Also hair is uncontrollable and gets everywhere if you let it. If you are already stressed, then you can literally get annoyed by your hair existing on your head doing its thing.
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spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 months ago
it happens in movies because it happens in real life too. when in crisis, often there is sense of loss of control or autonomy. for most, something that can provide an outlet for such a frustration is one’s appearance. and, while men do too, women broadly tend to have the more intimate relationship with their hair. so: haircut (or hair dye, or both).
unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 2 months ago
spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 months ago
yes! i wanted to mention this, that hair can be a sensory overload problem too so cutting hair can just be a way to optimize sensory performance in a state of stress as well. but i forgot so thanks for the reminder!
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Women fuck their hair?
2ugly2live@lemmy.world 2 months ago
“Intimate” as in close, and personal/important, not… That.
rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I think you are lying.
2ugly2live@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Well, I’ve never met a hair fucker 🤣
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
Can confirm the guy side of this. Have shaved my head in moments of crisis. Not something I consciously considered before doing it. Just felt… Idk, claustrophobic and needed to do something.
Also, when my mom was in the hospital last year, had I been able to get in with one, I would’ve had a tattoo by the time she got out.
Kyatto@leminal.space 2 months ago
I’ve done it before too, lowest point in my life, just grabbed some scissors and cut down my long hair :(
A little upsetting to see people calling it a trope, when it is a real reaction to trauma :/
Jesus_666@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Tropes can absolutely be based in reality. A trope is simply a commonly used stylistic device or convention in media. Sometimes it’s commonly used because reality just works that way. There nothing inherently cheap about it.
Cutting the hair short as a trope tells us that the character is in an extremely stressful or even traumatic situation and is trying to regain a sense of control. That’s a complex situation but can be told in seconds by relating to actual reality.
It’s not a trope in reality but it is one when used to convey a characters emotional state in a story.
Damage@feddit.it 2 months ago
As confirmed by the “Real Life” section on tvtropes pages
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Also guy here, did this as well.
But uh, mainly because I literally cannot get to a haircut place. Been functionally hobbled for 6 months, car got stolen, don’t know anybody nearby with a car, no public transit.
Been ordering delivery groceries for a while now, added a buzz trimmer to it this month.
At the rate my hair grows, it’ll be back to roughly the length I usually keep it at by the time my PT regimen gets me back into ‘normal’ shape (probably another 6 months).
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
Hitting the nail on the head in that last paragraph.
Also, I’m sorry. That’s a shitty situation. It’s wildly unl unlikely, but if you happen to be in east TN, I have a car and don’t mind taxi-ing a Lemming in need
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Hah, I am nearly a thousand miles away, but I appreciate the sentiment.
Today is the day I try to find a printer to print off a bunch of docs for the public housing thing… unfortunately, as my wallet was also stole (multiple times), my checking account is somehow not in my bank statements, so i get to hope they’ll accept a raw csv file hastily formatted in excel and printed off.
TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I have full sleeve tattoos that started as piecemeal trauma tattoos. I get it.
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
I’m still highly considering a tattoo, but now in a much more stable place, so my needle phobia is helping keep my canvas blank lol
imPastaSyndrome@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I really don’t like needles, but I’ve found that I really just don’t like them
INSIDE MY BODY INSIIIIDE ME OUT OUT OUT
and I really enjoyed getting my tattoo other than the mild amounts of pain. I still love it.