Vreyan31

@Vreyan31@reddthat.com

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  To be fair, this kind of kinetics-as-pevention works.

  I use this strategy to prevent eating too many snacks – I do not keep them at home. I can’t have them if they are not here. If 90% of the time I would “choose” not to have chips, not-having-them stops me the other 10%

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the difference is the perceived energy barrier if one wanted to fool around on their partner if they a bi vs het.

  A bi guy could, hypothetically, find a guy on grindr pretty much on a whim if he wanted to. This is a much lower barrier than straight guys face unless they seek a sex worker. If you are a woman in the early stages of dating someone, where you don’t know yet how much you can trust a guy, if a guy tells you he is bi that can come off as a higher cheating risk than a straight guy.

  Straight guys dating a bi-girl don’t have a similar perceived risk increase. Early in the relationship, guys may not even see the potential of a bi-girl hooking up with a girl as ‘cheating’, vs a bonus for his enjoyment. But also - finding a new girl to date is considered harder than finding an interested guy. So the ‘cheating’ risk doesn’t feel that much higher for guys dating a bi-girl compared to a straight girl; he may feel like he is still mostly competing against other guys.

  Is this fair or even realistic? No, this is based on perceived stereotypes rather than the behaviors and character of individuals.

  But this plays out at a stage of dating where people don’t know each other well yet and are relying on heuristics.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  That is why they are trying to ban the facts you just shared.

  Nothing but pro-White Nationalism propaganda allowed

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨All this produce is going to spoil at the food bank where I volunteer⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Ooohhh I see, I am judgemental because your circumstances and stated preferences represent everyone in a hard place.

  If you both could have and would have done it, it is completely reasonable to make that an expectation on everyone who struggles.

  Your struggle was definitely representative of the worst circumstances bc you had 1 job and were a single parent – even though I mentioned how plenty of parents (including single ones) balance a FT job and gigs or a managerie of gigs. Or a FT job, single parenthood, and a disability. Or…

  If you can’t see past your own life and circumstance, but want to proscribe what other people ‘should’ do (or no longer deserve your empathy), you are the one who is judgemental.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨All this produce is going to spoil at the food bank where I volunteer⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait - do you think that people who need food banks have a ton of free time for cooking clubs? Do you think it’s because they don’t work enough instead of what everyone knows which is that most people on the edge can’t make rent if they only have one job?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨All this produce is going to spoil at the food bank where I volunteer⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The jars likely cost more than the volume of produce it could store.

  Also - have to arrange logistics for labor, supplies, and a kitchen to do the boiling in. Now that you are making a cooked food product, your kitchen also likely needs a license.

  And insurance in case your rushed pickling operation creates any jars that go foul and anyone gets sick.

  Also – ew. Not even the destitute want pickled cauliflower.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Choose a number, 1-5!⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  3 or 2-with-5’s-handle

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Least extreme biophysics phd⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Unfortunately, research on prisoners and concentration camp victims did produce new valuable medical information.

  Most of the field of gynecology is based on experiments done on women slaves, where the “doctors” decided their victims conveniently didn’t have nerve endings.

  Ethics throttles research.

  But I am aghast at the thought that we should permit unethical research in the pursuit of, at the end of the day, greed.

  And I say this as a professional scientist.

  I can’t believe this conversation is even necessary.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Cathy, do the math.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  “Why do Unions have to be considered Left?”

  Tell me you have no idea about the history of labor rights without telling me…