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- Comment on Boys will be boys 2 days ago:
You’re absolutely right, but I am already absolutely in awe of them actually eating chicken and not just staring at their phones without interacting. At least that’s my assumption because trying to devour a rotisserie chicken with one hand while holding your phone in the other seems like a challenge.
- Comment on the Home Alone house then and now 4 days ago:
Thank you for the tip with Inside Out, I’ll check it out! It was on our watchlist anyway and gets promoted to top rank now.
With the kids’ media that’s the thing - there is still always a sibling. We’ve always read a lot to our four year old daughter and every longer story with an only child ends up with a sibling being born. It breaks me because I actually would love to have more children and every time that I felt safe with a story and it finally was ok, a happy family of three, they add a sibling. My daughter won’t go through that. I won’t go through that. Unless, of course, the parents are divorced, one is dead, it’s an adoptive family, or a queer family. All of these are great and depict amazing, valid family structures, and I like these books too, but they still don’t represent our dynamic.
Funnily enough my daughter caught me reading Sailor Moon mangas once and at least there the protagonist has an only child. (If you do not count parallel universe stories which I don’t for my sanity.) Sailor Moon makes me cope the most currently.
- Comment on The only one country 4 days ago:
In my case I think they really were angry because I am a Russian (only) citizen but I have never lived in Russia. I don’t hold an inner passport, only an outer passport (absolutely unfathomable to them), and I actually did at a point try to get the basic insurance set up, but I would have needed the inner passport for that. For them it was absolutely whack that I am a Russian citizen that has no Basic Insurance number and my very special circumstances (to add to that, at that point I was fluent in speaking and absolutely illiterate in reading and writing) were too complicated for them to follow and “every person has an insurance number wtf you’re Russian wtf is wrong with you just go and get a fucking number what’s your problem wtf why don’t you have a passport everyone has a passport from age 14 onwards wtf what is wrong with you” was absolutely the attitude.
But really, I understand, my situation was very complicated and my reasons were valid but going into all these details in a clinic, let alone an ER setting, would absolutely tire and drain the last remaining energy out of them. I absolutely prefer them being not lovey dovey and hand holding while telling me with a compassionate smile that they cannot do a CT scan without an insurance number, but instead getting necessary treatment and analysis on the spot. I don’t care if you call me names. I’ll forever be grateful to them.
- Comment on The only one country 4 days ago:
I once collapsed on the streets in Russia when I was an exchange student there. Started seeing a message bubble over and over in one eye, then collapsed, I couldn’t get “help” out. Idk what happened or how I got there but I woke up in the hospital. Someone must have called an ambulance and I had a CT scan of my head while I was out. They did blood work and whatnot. Got food, it was just oatmeal and bread, but I mean, it’s something.
I had traveller’s insurance and wackily tried to explain that this is common and a “I pay out of pocket they reimburse me” thing instead of Universal Basic Insurance so they decided nah not worth it just go home. I haven’t paid a single cent. I’m not even sure I’m in their records, although I did show my passport.
I was in the ER on another trip to Russia, they really can’t be bothered. Checked me for appendicitis and thankfully I was cleared for a flight home.
I mean they were hella rude and have that typical baseline of Russian angriness and annoyance but you know what, I got taken care of well.
- Comment on the Home Alone house then and now 4 days ago:
To me it is the number of children. All the happy family movies had families with multiple children, and it feels like only child families are portrayed overwhelmingly as dysfunctional and tragic.
I’m trying to work through this mindset because we only have one child, but it is hard because subconsciously, I feel like a failure, like I cannot live up to this expectation and my child is doomed to this gloomy, sad existence.
If anyone is reading this, I beg you, prove me wrong. This isn’t a challenge, I just desperately need picture perfect single child family portrayals.
- Comment on Take the fucking hint, already! 🤦🏻 6 days ago:
I was in NYC back in early 2020 and downloaded the Uber app for that, there was no Uber in my country at that point. I’ve never used it since then. I still get emails every fucking month that my Uber account is about to expire and be deleted unless I log in. For 3 years now. JUST FUCKING DELETE IT FFS
- Comment on Chat, is this accurate? 2 weeks ago:
Yeah maybe mixing up medicines and giving 11 year old me iodine tincture to drink wasn’t the best move
- Comment on Vegeta 2 weeks ago:
Honest question as someone who has no tattoos: why do people get cover ups instead of getting the tattoo removed? Is it a price issue? It often looks like a deliberate choice. But I cannot imagine that having a funny cover up of a tattoo you regret and still end up being reminded of is better than having it gone altogether.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Dear God this gave me an aneurysm - trying to follow this logic at 11:38 pm makes my brain collapse.
(Well written though and I am sorry you have to go through that on a regular basis.)
