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Dusty old bones, full of green dust.
- Comment on Anon sees a happy couple 1 day ago:
Probably didn’t go in with the idea that the only way she would be interested in similar hobbies was for her to be whipped in some way and just treated her like a person. 🤷🏿♀️
- Comment on The priorities of life 4 days ago:
Same. Even just taking walks around my area can be scary (though I also don’t know how to ride lol). I could go to the store, but only that one store. My actual grocery store + most things are in a strip mall with no sidewalks to be seen, not even a curb to slow down cars thay come too close.
- Comment on please punish me 5 days ago:
You could just not be in a relationship if you don’t like your partner, or talk to them if you want to work on communicating. “Please punish me.” Like, you don’t need to ask. Just leave 🤣
- Comment on my version is better 6 days ago:
“‘E’ for very, very, extra ordinary.” VS “‘E’ for very, very, extraordinary.” The way I heard it performed always sounded like two separate words. I was like, “damn, she couldn’t just be nice the whole song?” I finally read the lyrics when I was older.
“I don’t want another heartache at my door, don’t want another heartache on my list” VS “don’t want another heartache on my lips.”
- Comment on Anyone know where this is from? 1 week ago:
That was honestly my first thought. It was just “Household of - address-” the envelope was also interesting so I opened it instead of tossing it with the junk.
- Comment on Anyone know where this is from? 1 week ago:
No. Never. I’ve been at my current place for a few years and this was the first time ever saw it.
- Comment on Anyone know where this is from? 1 week ago:
Thank you so much!
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- Comment on I miss when you could get a flagship phone that could fit in your hand 1 week ago:
I have big hands, so I had the opposite problem. To this day my favorite was the galaxy note 4 because he was a beefy boy ❤️
- Comment on Anon lives with his sister 2 weeks ago:
“Sister does the usual whore talk of taking a shower and going to bed.”
Apparently, I too am a whore. 😂
- Comment on Anon cheats through college 2 weeks ago:
He should be grateful. I hear programming interviews are pretty similar, as in the employer provides the code, and will pretty much watch you work it in some cases. Rather be embarrassed now than interview time. I’m honestly impressed he went the entire time memorizing the code enough to be able to explain it, and picked up nada.
- Comment on The one drawback to walking at night 2 weeks ago:
I guess my issue is why the discomfort of some men is what dominated the conversation (in this instance). Men are also victims of murder, more so than women. But this thread went right into, “You’re making us feel attacked.” This wasn’t about them in this capacity. The energy wasn’t, "I wonder why that is, or, “me too” or even, “lol, hyperbole.” It’s like, “Me too” versus “what about me” energy.
One of the highest posts (at the time of replying) is a damn near essay about how it’s worse for men when the post isn’t even denying that in the first place. Like, I don’t even disagree with it, but why are “you” on the defensive? If we’re on the same side, and both genders don’t want to be murdered, why did “You” come in with that energy? I could understand if they said “me too” and were hit with an essay in return, or silenced. But they weren’t (not that they should have been). Men didn’t join this conversation/thread and expand on the experience, they took it over and completely changed topic because (some of) their hurt feelings were more pressing than the concerns being referenced to. This meme didn’t even pick women out as the sole victim, and they still came in ready to yell over the hypothetical female victim of this hypothetical night crime.
Their feelings being hurt outweighed any truth behind that meme. Their feelings outweighed concerns for their own safety. Their feelings outweighed any woman who did feel like that post was relatable, who could have shared tips or suggestions. If someone did that now, they would have to “prove” their point before they could address it, or that they’re not trying to say they hate xyz, they’re just trying to give tips, etc.,etc.
This is not to say those mens’ feelings do not matter, nor that they should not be addressed in how we talk about violence, this is to say that this wasn’t about them, feelings or otherwise. It was about people, of any gender, who like going out at night, but sometimes get spooked. It was making a joke at how some activities aren’t always safe, and that sucks. If they saw themselves on the same side, I don’t know why they made it “male victim” VS “female victim” in the first place.
(Sorry that this is long as hell. I’m a rambler.)
- Comment on Twinkle Tush 2 weeks ago:
I like the idea of a cat owner laying in bed, wide awake, trying to figure out how to cover their cats butthole.
- Comment on Anyone ever look at pictures of themselves as a child and feel no connection to them? 2 weeks ago:
Not flippant at all. I’m in therapy now actually. 🤗
- Comment on Anyone ever look at pictures of themselves as a child and feel no connection to them? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t have pictures of myself. I look at myself in every stage with disgust, from infancy to now. I know my mother has some, but she knows go keep them away from me as I will destroy them. I don’t want to see myself if I don’t have to, and I don’t have to. I look similar enough to my childhood self that I don’t want to see her either.
- Comment on The one drawback to walking at night 2 weeks ago:
I am judged for the way I look. I am very large and masculine, as well as black. I am more likely to be confused as the danger than be in danger. I have had women cross the street to avoid me. So, as a person who has experienced this more than being seen as a woman, I still wouldn’t be upset. I don’t get mad or offended when a woman avoids me because she doesn’t know me. I’m a stranger, and she doesn’t owe me her bravery or even her kindness. Yeah, she doesn’t know me, yeah, I’m not a threat, but I don’t know that woman and it’s not for me to police.
And you know what I mean by the last part. I am very, very well aware that emotional abuse is extremely damaging. Any kind of abuse is. What I meant was that if you have the choice of murder or emotional abuse, I would pick emotional abuse extremely on the ground that I’m not dying, not because I think it’s “easy.” I thought it was belittling the danger that some people face as not a fear for their lives. That’s why I compared it to male DV because I below e that to be on a similar level, not that emotional abuse just doesn’t exist.
