Comment on Men against bush

MBech@feddit.dk ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• baggachipz@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one.

  Should this conversation happen prior to the encounter, then?

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  • MBech@feddit.dk ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Nothing wrong with talking about expectations prior to banging.

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    • baggachipz@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      “Oh you grew up in Phoenix? My family’s in Scottsdale. So, like, do you have pubes?”

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      • HAL_9_TRILLION@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Sorry, Scottsdale is a dealbreaker.

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    • Viceversa@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      In theory - yes. But in practice it would be rude and / or ruining the moment.

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      • Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        If the moment can be ruined by something little, it was going to be ruined to begin with.

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      • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Much more rude to tell a woman you don’t want to fuck her after she’s taken her clothes off.

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Weeds out the weak quickly lol

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  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    If you care enough about it, yes.

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  • VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    If it’s actually a total deal breaker for you then … probably?

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    • baggachipz@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Nah, I’ve been married for 22 years, I don’t care anymore. Actually never did.

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• danciestlobster@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This is the real answer. I mean some compromise is normal and healthy in a relationship, but for the most part everyone just do what you are comfortable with and find people who are good with that

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  • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yep and if people at large could stop commenting on women’s body hair publicly, then everyone could be even more focused on finding people they are compatible with <3

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• velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This is about people who go out of their way to comment on typically women’s bodies or go out of their way to leave hate comments to women online for having body hair.

  This is in the intro of the video.

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  • MBech@feddit.dk ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m mostly refering to some of the comments in this thread. A lot seem to take it very personal that some people might not be into the same thing they are.

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Weird, I’m mostly seeing George Bush jokes.

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• Katrisia@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This is the answer in a pragmatic sense, in our day to day. It works, it’s fine. The thing is our tastes are not 100% natural and spontaneous, they can be influenced by context, and that context can be problematic. So the extra step these discussions are asking us to do is beyond the pragmatic or useful day to day advice you gave. It is questioning why we have those tastes. “Why don’t I like natural cis women?”, “Why am I not attracted to black people?”, “Why do I refuse to date trans guys?”. Etcetera. If we find it is not because of prejudices, societal expectations, 'must be’s from unequal societies, or anything like that, then it’s an unfortunate coincidence but we can move on. But if we find something like that (those things I listed), it is not necessarily permanent, I think most of the times it can be worked on, changed, and these discussions are also an invitation to do so.

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• ReptilianCleric@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Umm, I do, in fact, decide what I like or don’t like. That’s true for everybody. But I don’t decide what you like, and vice versa. So the issue is still that you can’t decide for other people what they’re into.

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  • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    How does that work? Especially given the context. As I’ve understood attraction and what one likes about the other person aren’t really changeable? I’m genuinely curious how can that be changed or decided?

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    • ReptilianCleric@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I don’t know - maybe just owning your choices?

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      • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        And still, hows that supposed to change what one likes?
        Of course i can consciously decide to override likes and preferences, but that still doesn’t change those. It will still be conscious decision every time.

        And giving the current context of sex. As I’ve understood, we aren’t supposed to force that?

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• Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.

  Hahaha, good one 😂

  … now I’m sad 😔

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  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    pokes your shoulder

    Hey, I like you!

    How’s today going?

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    • Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Hiii, yesterday was pretty bad, thanks for asking :)

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      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I can give you an internet hug or internet head pats if you would agree to such.

        Hope today is less bad.

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• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Here’s my approach to this, as a dude:

  I mean, really I don’t have a broad preference for or against bush at all…

  … but, if you want me to smooch things down there, please tidy up a bit.

  I just don’t like having a mouth full of hair.

  Don’t worry, I will tidy up too, for the reverse scenario, if partner also dislikes mouthful of hair, and! … this also applies to my facial hair… I’m not that attached to it, and it will grow back, if you want to smooch my face but don’t like the beard/stache.

  Maybe I am lucky in that I at least I think I look decent both with or without a beard/stache.

  This is to me completely fair and reciprocal, and … really is not that conplicated.

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