Comment on Why do arranged marriages persist in many cultures?

answersplease77@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

• nutsack@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  “it’s tradition” isn’t much of an explanation

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  • ribhu@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    What he means is that there is a deep rooted segregation of men and women. Especially in rural parts of India, where you can get to your mid-20s without interacting with a person from the opposite sex (not from your family i.e.). There are no social settings where you can “meet people” and hence for marriage, arranged is the only way.

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  • kent_eh@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    “it’s tradition” isn’t much of an explanation

    It’s not a moral answer, but it is an accurate answer.

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  • One_Dunya@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Endogamy is one of the practices that took root in Indian society as a way to enforce the caste system. Some scholars even call it the rationale behind the caste system. It’s got it’s roots in Hindu scriptures (not hating on the religion, but it does need reformation IMO).

    To read more about one of the foremost Indian/subaltern scholars on this explanation (endogamy) - baws.in/books/baws/EN/Volume_01/pdf/20

    P.S I think proximity to India, trade with India could have lead to the practice being observed in Afghanistan, but it also seems like Islamic clergy (majority practice this in Afghanistan) does not have entirely progressive views on this.

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    • ____@infosec.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Some of this - and I speak exclusively from a layman standpoint of having worked extensively with quite a few Indian colleagues - has to do with whether an education system (or culture) prioritizes rote memorization vs critical thinking. India tends towards the former, the West mostly tends towards the latter.

      Much simpler to persist the practice across many years when the majority of folks are explicitly taught to accept what they are told and not to actually consider it.

      Context, I’m an American working for a large public company whose execs appear to have actually realized they got too aggressive with offshoring in recent years and are actually reversing the practice to a relatively sensible degree.

      There is shareholder value in workers who come from e.g., a caste system, but there is also a significant risk to shareholder value when too many levels of decision-making are sent to places where that mindset is common.

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      • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        There is shareholder value in workers who come from e.g., a caste system, but there is also a significant risk to shareholder value when too many levels of decision-making are sent to places where that mindset is common.

        Very interesting. Can you give examples of how this became an issue?

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      • whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Congrats on being racist!

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  • Drummyralf@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Not if your culture doesn’t value tradition. Yet there are cultures where tradition is ingrained in it’s value systems.

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  • Omniraptor@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    This book review (never got around to reading the book itself) made me understand why people think “it’s tradition” is a valid explanation. I disagree still but i couldn’t find any counterarguments.

    slatestarcodex.com/…/book-review-the-secret-of-ou…

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    • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Holy shit, just reading about surviving in the arctic made my head spin.

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    • Willy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      that was an amazing read. thanks. I didn’t expect to be up so late and totally captivated.

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