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I adore thrift shopping but it can become an easy way to lift your conscience after overconsumption. I have a friend who tries to buy nothing new and good for her and the environment, but she constantly treats herself to thrift shopping sprees, realizes that she doesn’t need most of it shortly after, and declutters boxes of stuff each week and puts them in “for free” giveaway cupboards in the city where, let’s be honest here, 80% of the stuff ends up getting trashed. Tldr: thrift whenever you can but it is no excuse to go berserk.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
A couple of years ago they started putting the per kg price under the item price in Germany. At first I thought that’s for idiots who cannot calculate. Now I absolutely love this. I hardly even check the item price anymore, my eyes go straight to per kg. Fuck my idiotic entitled smartass past self, per kg prices are the best thing that ever happened to capitalist supermarkets
- Comment on Rare 1 month ago:
Just the grains
- Comment on Rotund 1 month ago:
But why the massages? Serious question
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
The neighbors in our exchange dorm were 4 huge South American guys. The room was so tiny and crammed, the beds occupied 85% of the space (they also had a tiny living room with a kitchen). They still got it going on with so goddamn many girls from the dorm. I think each one of them had another girl every night. How did they do it, I don’t know.
- Comment on load bearing worm 3 months ago:
That’s an interesting take. I worked in a pharma startup once and they were grinding cutthroat bitches, but yeah, they were very focused on what they wanted to achieve. The most unethical thing - apart from absolutely ignoring human decency and worker’s rights - was probably exploiting funding for Covid research for cancer research. To be fair tho, it was the early days of Covid and their initial cancer target was structurally similar to a molecule in sars cov 2. And the CEO slept like 3 hours a day and was always one of the first ones to turn in applications for some funding contest, which is why he often got them. You have to get the money for your work somehow. And we did use the money for the development of the covid drug, it is just that we also used it to run the same tests and get equipment/reagents for the cancer targets.
- Comment on load bearing worm 3 months ago:
The results of my master’s thesis were used for two papers in Nature Communications. So much of the data was fudged and I was either asked to leave out data points, sets of data that didn’t fit the hypothesis, or I was looking how my supervisor just deleted numbers until it looked good. I was so incredibly embarrassed and angry. I declined the offer to do a PhD under the same supervisor. Oral gavage yourself with your dick my dude.
- Comment on Window alignment 3 months ago:
Isn’t it the German town with the highest suicide rate?
- Comment on I wouldn't worry about it 4 months ago:
Captain?
- Comment on What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom? 5 months ago:
Oh I see! Yes, going from a father daughter relationship to love interest is icky. As I’ve mentioned before, I kind of knew what would happen in the sequel while watching the original series, so I paid extra attention to the “ick factor” (also I don’t really see Yashahime as canon, so if there were an ick, I’d just have more reason to denounce the sequel lol).
The thing is, their relationship doesn’t really have a father daughter dynamic. He is not educating or parenting her, he doesn’t explain how the world works to her. He doesn’t console her when she is crying, he doesn’t give her affirmation, affection, or approval. He doesn’t provide for her (directly telling her to fend for herself if she needs human food). He doesn’t tell her what to do but lets her choose whether she wants to follow (or not). Their dynamic is much closer to Kagome and Inuyasha, with Sesshomaru protecting Rin from danger and running to her rescue whenever she is in trouble, and at times even pushing her away in the belief that a different kind of life might be better for her, safer, more normal. He’s not a father, nor an uncle, nor a mentor to her. He just… has her around. I’ve tried to find at least one episode where there would be an ick, an obvious “oh God that’s so weird that they will end up together” but it just never came.
As a side note, they only travelled together for some months before she started living in a human village again. So it is not like he raised her (long term) and watched her grow up from day to day.
Still, I agree it is weird, and it is weird to see this progression of their relationship, but in all fairness, it’s not as icky, weird, incestuous, or out of the blue, as I had initially assumed. I think it is more of a memory thing, when I thought back of the story, I also imagined them being in a family like relationship. But I think I just assumed that because of the straightforward (assumption of) power structures.
- Comment on What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom? 5 months ago:
I’ll join you in talking to the void about inuyasha since I am rewatching it for the first time since I was a teen (and it is the first time I actually have an order): I see what you mean with Kagura. But some poetic bittersweet death does the story good. Sess being there when she died and comforting her was a huge character development.
I’ve seen some clips from Yashahime and I doubt I’ll be able to watch it. I think the idea of the main conflict is compelling, but it’s already the language (“dad” instead of “father” is already off putting) and the character design (the tomboy daughter looks like she is wearing a suit and I somehow dislike that they had to make a tomboy character to begin with instead of a boy) that makes me unlikely to watch it.
I’ve spoiled myself the whole Rin thing though while I was in the middle of my rewatch and I have to admit I can see it. And I like it, and I prefer it. There is nothing romantic between Kagura and Sess, she only gives small indications, apart from the final declaration in the final act. (Not there yet in the manga, might scream into the void later.) He clearly only has compassion towards the end but no romantic or emotional attachment.
