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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do companies require you to submit a resume but also put the same data into their forms?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I suppose your proposal can work: having standard questions with standard answers.

  To make sure there’s consistency, maybe having a non-profit handling the whole thing could work. That way, there’s a standard application that people can fill in and standard responses that jobs can expect. Something like America’s Common App.

  As to legality and the hiring criteria, I’m sorry if I misled you. I can assure you candidates were not being selected based on their blood. As I said earlier, the CV was given to the hiring decision-makers and the forms to HR.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do companies require you to submit a resume but also put the same data into their forms?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It may sound baffling that people ask for information that may be duplicated. But for us to understand what was really going on, it’s worth explaining what was in the forms.

  The forms asked for information that often were missing in CVs. Here’s a list of things that CVs usually didn’t have:

  Bureaucracy-friendly considerations:

  • A clear-cut distinction between first, middle, and last names. CV’s rarely spell it out.
  • Government-issued ID. Never seen this in a CV.

  Medical considerations:

  • Blood type in case there’s an emergency. Never seen this in a CV.
  • Emergency contact information. Never seen this in a CV.
  • Allergies that the college should be aware of. Never seen this in a CV.
  • Medical conditions that the college can provide accomodations for. Never seen it in a CV, although it probably exists.

  Specific information:

  • The specific role or roles that someone is applying to. Sometimes CVs are re-written to better fit the job they’re applying to, but I’ve rarely seen the specific role being written on the CV.
  • Whether the applicant personally knows people in the institution, both to check for references and also to mitigate blatant conflicts of interest. I’ve never seen this in a CV.

  There’s also the following practical consideration: reducing the time it takes to hire.

  Here’s a way to think about it: Colleges have seasonal hiring sprees. In a matter of weeks there can be dozens of CVs coming HR’s way. HR needs to handle this. From HR’s point of view, receiving a CV with incomplete information means HR needs to send your application to the back of the line and ask you to give HR the information it needs to hire you. These errors increase your time-to-hire, HR’s workload, and everyone behind you’s time-to-hire.

  Am I saying the system is perfect? Am I saying the system is not annoying? Am I saying we cannot improve it? No.

  I’m laying out the problems, the constraints of the problems, and the existing solutions. As it stands CVs solve for different problems than forms. I don’t doubt we could arrive at better solutions over time, but I think that would require a different set of constraints than the ones we currently have.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do companies require you to submit a resume but also put the same data into their forms?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Some are saying that it’s to have both human-readable and machine-readable data. I don’t doubt that some places do that. But others don’t.

  I worked at a college HR and we asked candidates for a a bunch of stuff, including both a CV and a form.

  The CV was given to whoever decided whether that person was hired or not.

  The forms were given to HR, so that we could independently verify information and manually add information to the college’s records.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not fruit/veggie or tea, but something that’s probably going to sound insane.

  You’re feeling strong anxiety. You want to get rid of it. This is called an avoidance goal. Avoidance goals, ironically, make us feel worse. How? Here’s an example:

  • These stimuli make me feel anxious!
  • I better take my Magic Anti-Anxiety Tea.
  • I just drank it and I feel better.
  • It’s so good to no longer feel anxiety.
  • Oh no. I’m remembering the anxiety.
  • I’m starting to feel the anxiety.
  • I’m anxious.
  • Better move on to other ways to avoid anxiety!

  This is one of the mechanisms that lead to generalized anxiety. It happens because our brains have ways of connecting ideas quickly.

  So is there no escape? Yes there is.

  Instead of trying to get rid of anxiety, we can see it differently. We can change its role in our lives.

  And we can do it without avoidance goals. Instead, we can do it with approach goals. We can move toward what matters. We can move to living a valued life. We can get closer to the kind of person that we want to be.

  We are not alone in this journey. There’s plenty of wise and rigorous people who have discovered the way out. Some of them have developed mindfulness methods. Others have developed acceptance and commitment therapy. There’s many other approaches that are evidence-based and have helped millions of people around the world.

  Let me know if you want resources or have questions. I really hope you get to take steps toward the life that you want to live.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gymnast stanning JoJo⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re right! Only few people can do those poses! And only few people can draw them. I suppose we have a potential cycle: trained gymnast does pose freezeframe capture trained drawer draws pose drawing is shared repeat

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gymnast stanning JoJo⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is amazing in two directions.

