grysbok

@grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨🤙 hang ten 🤙⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Why not share it with teacher?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously. We don’t even know how old the poster is, just that their dad is 48.

  I was 20 when my dad was 48. I was in college and was only ‘home’ over the summers and winter break (when the dorms closed). My brother was 15. I don’t think it’d be reasonable to tell either of us to move out just because the adults in our lives were a tad indiscrete.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Agreed. I wouldn’t interrupt their fun, but I’d mention it to my dad some time when the girlfriend wasn’t around. I’d send an email or text if I felt too embarrassed/shy to say anything face-to-face. “Hey, Dad. Just FYI the walls are really thin in this apartment and I can hear what you two get up to.”

  I’d also look into earplugs. Earplugs + bone conductive headphones could be a good work around. I’m a fan of Shokz, but other brands exist.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is this called?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My partner almost always has a shawl tied around his waist, like a sash or belt. For him it’s a comfort object that can convert to shield him from the sun or cold. For me it’s a warm thing I can borrow that smells like him.

  Anyways, he’s genderqueer sometimes, if that helps. And no one’s ever given him guff about it that I know of.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t blame you for wanting to move. My partner and I are straight-passing, cis-passing, white folk in a blue state. We’re thinking of leaving the country. (Well, I am. My partner’s kind of like yours–not convinced we’re in danger.)

  You’re much more visibly “other” than we are. One thought I’ve seen floated around is that options are good. If you can claim an international citizenship/passport (through, I dunno, Irish parents or something) it’s worth doing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is this called?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It reminds me of what’s often sold as a “pashmina” around me (USA), but it looks much wider along the tasseled edge than the pashminas I have.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨purpose⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s spring (your hemisphere may vary) and time to set out tick tubes!

  Tick tubes are cardboard tubes stuffed with cotton fluff soaked in permethrin. Mice use the cotton to make nests. The permethrin kills ticks on the mice, reducing the tick load of the area. It doesn’t hurt the mice, and is much more targeted than just spraying the whole yard for insects.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Free Him!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I read it more as ignorant and rude than racist. Like, if I said “all y’all ought to do blah” and was questioned on it, I’d assume the questioner just hadn’t been exposed to folks with that dialect.

  Or like how my brother would make fun of people with a Boston accent while he was a tourist in Boston, getting directions from someone with a Boston accent. Ignorant and rude.

  Of course, I’m white AF and my primary exposure to AAVE is online, so I might be totally missing subtext/context/supertext.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Musk shares post that Hitler didn’t kill millions, public workers did. Union rages⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  TBF, Hitlerdid kill Hitler.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a google extention that lets me resize any textbox on any website?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Awesome! I’m glad you got it to work (sorry I dropped off the earth–i forgot I have a commute)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a google extention that lets me resize any textbox on any website?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know of a plugin that does that, but if you like I can write you a how-to on how to do it in a desktop browser. It’s not wicked complicated. Ping me if no one has a better suggestion–if you tell me the website, I can even tailor the walkthrough to that website.

  You could also type your text out in notepad, then copy and paste that into the web text box.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks. My ancestors avoided WWI and WWII by emigrating to America. I can’t judge them for that, so it feels fair to give myself the same option.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I really don’t know. Me personally, I’m pursuing citizenship in an EU country so I can at least have an exit strategy other than “drive to Canada and hope they let me in”. Other than that, I’m active in my union and I talk with my neighbors. I walk my dog and am visibly a Nice Normal Person who happens to be Queer.

  It’s scary being queer here, so I might tone that down a bit as I get more scared. Which is what They want, but, hey, I’m scared.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I realistically get out of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So, how did you go about doing that? Did you pay a company to guide you through the process or what? TBH, I’m a bit intimidated by interacting with a foreign government potentially in Polish, a language I do not speak.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I realistically get out of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Similarly fuzzy! I think they mostly came from the “Kingdom of Galicia and Lodomeria” region of Poland. Some definitely have “Galicia” on their earlier census records, then later records for the same relatives say Poland. Other relatives waffle between Poland and Russia. t National borders are so fuzzy.

