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- Comment on Gymnast stanning JoJo 1 week ago:
You’re right! Only few people can do those poses! And only few people can draw them. I suppose we have a potential cycle: trained gymnast does pose freezeframe capture trained drawer draws pose drawing is shared repeat
- Comment on Gymnast stanning JoJo 1 week ago:
This is amazing in two directions.
Direction 1: she does the JoJo poses so well
Direction 2: the JoJo artists captured true human poses so well
- Comment on Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next? 3 weeks ago:
You seem to really value fun, and that is genuinely okay.
It probably seems as if I’m splitting hairs. It might also seems as if I’m interested in conflict (in the memes-conflict dicotomy you mentioned). Overall, it might seem as if I’m an armchair philosopher yelling at the clouds from my ivory tower.
The way I see it, I’m not making a point in that ivory tower. I’m not in the vacuum of philosophy for philosophy’s sake. I actually think I’m doing the total opposite: what happens when we notice what we pay attention to, how the world affects us, and how we affect the world? In other words, what happens when we open our arms to the world instead of closing our eyes to it?
This is incredibly practical.
Every single choice that we make has consequences. It affects people nearby and around the world.
I’m not arguing for us to pretend to be perfect people, whatever that means. I’m arguing for noticing our place in this world and how we are connected to others. I’m arguing for expanding our perspective instead of narrowing it.
Even when we expand our perspective we can still choose memes and fun.
I do it. I’m like you in that sense.
The very small change is noticing that we are making choices and that choices are consequential.
- Comment on Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next? 3 weeks ago:
I know it sounds absurd. You’re thinking I’m insane. You’re thinking there’s no way a sane human being believes lasagne bolognese is politics. You’re thinking my definition of politics is useless or absurd.
But let’s look at this closely. Again, politics is the distribution of political goods and our assessments of those distributions.
- Are we not paying attention to lasagna bolognese right now instead of something else?
- Are there not implications to a lasagna bolognese? Was that lasagna bolognese produced in a vacuum?
- Was there not a distribution of labor involved in producing it?
- Were there not political structures within which your lasagna bolognese was created?
- If the killing of cows was involved, was there not a political decision to kill a cow?
Being aware that politics is everywhere means we can choose what to pay attention to and what to do. It’s fine to choose lasagna bolognese. It’s fine to choose what kind of life you want. We’re involved in politics even if we don’t know it. We’re already somewhat skilled at it.
- Comment on Working on my politics-free lemmy experience, what words should I add next? 3 weeks ago:
For your filter to work, you’d have to add many other words. Politics is the distribution of political goods, including attention and significance. If you pay attention to something or think something is significant, that is politics. So for your filter to work, you’d have to filter out anything and everything that you pay attention to and think is significant.
- Comment on fidget toys 1 month ago:
Do you know where that image comes from?
- Comment on Finally, a real name for your penis 1 month ago:
Nice try, FBI (which would be “Fun Hard Knob”) or CIA (which would be “Big Bear Wand”)
- Comment on Like seriously, go get some experience first and come back to me kid 1 month ago:
U r edgy
- Comment on is my sister likely to be aroace? we think so but we would like a good starting point to help her on her journey. 1 month ago:
Love your take!
- Comment on can i still consider myself to be a valid asexual? 1 month ago:
Sometimes labels help. Sometimes they don’t.
Also, Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are could help!
- Comment on Nextdoor is pretty wild 1 month ago:
ah gotcha
lol
- Comment on Nextdoor is pretty wild 1 month ago:
Thanks for the explanation. Umm, unfortunately I still don’t get it. For the OP to make sense, can someone explain what’s going on?
- Comment on POV: You are a slop generator being trained on 3000 years of the world's works of fine art 1 month ago:
Good shitpost. Banger piece. Am satisfied.
- Comment on Why do some racist, classist, homophobic ect people do "good" things sometimes? 1 month ago:
Many comments have alluded to this: people are contextual.
I’ll add to this that thoughts are very, very flexible.
In some contexts we learn to think one way and in other contexts we learn to think in other ways. Our thoughts always get activated by context, either external contexts or internal contexts. For example seeing an apple might have us think we’re hungry if we’re hungry. Or it may make us think we don’t even want to see it if we just ate a lot. Or we might think of our upcoming presentation and that may be the context for the thought “I’m not prepared enough”.
Not only are thoughts contextual, but they behave in interesting ways. Often, we transfer thoughts from one context to another context. If we think “I’m never prepared for presentations”, we might end up reinforcing ideas like “I’m never prepared [in general]”. We may end up thinking we’re never prepared for dinner with friends or for tough conversations with loved ones.
Another critical feature of thoughts is that we can even change the role thoughts have in our behavior. For example, the thought “I’m not prepared enough for my presentation” may be seen as a literal truth. Or it could be seen as a thought and just a thought. In other words, thoughts can sometimes be taken literally and we can be fused with them or we can look at them from a distance.
These three examples illustrate my point: thoughts are ridiculously flexible.
This flexibility is what explains the phenomena you notice. That is how we end up with a capitalist who may have strong thoughts about family and may stop focusing on profit-maximization when their employee’s daughter die. That is how we end up with a worker who could have strong thoughts about profits and may stop focusing on solidarity with his peers when a promotion is offered.
My perspective comes from contextual behavioral science and relational frame theory.
- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 2 months ago:
In your experience, does fighting the feelings help? Answer not using your logic, but your felt experience.
Odds are, fighting doesn’t help. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here asking for help.
You hurt because you care. You care about belonging, about contributing, about being open to others. And, since you care about this, you hurt.
