Ooohhh I see, I am judgemental because your circumstances and stated preferences represent everyone in a hard place.

If you both could have and would have done it, it is completely reasonable to make that an expectation on everyone who struggles.

Your struggle was definitely representative of the worst circumstances bc you had 1 job and were a single parent – even though I mentioned how plenty of parents (including single ones) balance a FT job and gigs or a managerie of gigs. Or a FT job, single parenthood, and a disability. Or…

If you can’t see past your own life and circumstance, but want to proscribe what other people ‘should’ do (or no longer deserve your empathy), you are the one who is judgemental.