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Well I’m a woman and I’ve talked to some men too who agree that when we masturbate it tends to make us turn socially inward & diminishes our drive to reach out to other people.
Whereas sexual frustration compels us to go out into the world with a sense of hunger & ambition, seeking social interaction & activities.
It’s the lifestyle I’ve chosen because after years of suffering all aspects of this mortal hell we call life, I’d rather feel paragraph 2 than paragraph 1.
Life is about balance. You dont want to be a reclusive masturbation addict, and you don’t want to be an anxious frustrated nofapper.
Yeah but every time I cum alone, it reinforces the alone-ness. I’m sick of self-perpetuating loneliness. Going out into the world with hunger & ambition & angst feels empowering right now.
Then IMO follow what makes you feel right. In general just avoid taking things to extremes.
That same idea can get you into bad relationships. It’s better to find a partner with a level head.
It would seem like the source of this unhealthy worldview probably isn’t the masturbation. But if nofap honestly (honestly) helps you, then knock yourself out.
I dont agree with that statement unless you’re chronically masturbating to hours a day gooner levels. I personally MUST get the poison out once a day whether thats with my girl or myself.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
I sincerely dont and cant understand no-fap outside of an addiction 12-steps/abstinence style vantage point.
Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
It’s extremely dumb
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
Like, i dont get how they (presumuably) view having an orgasm-via-penis-in-vagina as biologically distinct from orgasm-via-masturbation. I dont think your body truly knows the difference in a mechanical sense.
Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
Idk I’m not a doctor but you sound right
meco03211@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Mechanical isn’t the only part being played. There’s hormones too. I’m positive there’s differences there depending on alone or with someone. Whether or not that has any health implications I’ve no idea.
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Having never looked into it, beyond what I come across occasionally on sites like this, I always assumed the idea was that being desperate for “relief” somehow made them more attractive to women, hormonally, or made them more “alpha”? Somehow.
Really stupid shit that kids fall for, I guess.
fireweed@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
I’ve also seen it recommended for breaking “death grip” habits.
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 hours ago
Yeah it would basically be an anti addiction approach for me. Addiction runs in my family and we get addicted to everything remotely pleasurable. So I’ve spent my whole life saying no to alcohol & drugs & cigarettes, and since I cant find a suitable companion I have to say no to orgasms too 🤷🏼♀️ For me it feels empowering.