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• cloudless@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Insult. Unless you’re so smart that it is obviously a joke.

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  • whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    then you’re ugly is the real point?

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• vk6flab@lemmy.radio ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s an insult with a poor attempt at pretending that it’s not.

  Recommendation: Find a better friend.

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  • frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Relax

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• meco03211@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Sounds similar to being told, “At least you’re pretty,” after saying something stupid.

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• IWW4@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I am trying to get my mind how anyone could consider that a compliment, or how anyone could be a big enough asshole to say that to someone.

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  • blondebabe@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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    • whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      is there a way for you to work in another place ?

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    • shishka_b0b@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      You normally work 7 days a week and you’re the only attractive woman that works as a bartender on the beach at a vacation destination?

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• slazer2au@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Backhanded one for sure.

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  • Maeve@kbin.earth ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yes, came to post https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/backhanded-compliment

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• sanguinepar@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Depends on context - if said amiably between friends, it could be fine.

  In the context of your comment about it being your boss who said it, and why, I’d say it’s pretty insulting (if not necessarily an intended insult).

  It’s pretty dismissive of you as a person, instead focusing on your value (to his bar) in terms of attracting male customers. It’s not very respectful of you tbh.

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• unknownuserunknownlocation@kbin.earth ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It's an announcement to stay as far away as possible from whoever said that. Might even call it negging.

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• zeropointone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I tend to ask people who say such things to explain in detail what they mean, hoping to get to the point where I can ask how a dumb person can be charming, considering that charm requires emotional intelligence.

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I know a lot of charming people that are pretty dumb.

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    • zeropointone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      What makes them charming?

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  This would mean completely different things depending on who said it.

  If it’s coming from a male friend, it’s a joke compliment. We razz each other all the time and I’d probably laugh and appreciate the acknowledgement of my charm.

  Anyone I don’t know that well, shouldn’t be saying anything like that.

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• bacon_pdp@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I would more want context. As I know that I am not a charming woman (I believe the phrase was a hellfire demon on wheels) but even my husband (who has a 176 IQ) considers me clever.

  Also I realize that we are all dumb about many subjects that are not our interests. And what people find charming can vary greatly.

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• Deestan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s negging.

  Manipulative bullshit insult with a half-excuse tacked in.

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• Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  both, one of each

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• 7uWqKj@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s a compliment because it means that you’re going to be very successful, have a lot of friends and a good time and great sex. Sure, your conversations will be shallow and your relationships superficial, but you’ll be too dumb to mind. Ignorance is a bliss, and who likes a smartass anyway.

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