DoucheBagMcSwag
@DoucheBagMcSwag@lemmy.dbzer0.com
- Comment on RIP a gawd 1 day ago:
HEY ESSE I BROKE INTO YOUR CARR
- Comment on [Bellular News] People Aren't Buying New Games, So Valve Changed Steam 2 days ago:
Clickbait
- Comment on That would be petrifying 6 days ago:
Why do I see a fucking face looking at this picture
- Comment on 2027 gonna be like... 1 week ago:
Waiting for the big beautiful obituary
- Comment on 2027 gonna be like... 1 week ago:
And Mango Mussolini is still fucking alive.
- Comment on I Study Successful People. They Have One Habit in Common. 1 week ago:
Yeah I spoiler tagged it
- Comment on I Study Successful People. They Have One Habit in Common. 1 week ago:
I was once stranded with my 86-year-old mother in the Atlantic Ocean. We were on a snorkeling excursion off the coast of Miami, and the two of us were quickly swept behind our boat, my mother overtaken by the current. In her panic, she’d inhaled water into both lungs and lost consciousness. Attempting to tug her to safety, I thrashed and kicked with all my might, but the ocean swallowed my efforts whole. Lungs burning, legs heavy, I changed tactics. I used one hand to keep her head above water and waved the other wildly in the air, shouting for help as I did.
Ultimately, what saved my mother’s life that day, and mine, too, was not fighting the current on my own. It was calling for help. The rescuers who came to our aid knew more than I did about how to handle this kind of emergency. Together, they got my mom onto the boat deck, then to solid ground and finally into the hands of expert medical staff who could care for her properly.
Most people understand the importance of asking for help in a life-or-death crisis. We know we should wave to the lifeguard during a riptide or call 911 if our house catches fire. But in our personal and professional lives, Americans are encouraged to pursue rugged individualism over interdependency. “Help from without is often enfeebling in its effects. But help from within invariably invigorates,” wrote the journalist Samuel Smiles in his 1859 book “Self-Help,” which reached a wider audience in America than in his native Britain and spawned an entire literary genre of the same name. Heroic tales of self-made Americans abound — like Thomas Edison, who tested thousands of filaments in his quest to invent the lightbulb, or Steve Jobs, a loner who transformed technology.
You might think I’d love the image of the solo striver triumphing over every challenge. After all, I’m a psychologist who wrote a book called “Grit” about the necessity of passion and perseverance for achieving long-term goals. The truth is, I hate it. Without exception, every high performer I’ve studied credits a host of supporters for success. Research has found that a willingness to ask for help is crucial to achievement.
Consider Nicolai Tangen, the chief executive of the world’s largest wealth fund. I interviewed him recently as he was putting the finishing touches on a book he’d been writing about leadership. After praising personal qualities like energy and grit, Mr. Tangen’s book spills more ink than you can believe about his assistant, Grete Starheim. He trusts her to speak on his behalf, and he believes her when she tells him he’s wrong. “Why should such important people end up in the shadows?” Mr. Tangen asked. “Is it embarrassing to admit that you need help?”
Or consider Conan O’Brien, who told Harvard’s graduating class that he always reminds himself that he’d done nothing alone. “If I could invite everybody, alive or dead, who has contributed to my being your commencement speaker today, all of Cambridge and half of Allston would be crammed shoulder to shoulder,” he said.
Mr. Tangen and Mr. O’Brien aren’t just being modest. Studies show that knowing when to ask for help is an essential skill for children’s learning and achievement. College students who proactively seek assistance from others typically outperform those who avoid doing so. In adulthood, seeking support is an effective strategy for regulating our emotions, and having a support network is a reliable predictor of overall mental health.
Research also shows that entrepreneurs are more successful when brought together to learn from one another. That is why one venture capital firm, Y Combinator, favors funding co-founders over solo founders. It also links founders in what it calls batches, with group office hours, group dinners and an internal messaging platform for sharing knowledge. “Even if you could do all the work yourself, you need colleagues to brainstorm with, to talk you out of stupid decisions and to cheer you up when things go wrong,” Paul Graham, one of Y Combinator’s founders, once wrote.