- Comment on The one drawback to walking at night 2 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t defend it because I wouldn’t even think it was talking about me in the first place. Some women are emotionally abusive, but I wouldn’t assume they literally meant every single woman on earth is an asshole and feel the urge to swoop in with, “Hey, not all women. Some of us are nice! Here, look at these studies that show that women are more likely to be in the other end of the abuse!”
Honestly, I’m more concerned if you think the threat of murder at night is a comparable threat to emotional abuse from any gender.
- Comment on The one drawback to walking at night 2 weeks ago:
Random woman: I like late night walks, but I’m scared for my safety.
This thread for some reason: YOU DON’T THINK MEN GET SCARED? MURDERED!?
Like, chill. Yes, men can absolutely be murdered/hurt walking alone. But are we really going to sit here and act like women are making up their concerns/grievances out of spite? For some reason, if anyone mentions a general concern/issue related to women’s experiences with men, some people trip over themselves to say how it’s actually not an issue and how it’s actually so much worse for men. If I’m listening to a male DV victim and I go, “well, actually, women are more likely to be victims of DV. You know, it’s actually not even an issue for you. Here, look at these numbers that prove that women are the victims. Do you not mention it because you hate women? Why are you trying to ruin our spotless reputation as delicate flowers that can do no wrong with your lies”, you would think I was nuts, and for good reason.
- Comment on SLAY 4 weeks ago:
🥺
- Comment on Anon goes on a first date 5 weeks ago:
Did he put that in his hobbies? That’s like going out with someone who likes hiking and being mad when they mention their favorite trail. Anon dodged a bullet.
- Comment on Would you do Onlyfans if needed the money? 5 weeks ago:
I feel the same way. I was really surprised that OnlyFans took off the way it did, when it did. There’s so much out there, I didn’t think there would be a market.
- Comment on Would you do Onlyfans if needed the money? 1 month ago:
That’s a good point. It’s not like we’re lacking attractive people on the internet.
- Comment on Would you do Onlyfans if needed the money? 1 month ago:
If I knew I was going to make some money? Sure. But I hear it’s super difficult since so many people do the same. But if you think you have a gimmick, or are super attractive, you could make a but of change.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
“It’s funny she called ME a thief, but now SHE doesn’t have a car and I do. Maybe I should have been called the ‘owner’ all along.”
- Comment on Anon doesn't wash 1 month ago:
My mom has always made me “wash chicken,” which would just be running it under water. Just chicken, nothing else.
I used to do it out of habit, but laziness seems to have worked in my favor this time.
- Comment on Anon goes to therapy 1 month ago:
- Family/Friends tend to know too much to be an unbiased sound board. And what if the issue is family/friends? Are you sure they won’t chat about it? Or treat you differently? What if they get defensive and you don’t get a chance to talk about your issue?
- If talking to yourself works, that’s great (genuinely), but the therapist is there to mention, notice, and discuss things you may not have realized. Like, you may think so-and-so hates you, so you’re trying to figure out how to get them to like you because you think it’s very important, the therapist may have you question if it’s worth the effort in the first place.
- ChatGPT is like taking therapy from TikTok. It’s just spitting back whatever it collects on the internet. It’s not really looking into you specifically. You can also “guide” Ai. And you’re the one reporting your symptoms, which could also mess with the results. I’ve had to take a test in therapy and there were a few questions I was like, “nope, I don’t have issues with that,” and she stopped the test and brought up situations I had told her and behavior I didn’t recognize as an issue and I changed my answer. ChatGPT is likely not going to do that.
- Comment on Anon goes to therapy 1 month ago:
Probably fake, but a therapist should never say anything like that. I’m in my 30’s and a virigin, and no doctor, therapist, etc., has ever asked me anything close to that. And if they did, I’d be searching for a new therapist. Wouldn’t even finish the session.
- Comment on Anons make the worst game ever 1 month ago:
It’s great, but it’s an experience. The combat is fine, but it’s how it works with the story that makes it special. Headphones are an absolute must (like, I genuinely think you will be having lesser, less authentic gameplay experience if you’re not using headphones). I thought it was a lovely piece of media.
- Comment on Anons make the worst game ever 1 month ago:
- Lonely? Don’t worry, the main character is never going to shut up and will comment on every single thing with lines that won’t get old at all.
- Yeah, you can play with your friend… After hours of gameplay, once you both have this super special item and only for certain, boring ass missions.
- You need an account, and we have no native sign up so we’re going to open up a completely different window while you try to drag your mouse awkwardly with the controller. Yes, the cancel button is very close to the confirm, no there’s no confirmation, and yes you’ll have to start this shit from scratch.
- Escort missions, but the escort won’t get out of the fucking way, and your shots can kill them.
- Currency systems that are just currencies within currencies, within currencies.
- The items are easy enough to see, but you have to be in just the right location to pick it up.
- There’s a save screen, but nothing actually pauses.
- I know 99% of games use similar buttons for different functions, but what if she switch it up, just for giggles? Let’s make “jump” the R1 button!
- Comment on Anon sees happy people 1 month ago:
I can agree with that. I don’t think people are used to having to take men’s feelings into consideration (with the body shaming or, like, anything to be fair) the same way they do with women, and are usually less empathetic to them because of that.
It was a pleasure discussing this with you, even if we disagree on some things. I think both of are hearts are in the right place, and I can’t be mad at that. And, next time, I hope to be in the comments with you to call it out too🤝🏾