  Direction 1: she does the JoJo poses so well

  Direction 2: the JoJo artists captured true human poses so well

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You seem to really value fun, and that is genuinely okay.

  It probably seems as if I’m splitting hairs. It might also seems as if I’m interested in conflict (in the memes-conflict dicotomy you mentioned). Overall, it might seem as if I’m an armchair philosopher yelling at the clouds from my ivory tower.

  The way I see it, I’m not making a point in that ivory tower. I’m not in the vacuum of philosophy for philosophy’s sake. I actually think I’m doing the total opposite: what happens when we notice what we pay attention to, how the world affects us, and how we affect the world? In other words, what happens when we open our arms to the world instead of closing our eyes to it?

  This is incredibly practical.

  Every single choice that we make has consequences. It affects people nearby and around the world.

  I’m not arguing for us to pretend to be perfect people, whatever that means. I’m arguing for noticing our place in this world and how we are connected to others. I’m arguing for expanding our perspective instead of narrowing it.

  Even when we expand our perspective we can still choose memes and fun.

  I do it. I’m like you in that sense.

  The very small change is noticing that we are making choices and that choices are consequential.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I know it sounds absurd. You’re thinking I’m insane. You’re thinking there’s no way a sane human being believes lasagne bolognese is politics. You’re thinking my definition of politics is useless or absurd.

  But let’s look at this closely. Again, politics is the distribution of political goods and our assessments of those distributions.

  • Are we not paying attention to lasagna bolognese right now instead of something else?
  • Are there not implications to a lasagna bolognese? Was that lasagna bolognese produced in a vacuum?
  • Was there not a distribution of labor involved in producing it?
  • Were there not political structures within which your lasagna bolognese was created?
  • If the killing of cows was involved, was there not a political decision to kill a cow?

  Being aware that politics is everywhere means we can choose what to pay attention to and what to do. It’s fine to choose lasagna bolognese. It’s fine to choose what kind of life you want. We’re involved in politics even if we don’t know it. We’re already somewhat skilled at it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  For your filter to work, you’d have to add many other words. Politics is the distribution of political goods, including attention and significance. If you pay attention to something or think something is significant, that is politics. So for your filter to work, you’d have to filter out anything and everything that you pay attention to and think is significant.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨fidget toys⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you know where that image comes from?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finally, a real name for your penis⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nice try, FBI (which would be “Fun Hard Knob”) or CIA (which would be “Big Bear Wand”)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Like seriously, go get some experience first and come back to me kid⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  U r edgy

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is my sister likely to be aroace? we think so but we would like a good starting point to help her on her journey.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Love your take!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨can i still consider myself to be a valid asexual?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sometimes labels help. Sometimes they don’t.

  Also, Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are could help!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nextdoor is pretty wild⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  ah gotcha

  lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nextdoor is pretty wild⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks for the explanation. Umm, unfortunately I still don’t get it. For the OP to make sense, can someone explain what’s going on?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨POV: You are a slop generator being trained on 3000 years of the world's works of fine art⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Good shitpost. Banger piece. Am satisfied.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do some racist, classist, homophobic ect people do "good" things sometimes?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Many comments have alluded to this: people are contextual.

  I’ll add to this that thoughts are very, very flexible.

  In some contexts we learn to think one way and in other contexts we learn to think in other ways. Our thoughts always get activated by context, either external contexts or internal contexts. For example seeing an apple might have us think we’re hungry if we’re hungry. Or it may make us think we don’t even want to see it if we just ate a lot. Or we might think of our upcoming presentation and that may be the context for the thought “I’m not prepared enough”.

  Not only are thoughts contextual, but they behave in interesting ways. Often, we transfer thoughts from one context to another context. If we think “I’m never prepared for presentations”, we might end up reinforcing ideas like “I’m never prepared [in general]”. We may end up thinking we’re never prepared for dinner with friends or for tough conversations with loved ones.

  Another critical feature of thoughts is that we can even change the role thoughts have in our behavior. For example, the thought “I’m not prepared enough for my presentation” may be seen as a literal truth. Or it could be seen as a thought and just a thought. In other words, thoughts can sometimes be taken literally and we can be fused with them or we can look at them from a distance.