Honestly I can see it. While he is thankfully not grooming Rin when she is a child or showing any kind of romantic feelings towards her, it’s obvious she has a very unique position for a reason. The whole thing where he jumped into the Meido to save her from the netherworld (?) was a crazy episode. She’s the only person who makes him feel emotions like fear, sadness, regret, despair, and yes, love. Love for her, Jaken, life, his brother, the quest, people and beings. Hell even Sess’s mom was like “tf” and somehow found it in herself to revive a “human being” that is beneath her like an ant.
Afaik, even in Yashahime Sess is not being too present with Rin and never was, and their relationship isn’t all too lovey dovey. Their relationship, even when a romantic one, will be very… discrete. People point out that he is hundreds of years old anyway, so there will always be a difference in age/maturity when he finds a human partner. But I think this is almost making it too complicated. He is a demon. She is a human. The ick that we perceive stems from seeing it as a human-human coupling, when he is a demon and cannot be assessed this way. Apart from that, Japan in the feudal era and such. Him giving her choices en masse is already quite the luxury. Him not aging also. He is still a spoilt teenage/tween brat at the beginning of the series, despite being hundreds of years old.
Also I think Rin has a crush on Sess all along. I still have 4 episodes to go from the final act and idk what happens to Kohaku, maybe that would have been a more satisfying match for the audience, but I think for the characters SessRin makes more sense than SessKag and KohRin. I can absolutely imagine Rin being the pushier one to get together with Sess.
- Comment on What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom? 5 months ago:
To be fair, the manga is much better in that regard. Tuxedo mask is actually very useful and might have a better character arc than Usagi herself, being that he starts out as a guy who just dresses up to someone with some powers who still feels inferior to his super badass gf whom he feels he is only holding back, to actually having a crystal of his own and some deep shit crazy powers. I’m not so sure it was supposed to be about empowerment as much as we want to read onto it. Same with all the sapphic views on it, claiming everyone there is gay or at least bi. Have it your way and read into it what you want, but I don’t think it was the actual intention of the creators, neither Naoko nor the anime studio.
I mean they literally give the girls manicures in their transformations, although they wear gloves - simply because the executives planned to market nail polish.
Both the seshi and tuxedo mask have episodes where they are vital though. I hate when he is called a damsel in distress as much as when the senshi are reduced to bystanders. Within the format and with the target audience, with the ease of production goals, I honestly think it is ok to not have them all kick ass every episode.
Sincerely, a huge Sailor Moon fan who is currently rewatching with their daughter. (The pegasus storyline is awful in the anime so far but it might be the best one in the manga.)
- Comment on Slingshot is a nice detail 😁 5 months ago:
Yay, now I can open the first image and zoom in! The lil’ heart on Pluto 💜 thank you!
I was using standard firefox btw. The two other pictures that are cut outs can’t be zoomed or opened, in case you want to know!
- Comment on Slingshot is a nice detail 😁 5 months ago:
If it’s of any use to you, I cannot zoom in on the website (in mobile mode), neither on the pictures, nor on the text. My guess was that this was a feature to not copy your work? On my phone, this ends up being too small to be readable. But I’ll assume you did my boy Pluto justice.
- Comment on justgermanthigs 5 months ago:
I won’t argue that it is the most hygienic way to clean laundry, but I doubt it is necessary on a day to day basis. Most people don’t get their underwear or bedsheets that dirty. Hospitals, nursing homes, daycare centers - sure. But not your normal household unless someone is severely sick.
We personally only wash dish towels, cleaning supplies and similar stuff at 90°, the reason being that the 60° program on our washing machine uses up just as much energy as 90°, and we don’t need to use extra hygiene detergent when we do that.
- Comment on Slingshot is a nice detail 😁 5 months ago:
This is so lovely! I can’t read everything the dwarf planets say unfortunately but it is cute nevertheless.
I laughed at Neptune being so happy about having the strongest winds. Truly a gassy planet.
- Comment on "Being vegan is unnatural" 5 months ago:
If you don’t tear a postpartum cow and its calf apart the milk just ain’t that tasty
- Comment on Always there, just waiting. 5 months ago:
A friend of mine once said that pears are wannabe apples and this sticked with me
- Comment on between medicine and this, we do not honour rats enough 5 months ago:
Sure, somewhen like 7000bc at least
Jokes aside, I do believe in a better future. As bleak as everything looks, I strongly want to believe that all the amazing people I’ve met who want change can achieve it. Even if chances aren’t great, I do believe it is possible. After all, what life is left inside you if you decide to not have hope?
- Comment on between medicine and this, we do not honour rats enough 5 months ago:
I love this statue! It’s in Novosibirsk. I’ve always wanted to go there and see it in real life. Once the war is finally over and Russia is free again I’ll pay a visit to that little rodent.
- Comment on Sick days 5 months ago:
We’re legally entitled to 10 days paid sick leave
Sorry but still not good enough. I don’t plan out when I am going to be sick in the coming year or how many days it’ll take me.