Probably not what you want to hear, it really sucks to be in that spot, but it is possible to find good ones! I went through 3 therapists over the course of a couple of years before finding one that helped me.
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TrickDacy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
“men hate therapy”
Yeah not really. You just get beaten down after trying several therapists and paying a lot and not feeling better. Even if you went through that once, it’s very discouraging.
j_z@feddit.nu 3 weeks ago
chunes@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Not to mention it just doesn’t work as well for men as it does for women.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Please say why it is that you believe that. It’s a fascinating claim.
qarbone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
What??
piranhaconda@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
Agreed. What? I’ve never seen a study stating this. And anecdotally, it worked fine for me, once I found the right therapist, the first two were meh, not a good fit.
TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I have a great therapist these days who has helped me a lot. I still hate therapy. I did finally figure out why, though. Because, with the exception of therapy and a couple of really great people, everyone I’ve ever been vulnerable in front of has weaponized it against me. So even though I know my therapist wouldn’t actually do that I’m still waiting on it to come back and bite me.
shalafi@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Been dumped by three women, the day after they saw me cry. Good news! My wife is fine with it, as rare as crying is, and comforts me. But y’all women don’t have a good track record in my book.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah, the weaponization factor is real.
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
See but I had a psychiatrist as a kid that would literally report what I said to my mother (and not like harming others or myself like is legally required, just like, shit that I said I didn’t like about my mom and then he’d tell her and she’d punish me about it.) Legally, he was allowed to do that since I was a child, I’m not now and so legally they can’t even if they had her phone number, but now I can’t trust them even if that distrust is slightly illogical. Double distrust due to incentive to make me return and keep paying, but y’know the childhood “trauma” (if you can call it that) is still there on that one too.
superduperpirate@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Reminds me of the plot line in early seasons of Mad Men where Betty would go to a shrink, then later that night Don would call the doc to see what all Betty said.