From an early age, we suffer from what cognitive psychologists call the illusion of self-sufficiency, overlooking how much we owe our skills to other people. In one experiment, two groups of children were given a machine they’d never seen before. In the first, none managed to figure out how it worked on their own. In the second, the vast majority succeeded after seeing someone else use the machine and getting hints along the way. Still, after the experiment, 70 percent of the second group claimed they would have learned to use the machine without help.
Being a successful self-starter doesn’t mean pulling yourself up by your bootstraps. It’s raising your hand and asking a teacher to explain, once again, a concept you still don’t understand. It’s calling up a former boss for advice. It’s announcing to your team that you’re stuck on an important problem and need their collective brain to solve it. It’s not just stoically making the best of a bad situation — it’s proactively making your situation more supportive. Don’t assume you’re being a burden when you reach out asking for help. Research shows we consistently underestimate how happy it makes others to lend a hand.
“Do it yourself” is no way to live. Take it from my mom, who, five years after a cry for help saved her life, recently celebrated her 91st birthday.
- Comment on Metal Gear Solid 4 can finally be played without emulator or PS3 2 weeks ago:
RPCS3 developments particularly on this game will likely be deprioritized now.
- Comment on It do be like that 2 weeks ago:
PA TA PA TA PON!
F E V E R!!
- Comment on It do be like that 2 weeks ago:
I am patiently waiting for this to get decomped so we can have keyboard and mouse
- Comment on It do be like that 2 weeks ago:
I actually have this. I saw it in a demo kiosk at an FYE and got it a few months later for my birthday when I was a kid
- Comment on It do be like that 2 weeks ago:
Psi Ops: The Mindgate Conspiracy
Midway my beloved
- Comment on "Through the looking glass": as Arkane fight for their future, Dishonored veteran Harvey Smith reveals new studio dedicated to immersive sims 3 weeks ago:
Don’t do that…
Don’t give me hope
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
But but but think of the hospitals that can bankrupt and extract money from someone who will be dead soon anyway!
Healthcare being for profit is the only reason why human euthanasia is frowned upon. Cause hospitals will lose money instead of keeping those alive suffer
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Just had to travel via car with one. He’s very large.
…made me want a cat next time
- Comment on Hopeposting 4 weeks ago:
Also Hawk Girl is a based mother fucker
- Comment on President Trump reacts to President Biden’s cancer diagnosis: "I don't feel sorry for him" 4 weeks ago:
I will drink in celebration when he is fucking dead.
Regardless of the outcome how it happens.
- Comment on Why does China have so many multi billionaires if they are aiming to be a communist country? 4 weeks ago:
!!! 15+ social credit
- Comment on Why does China have so many multi billionaires if they are aiming to be a communist country? 4 weeks ago:
That’s because China is not Communist and only “communist” on paper so that the people can still believe in the “trickle down” economics where “the people” own a share of the business
They do not.
- Comment on 4 weeks ago:
Retro achievements is just streamer fodder so they have more content to producy
- Comment on Why is AOC a big deal? She just speaks common sense and calls out absurdity. Have we really gone that far off the rails where we don't do it ourselves? 1 month ago:
yes
- Comment on Once you reach a certain age 1 month ago:
Camera
In
Me
Ass
- Comment on "Censorship" ☠️ 1 month ago:
Holy shit
- Comment on Got too greedy at the end there 2 months ago:
No you’re not the only one.
GTA mentality
- Comment on Do you think that Trump is the most hated U.S. president? 2 months ago:
If we can get out of this somehow… Yes. He will live in infamy
If we don’t and become like China where one party rules, then no. All history books will be forced to praise him to say he was / is the best president there ever was and Don Jr is doing a fantastic job as current president. Anything less than this will be considered unamerican which will be grounds for losing citizenship
- Comment on There Is No Reason To Buy Another PlayStation Or Xbox 2 months ago:
NO! this isn’t happening!! There’s no reason to go on!
What am I - what am I BUYING FOOOOORRR
- Comment on Counting on you to keep it going 2 months ago:
Every time I see this it angers me because those aren’t the lyrics.
“that’s the joke.png”
- Comment on Oblivion 2 months ago:
Of it’s definitely a choice, there’s probably a financing additional incentive to the college or even instructor to adapt these anti sharing policies
- Comment on Oblivion 2 months ago:
Unfortunately a lot of the fucking publishers are getting aware of this fact and they’re doing one-time codes now
- Comment on LastPass notifies users of yet another data breach 2 months ago:
I think I may be too dumb for that…instance?..