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Comment on 32, f. Are there any dating sites that are actually free and don't suddenly force me to pay to actually use the site?

LordWiggle@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

I like OK Cupid. It works perfectly without paying and matches are better as they are based on questions you answer and profiles contain more info. So it’s less evaluating lifestock like Tinder.

There’s also Bumble, it used to be that the woman needs to start talking when matched within 24h otherwise the match disappears. This is so women won’t get spammed by loads of men. I heard they would change it, but I’m not sure if they actually did. It works fine without paying.

There’s Boo, which I think is mostly for autistic and introvert people. Works fine with the free version.

There’s Feeld, which works great without paying. The focus is mainly on sex, not so much relationship material imo.

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BlackPenguins@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
OKC is basically 90% bots now. I have 100+ likes. None are from my area or even my country.

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- CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Do the bots at least use AI to chat? Because that’s going to be better than the one word answers I get from the real people.
  
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Occultist0178@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Ok Cupid used to be kind that, but they completely butchered the question part of it, in my opinion it is no longer useful. Also as a white cis male you get spammed there by literally hundreds of accounts from the Philippines. Makes the whole thing useless in my opinion

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- LordWiggle@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Yeah that’s true. About 60% of the women I see are from Asia / Africa / South America.
  
  I wish they would disable the custom location feature to solve this clutter.
  
  I live in The Netherlands, there are enough people here on the app to make it worth while. It’s how I met my new partner.
  
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  - thatradomguy@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    I live in The Netherlands, there are enough people here on the app to make it worth while. It’s how I met my new partner.
    
    Congrats btw
    
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  - Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    I wish they would disable the custom location feature to solve this clutter.
    
    It’s REALLY useful for travelling/migration. I made a penpal/IRL friend through there using this very feature. They should deal with it by reports and etc.
    
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    LordWiggle@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Yeah, that’s how I met my current partner. She lives in Portugal but had her location in my city. It does have benefits, but it also extremely clutters the app with gold diggers from the other side of the globe.
    
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Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

There’s Boo, which I think is mostly for autistic and introvert people. Works fine with the free version.

Oooo… I’m gonna have to try this one.

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- LordWiggle@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  I’m not a big fan though. It’s also a sort of social media. There are many people on there from Asia and Africa, cluttering the user base.
  
  I had 3 matches which ended in extended conversations, but in all 3 cases (don’t know if it’s coincidence) they were trying to cheat on their partner. I’m poly, I don’t mind sharing, but cheating on someone is not going to happen with me.
  
  About poly, OK Cupid has the option to say you’re monogamous, polyamorous (with account links possible) or open to either. So it’s a great app for finding poly people or focus on mono people without matching with the poly ones (saves a conversation)
  
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  - Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Yeah… I have been on there since making that comment and just looking in a 40 mile radius, a majority of the profiles I am seeing are unvaccinated red hats. 😮‍💨
    
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    LordWiggle@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Sorry to say, but there’s no app available which creates better people in your town haha
    
    Maybe move to a city?
    
    OK Cupid has the option to set your location manually. You can check somewhere else if there’s someone nice. I hate this option, it clutters the app with Asian and African women wanting to meet someone abroad. But it may be nice for you to get better results.
    
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    DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Does make you stand out from the crowd if you’re not that though
    
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some_random_nick@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Bumble did chenge that. Now the woman decides who has to start the convo once they match. You can also set some prompts for the other person to reply to.

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