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- Comment on Beginner hat 8 hours ago:
I am usually a very honest person but this is a situation that gives white lies a right to exist.
- Comment on Why do people lie instead of just telling the truth? 1 day ago:
Outwitting is such a wicked motivation. I had that with drinking and I was fucking good at it. I made it a challenge to consume as much alcohol as I can without people noticing and they really didn’t notice. I was drunk at AA meetings more often than not. I took driving lessons drunk, was drunk in university and at jobs, around friends and family - people never noticed, even when I had a 3.5 promille blood alcohol level. Guess you can guess that all of this didn’t end well and I had to stop drinking eventually. Still, only people I told know how bad it had actually been. I hadn’t been sober in years.
- Comment on Total fabrication 1 week ago:
Print Dat File
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
It’s heavily criticized and campaigned against. I mean no one will call the police if they see you dancing or throwing a private party at home (I think, though I don’t know about rural areas). It’s more for businesses and public screenings. It is absolutely outdated. My guess is that the federal lands will eventually abandon them, they just don’t get around to do it.
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
Straight to jail
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
Nah, just on November 1st since it is a religious holiday.
There are a couple more no-dance holidays, November 1st is just the one that started to become most noticeable because of the emerging Halloween parties in the 2000s
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
In a weird way I like that. It is such a funny and harmless way of defying social order to watch a forbidden movie and dance on one of these blacklisted days. It’s absolutely outdated and ridiculous but that makes the rule breaking somewhat wholesome.
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
That’s true. I grew up in Munich and they take that super seriously. At least they did 10-15 years ago.
- Comment on It was a simpler time 1 week ago:
Lol in Germany clubs have to get a special permit to allow the club to be open past 12 am on Halloween because November 1st you’re not allowed to dance. Having a legal party that went after 12 am on Halloween was radical back when I was a teen
- Comment on Ok .... so I never stared at his hands. Sorry 3 weeks ago:
I had a colleague who had only one arm. I think it was amputated above the elbow. It took me 3 months to realize he has no arm. We were working together in the theater, he was an actor, and he was rolling my cigarettes all the time because I did a bad job myself. He rolled my cigarettes and I didn’t notice he had one arm.
- Comment on I'm right and the other vegans are wrong 2 months ago:
I agree, as well with things like sauces from shellfish shells that would otherwise be tossed.
However, I recently heard the reasoning (of a buddhist who tries to avoid animal products, i.e. would not actively seek out a non vegan option, while accepting non vegan food if offered) - would the product in question still exist if the animal was seized to be killed? Even if it was for a different purpose and leather, seafish shells, gelatin etc were just byproducts, they would not exist if the animal it is derived from wasn’t killed for whatever reason.
I totally agree that it would be a shame to only use a part of an animal and let the other go to waste. Likewise, I get that “I’ll do X as long as everyone else does Y” is a way of reasoning that ends up counterproductive and keeps us locked in a status quo. So, if someone wants to stop using not just the primary products of the meat industry but also the secondary, I can understand.
- Comment on Accurate 2 months ago:
I think he’s also quite good in uncut gems, but my opinion isn’t final. I only made it through 35 minutes of the movie so far and am still recovering from the stress eight months later.
- Comment on The System does not work. 2 months ago:
Seriously, it was common? I knew only one person who lived by themselves at age 18 and it was someone who went to Hauptschule and became a kindergarten teacher by that age and his step dad paid for the apartment.
At 17, I was still in school for two more years and no one in my school (Gymnasium) lived alone. This was like 15-20 years ago. In my sister’s year (she graduated in 2003) I also don’t recall anyone living by themselves.
- Comment on Boys will be boys 3 months ago:
You’re absolutely right, but I am already absolutely in awe of them actually eating chicken and not just staring at their phones without interacting. At least that’s my assumption because trying to devour a rotisserie chicken with one hand while holding your phone in the other seems like a challenge.
- Comment on the Home Alone house then and now 3 months ago:
Thank you for the tip with Inside Out, I’ll check it out! It was on our watchlist anyway and gets promoted to top rank now.
With the kids’ media that’s the thing - there is still always a sibling. We’ve always read a lot to our four year old daughter and every longer story with an only child ends up with a sibling being born. It breaks me because I actually would love to have more children and every time that I felt safe with a story and it finally was ok, a happy family of three, they add a sibling. My daughter won’t go through that. I won’t go through that. Unless, of course, the parents are divorced, one is dead, it’s an adoptive family, or a queer family. All of these are great and depict amazing, valid family structures, and I like these books too, but they still don’t represent our dynamic.
Funnily enough my daughter caught me reading Sailor Moon mangas once and at least there the protagonist has an only child. (If you do not count parallel universe stories which I don’t for my sanity.) Sailor Moon makes me cope the most currently.
- Comment on The only one country 3 months ago:
In my case I think they really were angry because I am a Russian (only) citizen but I have never lived in Russia. I don’t hold an inner passport, only an outer passport (absolutely unfathomable to them), and I actually did at a point try to get the basic insurance set up, but I would have needed the inner passport for that. For them it was absolutely whack that I am a Russian citizen that has no Basic Insurance number and my very special circumstances (to add to that, at that point I was fluent in speaking and absolutely illiterate in reading and writing) were too complicated for them to follow and “every person has an insurance number wtf you’re Russian wtf is wrong with you just go and get a fucking number what’s your problem wtf why don’t you have a passport everyone has a passport from age 14 onwards wtf what is wrong with you” was absolutely the attitude.
