Comment on Anon plants a seed of doubt

• SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Yep I live in the Netherlands as a 5’6” guy. So many insecure short women here who only want men that are 2 meters all. My height is so much more of an issue with women who are shorter than me than women who are my same height or slightly taller.

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  • stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    If you’re not over 6’, are you even from the Netherlands? /lh

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    • SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      well my genes are from one of the former colonies. My short stature will tell you which colony that is.

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      • stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Sorry I’m not that educated on the Dutch colonies. I only know about Suriname.

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• fibojoly@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  I’ve literally never heard of a woman talking about “I don’t date men under X height” in my entire life. Then again I’d never even talk with a woman like that in the first place.

  I’ve certainly noticed the trend of smaller girls always gravitating towards taller men, but nothing so silly as “I don’t date small men”. As a small guy myself, I actually dated a few tall girls without issue, and happily married to a lady two inches taller than me.

  As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    I’m 5’3 and have dated taller girls but I’ve seen them get shit from their friends for being with a short guy. They’d say it right in front of me too. Some people really are assholes about it.

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  • babybus@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    This probably comes from Tinder, where people explicitly state their preferences. I also don’t know anyone in real life who talks about that. These are two very different environments. But keep in mind that romantic and sexual interests are not always conscious choices. People might not even be aware of them, yet your height can still affect their desire to be with you (among many other things).

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    • Maalus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Preferences are bullcrap most of the time anyways. Only truly shallow people go completely off of looks and are looking for a 100% match to them. Had seen plenty of bios saying stuff like “I’m crazy about tall men with beards”. Sent a message saying “how bout short men with beards?” And the response was “aye, I can do that” directly referencing lotr lol

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    • fibojoly@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Never thought about it this way, since I’ve never used dating apps. That makes sense, though. Thanks for the insight.

      And I agree about unconscious choices; that’s why I mentioned small girls with huge guys. The stereotype is so common, yet rarely, when I asked, were the girls even aware of it. My money has always been on daddy issues for this particular one.

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      • WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        some people jjst like taller people. I like tall women for instance. no need to put each other down over it.

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Also tinder tends towards pickiness partly as a way of thinning the herd. It’s very easy for dating apps to take nice to haves and push them into requirements. Things you may demand there might be a lot less important with someone you were chatting with at a social event and felt a spark with.

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  • stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    they may not say it out loud, but I think there’s quite a few women that prefer taller men

    besides, there’s nothing wrong with having such preferences, as long as you don’t denigrate the people who don’t fit your preferences

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  • Estebiu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.

    Im dying

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