iltoroargento
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- Comment on No means no 2 hours ago:
First thing I ever do with a new computer is delete it.
- Comment on Day 216 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games l've been playing until l forget to post Screenshots 2 days ago:
Lol I loved that. And I’ve seen mods for MCC that let you do multiplayer somehow but never got it working myself lol
- Comment on Day 216 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games l've been playing until l forget to post Screenshots 3 days ago:
How do you play 3 player campaign on one PC? Doesn’t the MCC prevent that? Or did they patch it out?
- Comment on Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? 5 days ago:
For the most part, yes. Definitely depends on the person, but this can be a very challenging social dynamic. It sounds pretty chaotic and I am not sure how many people would be able to deal with that day by day.
To your last point, emotional communication is always tough and it’s really hard to piece things together to get your thoughts across when tensions are high. I think that coming from a mindset of refining and explaining, to yourself first and then to others, why you feel a certain way or did a certain action could be a good start.
Additionally, a lot of people do not respond well to “tough love”. I would argue that for the majority of scenarios, it’s one of the least successful ways to go about showing support and care for someone else. Setting clear and respectful boundaries is one thing, but providing only conditional support is a great way to tank a relationship and have someone distrust you. I think it’s also helpful to unpack why you feel you need to act that way with people you care about. For me, that took a lot of work (still does) and goes back to my relationship with my dad (which has its positives and negatives, a lot of which we’ve worked through over the years).
One of the most important ideas I’ve come across with communication is that you should ask yourself if your actions are helping you meet your goals in the conversation. If you really want to build a strong trusting relationship with someone, that’s going to look wildly different to the actions you would take if you really want to distance yourself from someone. And if you mess up with how you presented yourself or how you meant to come across, address it as soon as you possibly can. Clear communication is key and being clear with yourself and your goals/wants/needs/preferences is the start of that.
Hope that helps lol good luck out there. There’s a lot of happiness to bring to the world if you work toward it.
- Comment on I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought. 2 weeks ago:
Ah, yes, Thag Simmons… He discovered the thagomizer at his own peril…
- Comment on I got a big head start early in life in not giving a shit about what other people thought. 2 weeks ago:
I mean… Do any teens think older generations are cool? I didn’t think that was a thing.
- Comment on I guess this means I need to get blown 2 weeks ago:
Way, hey, blow the man down!
- Comment on Day 198 of posting a Daily Screenshot from the games I’ve been playing until I forget to post Screenshots 3 weeks ago:
You’ve got to tick the other games you want in the dlc page after going to the game’s properties in steam.
You can do that now to add the ones you want to play. For some reason if you just click download without selecting any other dlc, it just installs Reach.
- Comment on No mommy I don't want it 3 weeks ago:
Source? For science.
- Comment on I think some people can't tolerate silence and need to fill the air 4 weeks ago:
Not anymore, though. Use a different search engine if you want any results worth looking at.
- Comment on What are some actual good *sour* sour candy? 4 weeks ago:
Depends on the flavor. It isn’t sour in and of itself, but I have had some pretty sour flavors of saltwater taffy.
I also was a big fan of the blue sour punch straws but am not sure if they changed their flavor over the last twenty or so years lol it seems like a lot of sour candies have so that may be something to watch out for.
- Comment on BRB, need more cheese 4 weeks ago:
- Comment on sports are popular with sports fans follow for more 1 month ago:
- Comment on Carcinisation has got the furniture too! 1 month ago:
So this is where House Redoran goes for their decorations.
- Comment on Optimus Prime vs Megatron - "Transformers The Movie" (1986) 2 months ago:
Reminds me of the Futurama Nixon Dubbing a bit.
- Comment on Excellent anti smoking ad 2 months ago:
Geese will fuck you up like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas, though.
“[Silly], how?”
- Comment on time to Finish the Fight 2 months ago:
So… Do this with Halo 3 and Reach and this was basically my college unwinding experience. So many teams battles lol
- Comment on Memory is a fickle mistress 2 months ago:
It shows.
- Comment on Memory is a fickle mistress 2 months ago:
In its first years it actually ran alongside a lot of interesting and significantly more scholarly shows on those two networks. The early 2000s actually had some solid programming on the history channel. Pretty quickly devolved into pawn stars and ancient aliens after that, though. So, yeah, half to most of its run was alongside utter garbage.
