grysbok

@grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it ethical for a parent to distribute inheritance based on the child(ren)'s mental capacity (aka refusing to give an inheritance to child(ren) with reduced mental capacity)?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Or, if you have an inkling that you won’t split everything evenly, at least talk to the kids about it. My mom has 2 kids. She’s told me she’s giving a greater proportion to my brother and I’m ok with that.

  My brother is a drug addicted felon and has always needed/gotten more support than I have needed/gotten.

  I’m distant from my mom by choice (we didn’t have a healthy relationship) and I’m a functioning adult with a lovely partner, a stable job, and a competent therapist.

  Mom’s told me she’s putting things into a trust for benefit of my brother, but I don’t know that she’s done that and it’s not my problem.

  Anyways, I guess the takeaway is it’s ok for your kids to think dividing the inheritance unevenly means you love them unevenly if they’re not wrong.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨nuclear⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Spicy rocks make water hot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Puberty blockers to be banned indefinitely for under-18s across UK⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  According to the 2021 census, trans people are 5% of the population. Jewish people are 4% of the population. Where is your cutoff for what population is too minor to care about?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I can't imagine being paid to act like I enjoy working in the office⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I did like working in an open office back in a previous career. I did QA and was integrated with a team of devs. It was lovely to turn to the person whose code I was testing and ask for clarification on a behavior. There really was a lot of teamwork facilitated by the lack of privacy.

  The office had small rooms with doors where you could make phone calls without distracting everyone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What good thing just happened in your life?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I took all my meds on time, and so did my dog.

  Oh! I also baked a pizza and it was really tasty. Pup didn’t get pizza, but did get oven-dried fish skins and he’s really happy about that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Eels⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Adorbs, but can’t hold a candle to the garden eel. Mostly because they both live underwater.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I just opened an overpriced can of fancy soup and on the label, along with the expected stuff like 'gluten-free' and 'GMO-free,' was 'mustard free' and 'celery free.' Is that a thing now?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It is hard to find onion-free chicken stock. My dog goes nuts for chicken but is a fussy eater otherwise, so we’re always on the lookout for dog-friendly stock to add to his kibble.

  I don’t eat pig and Applebee’s adds bacon to their Mac and cheese. They list like 8 different cheeses in the description but don’t mention the bacon. Parents didn’t want me to make a fuss so I ate it. That was not fun. (This was years ago, ymmv, I don’t talk to those parents anymore because reasons.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I just opened an overpriced can of fancy soup and on the label, along with the expected stuff like 'gluten-free' and 'GMO-free,' was 'mustard free' and 'celery free.' Is that a thing now?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Me and mine have various food sensitivities (latex, nightshades, pork). I use an android app “fig” to check things at the grocery store–scan the barcode and Fig tells me who shouldn’t eat it and why. It does smart things like label “spices” as yellow because maybe it’s peppers maybe it’s not. The free version is sufficient for one person. The paid version lets you add more profiles.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sorry to be a bother...⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I like you, Cock_Inspecting_Asexual. You have a way with words.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do remote workers actually work? Yes, but they also shop and shower⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My last office had a gym and a shower. It was awesome back when I to was “between wells” at my house and so didn’t have any water pressure for a couple of weeks.

  (Oh the glorious day when my new well got hooked up and I could take a bath in my own home again!)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Technically, it’s not been my municipality that’s charged me, but those around me and where I work. I don’t vote there. My town didn’t exist when the people I’m researching were making records. And at the state level, it comes up every few years but dies in committee. Last time was in 2020, when it died due to the pandemic changes everyone’s focus. I’ll ping my local congresscritter and see if it can be revived–the person advocating for change recently retired, sadly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Accurate. I both misread your comment and I have a bee in my bonnet about a $20 fee to take pictures of something you can examine for free.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tell that to my town clerk, charging $20 to take pictures of documents with your own phone. This is based on Sec. 1-212 part g (the bottom) of state law And, as a local history researcher, it bites ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨biodegradable⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  They’re not as good at preventing STDs, but they’re decent at preventing pregnancy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oh no! I dropped (5£ to) Anna's Archives. Beware the mess, people.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You can also ask a librarian for help. We like finding things and might be able to get a copy through interlibrary loan or other connections. We also like girl scout cookies, especially the ones with coconut.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Use Zotero⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Can confirm: am allergic to latex and use LaTeX. Benadryl and barrier cream are my friends.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PSA: Libraries⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve not heard of that around here. The public library I worked at was chill about everyone visiting, including several people I’d consider “problems”: dude that always sat next to the teen section and complained the teens were loud while being louder than any teen, and other dude that would sit in the middle of a row of public computers and turn off the ones on either side because she didn’t want to sit next to anyone else.