  These three examples illustrate my point: thoughts are ridiculously flexible.

  This flexibility is what explains the phenomena you notice. That is how we end up with a capitalist who may have strong thoughts about family and may stop focusing on profit-maximization when their employee’s daughter die. That is how we end up with a worker who could have strong thoughts about profits and may stop focusing on solidarity with his peers when a promotion is offered.

  My perspective comes from contextual behavioral science and relational frame theory.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In your experience, does fighting the feelings help? Answer not using your logic, but your felt experience.

  Odds are, fighting doesn’t help. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here asking for help.

  You hurt because you care. You care about belonging, about contributing, about being open to others. And, since you care about this, you hurt.

  We can’t get rid of this kind of hurt. Would you even want to? Would you want to be indifferent to other people?

  I’m not trying to be mean or brutal. I’m just trying to a place where this hurt is a meaningful part of your life and not something you keep fighting (and failing to defeat).

  So what can you do? You could notice your thoughts as thoughts. You can try giving your brain a name and thanking it for informing you about the things it informs you throughout the day. This doesn’t make thoughts disappear, but it helps seeing them as thoughts and not reality.

  You can also imagine that you carry your sensations, memories, moods, thoughts, images, etc. in your hands, as if you were carrying a delicate flower. This is a way to honor your life without running a way from it and also without being entirely determined by it.

  Finally, you can ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, what you stand for. What are the qualities of being that you would like to adopt in your life? You can discover this intuitively by wondering what you care for. If rejection hurts, you likely value inclusion. If abandonment hurts, you likely value consistency and kindness.

  The task the becomes accepting our current reality (thanking our brain for its suggestions and holding our whole life experience preciously) and taking our next step with the qualities of being that we value.

  If you’re curious about this perspective, let me know and I can tell you more about it :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anti-Brexit protesters in front of the Big Ben.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Made a bet with a friend that the UK would be back before 2035. So I’m happy when I see a picture like this one. I need those tacos.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Okay... so how do depressed people even have relationships? Did they get depresion after they already got into the relationship or did they actually went dating while having depression?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Depression has lots of ways of manifesting.

  One way of describing depression is an unwillingness to engage with life and to feel, because the person has learned that engaging or feeling will lead to pain. This is the functional contextual definition.

  Another one comes from Martin Seligman, who defines it as an unwillingness to try things because the person has learned that engaging in something will lead to failure.

  In either definition, the unwillingness is contextual. In other words, someone might be depressed regarding work but not their partner. Or someone might be depressed regarding their family but not their partner.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is it really worth it⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is it really worth it⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Just so you know, you’re not alone. When avocados have been introduced to new markets (like the USA some time ago), people need to learn how to engage with it. People need to learn how to buy it, how to open it, how to include it in foods.

  And, as you’ve heard, indeed it’s not meant to be sweet and instead it’s just like fat. And it’s very healthy fat.

  I agree with what someone else said: I’d try making a simple guacamole recipe and eating the guacamole with nachos or tortillas or something like that!

  Also, as someone else said, it’s totally fair if you don’t like guacamole. Some people don’t and it’s alright :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Attention!⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I like how they’re ”already” tracking me. I’m still trying to understand how the meaning changes with and without the quotations, but it certainly feels important or something

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨telepathy⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Idk. Looks kinda painful ngl

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Or prion diseases or parasites that invade brains.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Trying to figure out what post belongs where, I do think your post belongs in this community.

  You didn’t break any rules.

  And you posted shit (Trump) in the shit post community.

  As usual, I think everything is politics and nothing is not politics. We’re always deciding what deserves attention and what not, what identities to bolster or forget, what worldviews we bolster and which we forget.

  So in general I think the division between “politics” and “non-politics” is a bit like the difference between “things that can be thought of” and “things that can’t be thought of”. Everything belongs in the first category and nothing belongs in the second.

  I think the more important discussion is whether your post was a shit post. And I totally see it as one.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyone has videos of JD Vance getting booed? I can’t find proper booing videos, but those supposedly exist⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks for the link. Unfortunately, in that video it’s not clear to me that those are boos. Maybe I’m missing something.

• Anyone has videos of JD Vance getting booed? I can’t find proper booing videos, but those supposedly exist
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