We can’t get rid of this kind of hurt. Would you even want to? Would you want to be indifferent to other people?
I’m not trying to be mean or brutal. I’m just trying to a place where this hurt is a meaningful part of your life and not something you keep fighting (and failing to defeat).
So what can you do? You could notice your thoughts as thoughts. You can try giving your brain a name and thanking it for informing you about the things it informs you throughout the day. This doesn’t make thoughts disappear, but it helps seeing them as thoughts and not reality.
You can also imagine that you carry your sensations, memories, moods, thoughts, images, etc. in your hands, as if you were carrying a delicate flower. This is a way to honor your life without running a way from it and also without being entirely determined by it.
Finally, you can ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, what you stand for. What are the qualities of being that you would like to adopt in your life? You can discover this intuitively by wondering what you care for. If rejection hurts, you likely value inclusion. If abandonment hurts, you likely value consistency and kindness.
The task the becomes accepting our current reality (thanking our brain for its suggestions and holding our whole life experience preciously) and taking our next step with the qualities of being that we value.
If you’re curious about this perspective, let me know and I can tell you more about it :)
- Comment on Anti-Brexit protesters in front of the Big Ben. 2 months ago:
Made a bet with a friend that the UK would be back before 2035. So I’m happy when I see a picture like this one. I need those tacos.
- Comment on Okay... so how do depressed people even have relationships? Did they get depresion after they already got into the relationship or did they actually went dating while having depression? 2 months ago:
Depression has lots of ways of manifesting.
One way of describing depression is an unwillingness to engage with life and to feel, because the person has learned that engaging or feeling will lead to pain. This is the functional contextual definition.
Another one comes from Martin Seligman, who defines it as an unwillingness to try things because the person has learned that engaging in something will lead to failure.
In either definition, the unwillingness is contextual. In other words, someone might be depressed regarding work but not their partner. Or someone might be depressed regarding their family but not their partner.
- Comment on is it really worth it 2 months ago:
Is it really worth it?Image
- Comment on is it really worth it 2 months ago:
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 2 months ago:
Just so you know, you’re not alone. When avocados have been introduced to new markets (like the USA some time ago), people need to learn how to engage with it. People need to learn how to buy it, how to open it, how to include it in foods.
And, as you’ve heard, indeed it’s not meant to be sweet and instead it’s just like fat. And it’s very healthy fat.
I agree with what someone else said: I’d try making a simple guacamole recipe and eating the guacamole with nachos or tortillas or something like that!
Also, as someone else said, it’s totally fair if you don’t like guacamole. Some people don’t and it’s alright :)
- Comment on Attention! 2 months ago:
I like how they’re ”already” tracking me. I’m still trying to understand how the meaning changes with and without the quotations, but it certainly feels important or something
- Comment on telepathy 3 months ago:
Idk. Looks kinda painful ngl
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Or prion diseases or parasites that invade brains.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Trying to figure out what post belongs where, I do think your post belongs in this community.
You didn’t break any rules.
And you posted shit (Trump) in the shit post community.
As usual, I think everything is politics and nothing is not politics. We’re always deciding what deserves attention and what not, what identities to bolster or forget, what worldviews we bolster and which we forget.
So in general I think the division between “politics” and “non-politics” is a bit like the difference between “things that can be thought of” and “things that can’t be thought of”. Everything belongs in the first category and nothing belongs in the second.
I think the more important discussion is whether your post was a shit post. And I totally see it as one.
- Comment on Anyone has videos of JD Vance getting booed? I can’t find proper booing videos, but those supposedly exist 3 months ago:
Thanks for the link. Unfortunately, in that video it’s not clear to me that those are boos. Maybe I’m missing something.
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- Comment on He/him 3 months ago:
Thanks for the catch! Fixed!
- Comment on He/him 3 months ago:
Ada’s man speaks like this. Ada’s man has no pronouns. Ada’s man gave up pronouns ever since becoming Ada’s man.
At first it felt manly. After all, Ada’s man was next to Ada. And Ada only let men next to Ada.
Still, Ada’s man thinks it’s kinda weird to not be able to use pronouns.
In fact, Ada’s man sorta regrets the whole thing.
Ada’s man is often made fun of. Ada’s man has heard he speaks like cavemen. Ada’s man often feels dumb and excluded.
The worst part is work. Ada’s man had to intervene at work. Ada’s man had to redact reports at work, removing all pronouns. This made Ada’s man feel humiliated. Ada’s man was made fun of by coworkers, bosses, and customers. The caveman comment was repeated again and again.
However, over time, Ada’s man was accepted. Why? To start with, Ada’s man was a good worker. But more importantly, they (the coworkers) felt Ada’s man was in a toxic relationship with Ada. They knew Ada from Ada’s man and from Ada’s social media. And Ada sounded like an absolute pile of garbage.
Over time, the cavemen comments stopped. They referred to Ada’s man as Ada’s man. And they saw Ada’s man with pity. They just hope someday Ada’s man would be unshackled from Ada’s man’s Ada.
Months went by. Ada’s man felt the weight on Ada’s man’s shoulders. This didn’t feel like a good way to live. But Ada’s man is a man, and Ada’s man wants to be with Ada. It’s just that Ada’s man wonders if there could be a different way.
- Comment on Anon is a nice guy 3 months ago:
This kid should read Mitch Prinstein’s work. Bottom line: high-status people have worse lives, while likeable people have better lives.
- Comment on Vimeo Lays Off 'Most' of Its Staff, Allegedly Includes 'the Entire Video Team' 3 months ago:
Dropout uses Vimeo?
