grysbok

@grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I realistically get out of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Similarly fuzzy! I think they mostly came from the “Kingdom of Galicia and Lodomeria” region of Poland. Some definitely have “Galicia” on their earlier census records, then later records for the same relatives say Poland. Other relatives waffle between Poland and Russia. t National borders are so fuzzy.

  The other side of the family is from Appalachia since the 1800s, but sometimes can’t decide if they’re born in TN or KY because they were from a disputed region.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I realistically get out of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  And that’s the true story of how I learned all my Polish ancestors came over before modern Poland was a thing, and thus didn’t have Polish citizenship to pass on.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨if you've had or have anger issues, how did you become a better human?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I started therapy and my therapist helped me see that my fucked-up childhood left me with lots of triggers, which we examined. Understanding those triggers reduced their power. I also now understand I can leave stressful situations before I blow up. I don’t have to constantly mask.

  So, therapy. It’s awesome. If your first therapist isn’t a good fit it’s ok to find another one.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Childhood in the 80s⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, no. My mom wouldn’t let me watch Beetlejuice because he’s a demon.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks. It was the toughest decision of my life, but once I’d made it I knew it was the right decision. No regrets.

  We’re currently watching our elderly (~16yo) pup with early kidney failure and hoping he stays enthusiastic as long as possible. He’s a sleepy boy but still enjoys his hobbies, and seems unbothered by his health conditions (except that his kidney food is less interesting than any other food.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for clarifying.

  After I put my dog 5 years ago (because end-stage kidney failure) I have a better appreciation for the idea of not letting a critter suffer. The part of the article that rubbed me wrong was when they were just like “well, we’ll wait and hope things get better”. Hope is not a strategy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not a equine person, but the article says he also had a condition that made a leg sore, causing him to (technical term) tripod. Wouldn’t that habitual 3-legged stance also cause overload of the remaining legs, similar to being overweight?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Water⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a dog, so I’m bringing up the average. We’ve got (dog-sare) tennis balls galore!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what works for you to let go?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Whenever I get into an argument with someone on the Internet and I keep arguing with them past the point I should stop (it’s useless or I’m just wicked frustrated) I set up a monthly donation to something that would piss them off. And that’s why I have monthly donations to Sesame Street, the ACLU, and the SPLC.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nom nom⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Am librarian and can confirm: we all do this. It mostly comes up when shelving or retrieving books.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I walked all over the damn store looking for butter⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Bloom did it 15ish years ago. They even had an electronic kiosk where you could look up your item. (I’m not sure if Bloom the grocery store still exists.)

  I’ve seen other places have a rotating list on the cart handle, which listed where common items would be.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it ethical for a parent to distribute inheritance based on the child(ren)'s mental capacity (aka refusing to give an inheritance to child(ren) with reduced mental capacity)?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Or, if you have an inkling that you won’t split everything evenly, at least talk to the kids about it. My mom has 2 kids. She’s told me she’s giving a greater proportion to my brother and I’m ok with that.

  My brother is a drug addicted felon and has always needed/gotten more support than I have needed/gotten.

  I’m distant from my mom by choice (we didn’t have a healthy relationship) and I’m a functioning adult with a lovely partner, a stable job, and a competent therapist.

  Mom’s told me she’s putting things into a trust for benefit of my brother, but I don’t know that she’s done that and it’s not my problem.

  Anyways, I guess the takeaway is it’s ok for your kids to think dividing the inheritance unevenly means you love them unevenly if they’re not wrong.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨nuclear⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Spicy rocks make water hot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Puberty blockers to be banned indefinitely for under-18s across UK⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  According to the 2021 census, trans people are 5% of the population. Jewish people are 4% of the population. Where is your cutoff for what population is too minor to care about?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I can't imagine being paid to act like I enjoy working in the office⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I did like working in an open office back in a previous career. I did QA and was integrated with a team of devs. It was lovely to turn to the person whose code I was testing and ask for clarification on a behavior. There really was a lot of teamwork facilitated by the lack of privacy.