  The only time we kicked anyone out was when someone was vaping. The only time someone got banned was when they were racist in response to being told they couldn’t vape in the library.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How am I supposed to decide who to vote for in local elections?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This last election, I googled the candidates and voted for the ones that hadn’t tried to ban books at the local library.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You're lucky I'm here⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I finally found a job that I enjoy and isn’t wicked stressful. I’m looking forward to going in on Monday to fix a bug that reared its head over the weekend. It’s lovely.

  My previous job had little downtime, lots of deadlines, and paid more. I took mental health days a lot.

  Current job pays 2/3 as much and I love it. I don’t call out nearly as often.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone drink instant coffee anymore?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I do. I left my pour-over coffee maker at the office, so I make do with instant coffee. It’s… ok, if I drown it in almond milk.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thinking of visiting a pawn shop. What should I know?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  TBF you just described most of capitalism.

  I don’t need a gun, but the pawn shop on my commute has some musical instruments in the window which intrigue me. I’m a serial hobby-starter, and prefer gently used hobby tools over new, because used items have less of an environmental impact than new items.

• Thinking of visiting a pawn shop. What should I know?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a title (Mr/Ms/Mrs) that is gender neutral?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I grew up with Mrs and Ms pronounced nearly the same, so I get the pronunciation confusion.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a title (Mr/Ms/Mrs) that is gender neutral?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m wicked sorry, I don’t have a good answer. You could try Mx and see how it feels. I’ve dropped sir/ma’am for folks that I know, or that appear my age or younger. I still use it for older folks I don’t know out in the wild.

  I, personally, never take offense at being misgendered in a Southern accent if I’m called “ma’am”. I grew up in the South and to me it just feels like someone’s trying their best to be polite and I take it as intended. Sometimes I also just misparse it as “man”, which feels a bit informal, but whatevs. Miss still feels creepy, but I get that less now that I’ve hit 30.

  If you’re working at a drive through where there’s a customer/service worker dynamic, I’d 1. go with ma’am or sir 2. accept it if someone corrects you, and 3. recognize you’re more likely to be yelled at by someone for using a ‘new-fangled honorific’ than for misgendering someone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a title (Mr/Ms/Mrs) that is gender neutral?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Not really. There’s plenty of gender-neutral names, some you wouldn’t expect. The names Ashley, Chris, Harper, Morgan, and Stacey are all gender-ambiguous^Showing my white American background with this list^. Plus, people can have genders that don’t match their name.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a title (Mr/Ms/Mrs) that is gender neutral?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Seconding the honorific “Mx”. From what I’ve seen, it’s decently well-adopted in the non-binary community. I’ve not seen it much used outside of that community–it seems to be used mostly when someone ‘needs’ and honorific but doesn’t fit into the 1950s list.

  IRL, I’ve used “Hey, you” and “Yo!” when hollering at folks I don’t know (example, “Yo! You dropped something!”)

  Sidenote: As a nonbinary person, I prefer not being given an honorific over being given the wrong one.

  Minirant not directed at OP: And omg, if you need to go with a feminine honorific and you don’t know whether the person is married, go with Ms, not Mrs. or Miss. The connotations of the wrong one are just creepy. Not married and called Mrs=“Hey, you’re too old to be unmarried. Please feel judged about your relationship status” Married and called Miss=“Hey, you’re too young to be married. Please feel like I don’t respect you as an adult.” In all cases Ms=“I don’t know and/or care about your marital status and I’m trying to be polite”