But really, I understand, my situation was very complicated and my reasons were valid but going into all these details in a clinic, let alone an ER setting, would absolutely tire and drain the last remaining energy out of them. I absolutely prefer them being not lovey dovey and hand holding while telling me with a compassionate smile that they cannot do a CT scan without an insurance number, but instead getting necessary treatment and analysis on the spot. I don’t care if you call me names. I’ll forever be grateful to them.
- Comment on The only one country 3 months ago:
I once collapsed on the streets in Russia when I was an exchange student there. Started seeing a message bubble over and over in one eye, then collapsed, I couldn’t get “help” out. Idk what happened or how I got there but I woke up in the hospital. Someone must have called an ambulance and I had a CT scan of my head while I was out. They did blood work and whatnot. Got food, it was just oatmeal and bread, but I mean, it’s something.
I had traveller’s insurance and wackily tried to explain that this is common and a “I pay out of pocket they reimburse me” thing instead of Universal Basic Insurance so they decided nah not worth it just go home. I haven’t paid a single cent. I’m not even sure I’m in their records, although I did show my passport.
I was in the ER on another trip to Russia, they really can’t be bothered. Checked me for appendicitis and thankfully I was cleared for a flight home.
I mean they were hella rude and have that typical baseline of Russian angriness and annoyance but you know what, I got taken care of well.
- Comment on the Home Alone house then and now 3 months ago:
To me it is the number of children. All the happy family movies had families with multiple children, and it feels like only child families are portrayed overwhelmingly as dysfunctional and tragic.
I’m trying to work through this mindset because we only have one child, but it is hard because subconsciously, I feel like a failure, like I cannot live up to this expectation and my child is doomed to this gloomy, sad existence.
If anyone is reading this, I beg you, prove me wrong. This isn’t a challenge, I just desperately need picture perfect single child family portrayals.
- Comment on Take the fucking hint, already! 🤦🏻 3 months ago:
I was in NYC back in early 2020 and downloaded the Uber app for that, there was no Uber in my country at that point. I’ve never used it since then. I still get emails every fucking month that my Uber account is about to expire and be deleted unless I log in. For 3 years now. JUST FUCKING DELETE IT FFS
- Comment on Chat, is this accurate? 3 months ago:
Yeah maybe mixing up medicines and giving 11 year old me iodine tincture to drink wasn’t the best move
- Comment on Vegeta 3 months ago:
Honest question as someone who has no tattoos: why do people get cover ups instead of getting the tattoo removed? Is it a price issue? It often looks like a deliberate choice. But I cannot imagine that having a funny cover up of a tattoo you regret and still end up being reminded of is better than having it gone altogether.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
Dear God this gave me an aneurysm - trying to follow this logic at 11:38 pm makes my brain collapse.
(Well written though and I am sorry you have to go through that on a regular basis.)
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
I adore thrift shopping but it can become an easy way to lift your conscience after overconsumption. I have a friend who tries to buy nothing new and good for her and the environment, but she constantly treats herself to thrift shopping sprees, realizes that she doesn’t need most of it shortly after, and declutters boxes of stuff each week and puts them in “for free” giveaway cupboards in the city where, let’s be honest here, 80% of the stuff ends up getting trashed. Tldr: thrift whenever you can but it is no excuse to go berserk.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
A couple of years ago they started putting the per kg price under the item price in Germany. At first I thought that’s for idiots who cannot calculate. Now I absolutely love this. I hardly even check the item price anymore, my eyes go straight to per kg. Fuck my idiotic entitled smartass past self, per kg prices are the best thing that ever happened to capitalist supermarkets
- Comment on Rare 5 months ago:
Just the grains
- Comment on Rotund 5 months ago:
But why the massages? Serious question
- Comment on [deleted] 6 months ago:
The neighbors in our exchange dorm were 4 huge South American guys. The room was so tiny and crammed, the beds occupied 85% of the space (they also had a tiny living room with a kitchen). They still got it going on with so goddamn many girls from the dorm. I think each one of them had another girl every night. How did they do it, I don’t know.
- Comment on load bearing worm 6 months ago:
That’s an interesting take. I worked in a pharma startup once and they were grinding cutthroat bitches, but yeah, they were very focused on what they wanted to achieve. The most unethical thing - apart from absolutely ignoring human decency and worker’s rights - was probably exploiting funding for Covid research for cancer research. To be fair tho, it was the early days of Covid and their initial cancer target was structurally similar to a molecule in sars cov 2. And the CEO slept like 3 hours a day and was always one of the first ones to turn in applications for some funding contest, which is why he often got them. You have to get the money for your work somehow. And we did use the money for the development of the covid drug, it is just that we also used it to run the same tests and get equipment/reagents for the cancer targets.
- Comment on load bearing worm 6 months ago:
The results of my master’s thesis were used for two papers in Nature Communications. So much of the data was fudged and I was either asked to leave out data points, sets of data that didn’t fit the hypothesis, or I was looking how my supervisor just deleted numbers until it looked good. I was so incredibly embarrassed and angry. I declined the offer to do a PhD under the same supervisor. Oral gavage yourself with your dick my dude.
- Comment on Window alignment 6 months ago:
Isn’t it the German town with the highest suicide rate?