  The office had small rooms with doors where you could make phone calls without distracting everyone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What good thing just happened in your life?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I took all my meds on time, and so did my dog.

  Oh! I also baked a pizza and it was really tasty. Pup didn’t get pizza, but did get oven-dried fish skins and he’s really happy about that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Eels⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Adorbs, but can’t hold a candle to the garden eel. Mostly because they both live underwater.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I just opened an overpriced can of fancy soup and on the label, along with the expected stuff like 'gluten-free' and 'GMO-free,' was 'mustard free' and 'celery free.' Is that a thing now?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It is hard to find onion-free chicken stock. My dog goes nuts for chicken but is a fussy eater otherwise, so we’re always on the lookout for dog-friendly stock to add to his kibble.

  I don’t eat pig and Applebee’s adds bacon to their Mac and cheese. They list like 8 different cheeses in the description but don’t mention the bacon. Parents didn’t want me to make a fuss so I ate it. That was not fun. (This was years ago, ymmv, I don’t talk to those parents anymore because reasons.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I just opened an overpriced can of fancy soup and on the label, along with the expected stuff like 'gluten-free' and 'GMO-free,' was 'mustard free' and 'celery free.' Is that a thing now?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Me and mine have various food sensitivities (latex, nightshades, pork). I use an android app “fig” to check things at the grocery store–scan the barcode and Fig tells me who shouldn’t eat it and why. It does smart things like label “spices” as yellow because maybe it’s peppers maybe it’s not. The free version is sufficient for one person. The paid version lets you add more profiles.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sorry to be a bother...⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I like you, Cock_Inspecting_Asexual. You have a way with words.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do remote workers actually work? Yes, but they also shop and shower⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My last office had a gym and a shower. It was awesome back when I to was “between wells” at my house and so didn’t have any water pressure for a couple of weeks.

  (Oh the glorious day when my new well got hooked up and I could take a bath in my own home again!)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Technically, it’s not been my municipality that’s charged me, but those around me and where I work. I don’t vote there. My town didn’t exist when the people I’m researching were making records. And at the state level, it comes up every few years but dies in committee. Last time was in 2020, when it died due to the pandemic changes everyone’s focus. I’ll ping my local congresscritter and see if it can be revived–the person advocating for change recently retired, sadly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Accurate. I both misread your comment and I have a bee in my bonnet about a $20 fee to take pictures of something you can examine for free.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨One car accident, endless spam calls⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tell that to my town clerk, charging $20 to take pictures of documents with your own phone. This is based on Sec. 1-212 part g (the bottom) of state law And, as a local history researcher, it bites ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨biodegradable⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  They’re not as good at preventing STDs, but they’re decent at preventing pregnancy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oh no! I dropped (5£ to) Anna's Archives. Beware the mess, people.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You can also ask a librarian for help. We like finding things and might be able to get a copy through interlibrary loan or other connections. We also like girl scout cookies, especially the ones with coconut.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Use Zotero⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Can confirm: am allergic to latex and use LaTeX. Benadryl and barrier cream are my friends.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PSA: Libraries⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve not heard of that around here. The public library I worked at was chill about everyone visiting, including several people I’d consider “problems”: dude that always sat next to the teen section and complained the teens were loud while being louder than any teen, and other dude that would sit in the middle of a row of public computers and turn off the ones on either side because she didn’t want to sit next to anyone else.

  The only time we kicked anyone out was when someone was vaping. The only time someone got banned was when they were racist in response to being told they couldn’t vape in the library.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How am I supposed to decide who to vote for in local elections?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This last election, I googled the candidates and voted for the ones that hadn’t tried to ban books at the local library.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You're lucky I'm here⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I finally found a job that I enjoy and isn’t wicked stressful. I’m looking forward to going in on Monday to fix a bug that reared its head over the weekend. It’s lovely.

  My previous job had little downtime, lots of deadlines, and paid more. I took mental health days a lot.

  Current job pays 2/3 as much and I love it. I don’t call out nearly as often.