  The other side of the family is from Appalachia since the 1800s, but sometimes can’t decide if they’re born in TN or KY because they were from a disputed region.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I realistically get out of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  And that’s the true story of how I learned all my Polish ancestors came over before modern Poland was a thing, and thus didn’t have Polish citizenship to pass on.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨if you've had or have anger issues, how did you become a better human?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I started therapy and my therapist helped me see that my fucked-up childhood left me with lots of triggers, which we examined. Understanding those triggers reduced their power. I also now understand I can leave stressful situations before I blow up. I don’t have to constantly mask.

  So, therapy. It’s awesome. If your first therapist isn’t a good fit it’s ok to find another one.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Childhood in the 80s⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, no. My mom wouldn’t let me watch Beetlejuice because he’s a demon.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks. It was the toughest decision of my life, but once I’d made it I knew it was the right decision. No regrets.

  We’re currently watching our elderly (~16yo) pup with early kidney failure and hoping he stays enthusiastic as long as possible. He’s a sleepy boy but still enjoys his hobbies, and seems unbothered by his health conditions (except that his kidney food is less interesting than any other food.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you for clarifying.

  After I put my dog 5 years ago (because end-stage kidney failure) I have a better appreciation for the idea of not letting a critter suffer. The part of the article that rubbed me wrong was when they were just like “well, we’ll wait and hope things get better”. Hope is not a strategy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perry, beloved donkey of Bol Park who served as the Donkey model for Shrek, dies at 30⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not a equine person, but the article says he also had a condition that made a leg sore, causing him to (technical term) tripod. Wouldn’t that habitual 3-legged stance also cause overload of the remaining legs, similar to being overweight?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Water⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a dog, so I’m bringing up the average. We’ve got (dog-sare) tennis balls galore!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what works for you to let go?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Whenever I get into an argument with someone on the Internet and I keep arguing with them past the point I should stop (it’s useless or I’m just wicked frustrated) I set up a monthly donation to something that would piss them off. And that’s why I have monthly donations to Sesame Street, the ACLU, and the SPLC.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nom nom⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Am librarian and can confirm: we all do this. It mostly comes up when shelving or retrieving books.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I walked all over the damn store looking for butter⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Bloom did it 15ish years ago. They even had an electronic kiosk where you could look up your item. (I’m not sure if Bloom the grocery store still exists.)

  I’ve seen other places have a rotating list on the cart handle, which listed where common items would be.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it ethical for a parent to distribute inheritance based on the child(ren)'s mental capacity (aka refusing to give an inheritance to child(ren) with reduced mental capacity)?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Or, if you have an inkling that you won’t split everything evenly, at least talk to the kids about it. My mom has 2 kids. She’s told me she’s giving a greater proportion to my brother and I’m ok with that.

  My brother is a drug addicted felon and has always needed/gotten more support than I have needed/gotten.

  I’m distant from my mom by choice (we didn’t have a healthy relationship) and I’m a functioning adult with a lovely partner, a stable job, and a competent therapist.

  Mom’s told me she’s putting things into a trust for benefit of my brother, but I don’t know that she’s done that and it’s not my problem.

  Anyways, I guess the takeaway is it’s ok for your kids to think dividing the inheritance unevenly means you love them unevenly if they’re not wrong.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨nuclear⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Spicy rocks make water hot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Puberty blockers to be banned indefinitely for under-18s across UK⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  According to the 2021 census, trans people are 5% of the population. Jewish people are 4% of the population. Where is your cutoff for what population is too minor to care about?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I can't imagine being paid to act like I enjoy working in the office⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I did like working in an open office back in a previous career. I did QA and was integrated with a team of devs. It was lovely to turn to the person whose code I was testing and ask for clarification on a behavior. There really was a lot of teamwork facilitated by the lack of privacy.

  The office had small rooms with doors where you could make phone calls without distracting everyone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What good thing just happened in your life?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I took all my meds on time, and so did my dog.

  Oh! I also baked a pizza and it was really tasty. Pup didn’t get pizza, but did get oven-dried fish skins and he’s really happy about that.