- Comment on CEO brains go brrrrr 2 months ago:
True. I mean, it really is a bit of Vulcan chess with regard to all the external factors. Historically, at some point, there is likely a group that will come around and hoover all that up or destroy/squander it. Depending on their goals, this could be better or worse lol
- Comment on CEO brains go brrrrr 2 months ago:
Those have been carved away as well and there are always other ways to transfer wealth:/ Eventually, seizure is probably the option if there’s a group willing to make that happen. Depends on the trajectory of the government, though, but my money is on more BS tax breaks and moneyed protectionism unless there’s a significant upheaval.
- Comment on Every little thing she fries is magic 4 months ago:
“Rrrrraaaaawwwxanne!”
- Comment on Default password 4 months ago:
Yep. I went down the rabbit hole on this one lol the fiddler is a magnetic personality. I was in rapt attention the whole time lol.
- Comment on Effort require Effort 4 months ago:
Not sure if you meant it this way, but this comes off as a pretty flippant take on humanity’s evolutionary history and psychology as applied to a middle school classroom. There’s a lot more going on than just humanity’s supersocial nature.
Of course, we’re social animals lol but within that reality, we have largely been able to communicate effectively and engage in learning. What the original commentor is saying is that those kids, apparently one third of each class, are severely lacking in any functional communication skills and framework.
Throughout our species’ history, we have developed efficient ways of communicating and learning. These kids mentioned are not trained to consider (or, in some cases, are completely oblivious to) how their communication and behavior is perceived by peers, teachers, and concerned parents and bystanders. As was stated in the original comment, many kids think/care only about how their actions and words are perceived by their target audience. That has always been part of the learning process, but I see it has become more prevalent and somewhat louder/more pronounced in older kids than it has been in the past.
I see a lot of factors feeding into this, but I think most of them boil down to the increased isolation and anxiety experienced by teens and preteens, today, and the lack of exposure to/familiarity with efficient, substantive, and effective communication.
Growing up is confusing and frightening enough, and, now, these kids are exposed to a lot more information that’s increasingly curated into smaller and smaller sound bytes and memes designed to highlight outrage, anxiety, and disillusionment.
I think a lot of the “brainrot” culture we see today stems from young people wanting to communicate nonsensically as they are desensitized by the sheer amount of similarly coded content and communication they are exposed to. I grew up with other ways to shut off my brain and deal with the anxiety and inherent loneliness that comes with growing up and finding more of a sense of self, but these kids don’t have the same breathing room as I did.
To your last point about education systems fighting against social behavior, I actually see the opposite. A massive amount of studies and practices have been implemented on how best to utilize the double edged sword of our social nature. Nearly every professional development training or meeting I go to deals with encouraging positive social interactions and discourse. I think if you look to schools and districts that actually walk the walk of education, you’ll see a lot of progress.
- Comment on Nintendo has reportedly shut down Ryujinx, the Switch emulator that was supposedly immune 4 months ago:
Nintendo’s been way too busy in this scene for too long a time for that to be the only reason. I can see that such a leak wouldn’t help, but they’ve been pouring money into these cases for years and have really ramped it up in the last five or so
- Comment on Nintendo has reportedly shut down Ryujinx, the Switch emulator that was supposedly immune 4 months ago:
Lol it’s like Nintendo just wants to back itself into a corner and waste away with it’s IP. Jeez. I honestly have no desire to purchase anything from them anymore.
I still emulate a solid amount of their games I’ve had for most of my life because I don’t want to wear down my old hardware.
They haven’t gotten a cent out of me since the GameCube, though, so I understand I’m probably not going to be their target audience anymore.
- Comment on Why does the media print rags to riches stories? 4 months ago:
It isn’t ironic that they are revolting people, though…
- Comment on "Labor is the superior of capital, and deserves much the higher consideration." - Abraham Lincoln 4 months ago:
Awesome! Thanks lol
- Comment on I always get them confused. 4 months ago:
I, too, love stories of otter space.
- Comment on This is my hole! 4 months ago:
“That’s right… the square hole!”
Honestly this YouTube video loves rent free in my mind and I often find myself hearing those voices when something similar happens irl lol
