Comment on Anon lives on a budget

• stiephelando@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Anon needs to find full time employment and get a roommate.

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  • finitebanjo@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    And vote blue

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    i know people making 150K a year, who complain they are broke.

    and they often actively refuse any suggestion of cutting their spending, getting a roommate, etc.

    it’s hilarious. and they go on and go on just like OP about how it’s the government’s fault

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• yakko@feddit.uk ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I don’t see what serious then from having a second shitty job? At 25 hours a week they’ve definitely got free time.

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  • Turret3857@infosec.pub ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That makes sense - for a given value of sense. American health care is just evil.

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  • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’ll second stray’s opinion, but also add on that you’re typically fighting for a job in those shitty areas. Anon is likely incredibly lucky to have gotten the above average wage job, and will still be in a big competition with others for the average wage jobs.

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    • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I get that. I do feel that with 15 extra hours per week, I could figure out some kind of side hustle. Even if all I did was sell random crappy art for cheap, it’d keep me saner than if I spent that time on 4chan

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  • stray@pawb.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Working two jobs can be difficult to impossible. The schedules usually aren’t fixed and cause frequent conflicts. A lot of places aren’t even willing to hire you if already work elsewhere because they don’t want the hassle.

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• blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The problem with saying obvious things to people with doomer attitudes is that they dismiss them out of hand as soon as they hear them. Literally any suggestion that is made is “dumb” or “impossible” or ends up being more evidence that the system is out to hurt and oppress them specifically.

  And of course, whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right - or at least the latter part is true.

  Overcoming any doomer mindset and beginning to work on your problems starts with admitting that maybe things aren’t quite as bleak as you think they are, and allowing yourself to believe that a better life is possible. Without that, no advice -regardless of content - will help

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  • Turret3857@infosec.pub ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • zout@fedia.io ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Don't be too hard on yourself, I'm not autistic and I also don't get the point he's trying to make. Probably something like "get a better job", "leave to somewhere where things are better", "go live with your friends/parents/whatever".

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      • PuddleOfKittens@sh.itjust.works ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Usually these people take it as an article of faith that there’s something you could do to unfuck your situation, without necessarily having any idea what that something is. I think he’s just fundamentally speaking abstractly.

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    • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I, of course, have my own ideas about what I would do in OP’s shoes. But I don’t claim that these are the “right” answers, and I don’t think these are the answers you “should” give. Literally all I’m saying is that OOP has options, and his biggest problem is that he refuses to believe they exist. So if you are in a similar situation to OOP, or empathize with him and want to know what advice would improve his situation, what I am saying is that you should start by opening up to the possibility that OP improving his life is under his control, and then just start thinking of ways that he could. And sure, some of these ideas you come up with will be dumb, or wrong. Some will seem like great ideas but will fall apart during implementation. And that’s all fine. There are no bad ideas, even if they don’t work, because the process of creating these ideas in the first place is the most important part of the process.

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  • chloroken@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Go array, Ayn Rand.

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    • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      This is literally why no therapist will ever say “okay, so here’s what you need to do to solve your fucked up problems.” Their patients need to come to the answers themselves to accept and take action on them.

      This is not controversial. It is literally standard practice among mental health professionals.

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      • chloroken@lemmy.ml ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Like I said: go away, chud.

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      • rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        You’re not even talking to the 4chan directly (probably), this is a comment thread on a different site.

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