you have yourself, you’re a really good friend

  me, my family of origin want me to be loser, they would get angry when I has success of any kind, I lost them instead

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    🫂💜

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