Comment on Anon is asking the difficult questions

ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  You basically described my dream woman

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  • qarbone@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    We fetishizing autism now?

    Missed that memo.

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    • BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      If I’m autistic and want to find a romantic partner that I can connect with on that level, is that fetishizing?

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      • qarbone@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Well, I didn’t find a real, good definition of ‘fetishizing’ but, if we agree on the one I’ll provide below, you should be able to answer for yourself in this and future cases.^1

        Fetishization is the choice to extremely, positively overweight one or more intrinsic qualities of a person or group of people, such that there is a sexual or romantic preference of a person or group of people based on that innate trait, irrespective of their overall character as a person.

        Autism is weird for this definition because, while it is an inherent facet of a person, it does have a large effect on how a person grows up. This obviously shapes their character.

        As an experiment, take your hypothetical dream person. A second party is a necessity for mental grounding. If you can find another person to assist, have them swap out character traits (social, personal, mental, etc.) until you find a point you’d no longer find the hypothetical dream person appealing.

        Anyway, hope you can do some self-study and find that answer.

        ^1 If you don’t agree, then we’re piss outta luck and I’m gonna leave.

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    • Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I dont think its weird to find autism attractive. Depending on who you ask, it might be called a disorder or just a normal trait. It’s the same way that any trait can be attractive.

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    • WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I fon’t thşnk that şs fetishising. That’s preference, fetishism mean reducing someone/something to a sexual object

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      • MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        That’s just the more common usage. It doesn’t just apply to relationships or people, but also hobbies and professions.

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    • MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Ever saw/read sousou no Frieren?

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      • qarbone@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Yes?

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• captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  You just described both of my partners

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• Taalnazi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Those are good choices

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