Comment on Anon daydreams

MrJameGumb@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Am I just more charitable to anon, or is it just me? I thought that he just wants to hear these words once in a while occasionally, while being wanted by another person, just like he would want the same person.

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  • doomcanoe@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Nah, I agree with you. It is a bit “teen romance drama” style love, but it’s pretty clear from where I’m standing that anon’s whole list is just different ways of saying “I want to be loved” (don’t we all?). It may not be a realistic love, and it may be unhealthy if those are the standards they demand for their partner 100% of the time in real life. But as a day dream, we have all had these overly dramatic and impractical fantasies. There are literal media franchises, enjoyed by millions of people who otherwise have very healthy relationships, based on this exact form of wish fulfillment.

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  • Honytawk@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    You mean like “when you talk to strangers it makes me jealous”?

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    • mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      You mean the only thing in the post resembling a red flag?

      Being 4Chan, I was keeping an eye on the vibes of the post, and apart from that nothing sticks out as particularly off. And even then, being a bit jealous is understandable so long as it’s not acted on or causes mental issues

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    • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Nah, the other stuff

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• echodot@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Having a jealous partner is absolutely awful. They only think they want this they absolutely don’t.

  I had a friend who had a jealous boyfriend and he was convinced I was trying to sleep with her, at one point he tried to challenge me to a fight for her love or something. When I told him I wasn’t interested in her he got really mad and accused me of insulting his girlfriend. Unsurprisingly she ended up dumping him which frankly the entire friend group was relieved by.

  These people are nutcases if they think they want that

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  • doomcanoe@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I think there might be a bit of a wider spectrum of jealously than “not at all” and “I will fight you for even looking at my partner!”. A little jealously is normal, even in healthy relationships. We are all human after all.

    Giving anon the benefit of the doubt, I would hazard a guess that they wanted a “healthy level of jealousy”, as a treat.

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    • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      He was a weird one. He once made me play golf with him, and acted all smug and superior that apparently he was better at it than I was.

      I mean it’s golf, who cares?

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  • M137@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Then there are the people who make their partners jealous and suspicious, even if they never were before. Have an ex like that, I remember her talking about her ex early on in our relationship and how he’d constantly think she was cheating, even to the point where he went and looked for her at the bars she’d normally be at when she’s out with friends. I thought that was fucking nuts, but just a few months later I understood him. I never did what he did, but it didn’t take long for me to feel no trust for her. Many times it almost felt like she consciously made it seem like she was cheating and then freaked out whenever I even hinted at how it looked to me and others. And even when we were out together she always found some guy who fell for her right there and then did all the things people do when they flirt, but denying that she does flirt and saying it’s all subconscious. As far as I’m aware she has never been caught cheating, but I’m absolutely certain she does. It’s been 5 years since we broke up and I still feel like my normal trust and view of people is damaged because of her. And they guy she got together with after me, less than a week, had the same experience as me. She broke him in the same way. I had never before fully regretted a relationship of any kind, no matter how short or long, but with her I do. She’s gorgeous and generally has a good personality and is easy to fall in love with, then she breaks you and moves on within a week after.

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    • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      This thread made me realize that I have never really been in a relationship before.

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• LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  What’s scary is that this fantasy seems so desirable to so many, that it’s an ideal anyway

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  • the_crotch@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I blame anime.

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