You’re mom didn’t tell you the truth, plain and simple. Whether she knows the truth, that’s another story. You can’t re-absorb a whole baby, with bones and all that.
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KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days agoNo, no misinformation. Everything I wrote in the post is exact what my mom told me about her pregnancy and my birth, and what she told me was what the doctors told her what happened.
jol@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days ago
You calling my momma a liar‽
jnod4@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Tell her to quit the crack pipe
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 1 day ago
What Crack pipe? My mom’s never done Crack
11111one11111@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Which is all great but doesnt eliminate the likelihood of misinformation being the cause. Someone tryjng to protect another from what really happened. Whst does your dad say of the day?
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days ago
He didnt show up until after I had been born.
So he doesn’t really have any sorta say
deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 2 days ago
He didnt show up until after I had been born.
That’s a little odd. Is he your biological father?
bdonvr@thelemmy.club 2 days ago
This isn’t that odd. My father was deployed in the military when I was born
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Yes, he is my birth father
Typhoon@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
He’s saying the misinformation came from your mom or the doctors.
AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Why would OP’s mother bring up the ultrasound in the first place if she were deliberately trying to conceal anything?
I could see the twin being stillborn and the doctors thinking it was easier to tell the mother it had “vanished”, though.
SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world 2 days ago
TBF, subconscious feelings of guilt often come out in seemingly illogical ways such as this. Not saying that’s definitely what happened, but it’s a possibility not to be summarily dismissed, either.
tonyn@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
This is what I was getting at.
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I understand that, but i don’t think the misinformation was coming from my mother if that were the case. She told me exactly what happened and exactly what the doctors told her.
Typhoon@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
How sure are you about that? She would know if she gave birth twice, and a 7 month old fetus doesn’t vanish. There’s something she’s not telling you.
themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 days ago
The second fetus may have been terminally underdeveloped, and small enough to be delivered without realizing it was a second baby. They may have told her there was no second baby or that it was part of the afterbirth, or she may have misunderstood what they said.
Doctors have been known to lie to patients in the past, but the practice is not very common anymore in most cultures.
KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Because my mother has never lied to me. So why would she lie about something like this?
That’s how im sure about it. So if there’s any misinformation about it, it’s not from my mother. The doctors, maybe, but not my mother
Bob_Robertson_IX@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
My mom is what’s known as an ‘unreliable medical historian’… she very often hears something completely different from what her doctor tells her. I don’t want to say that she lies, because I think a ‘lie’ is a conscious choice that people make… but I also don’t think she’s incapable of understanding what her doctor tells her. I think she just has an idea of what the doctor is going to say, and when it is different she has a hard time letting go of her expectation and replacing it with reality.
I have no idea if this relates to your mother or situation in any way… but if I took everything my mom said her doctor told her then she is the most unique medical specimen ever. Her diabetes is unlike anyone else’s because she can still eat whatever she wants, when she wants… her doctor said that it’s not a problem. And her diabetes has changed from type 2 to type 1. As she was preparing for spine surgery she was convinced that she’d be back home, on her own in 2 weeks (it was closer to 9 months). She swears that the only surgeon that her primary care doctor wants her to see is 2 states over, 6 hours from any of her family (I’ve looked him up, he’s decent, but by no means a unique surgeon). And lots of other strange stuff over the years, including when I was a child.