Comment on Love is love
Nuke_the_whales@lemmy.world 3 days agoI agree with this. I had this gorgeous friend that I never once tried making a move on our flirting with, cause she was way out of my league. We got to hanging out alone a lot and I would never do anything but just act like a normal, non horny person for once. All of a sudden she’s kissing me. Like wtf?! Good times.
kernelle@lemmy.world 3 days ago
That’s why I always tell people to stop ‘looking’, that’s just desperate and off-putting. Friendships will turn into relationships if its meant to be.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
these are all great stories but what if it doesn’t happen and you stay single for life
turtletracks@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
If that’s your worry, you never stopped “looking”
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
How so? I’m not “looking” at all. I’m just seeing my friends once in a while and occasionally making new friends. Outside of that I’m just focusing on my studies. I’ve stopped caring about dating for a long time. Of course that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped wishing to meet someone.
kernelle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
That’s the thing, it will work 100% guaranteed. As long as you’re open to new friendships. Will the first person fall in love with you? Probably not. The second? Also probably not. That’s the beauty of it, you’ll either have an SO or a ton of friends, and having a friend of the opposite gender is like wingman paradise.
Honytawk@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
No it won’t. I tried that for 30 years with no success.
For some people, if you don’t put in effort you will not get any of those things.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Yeah well I already have a ton of friends. I just think you can’t claim it will work 100% for everyone, because you can’t prove that.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 2 days ago
The story above happened because someone made a move.
kernelle@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Make the move! You’ll know and they’ll know when the moment is right, but don’t rush it!
AlolanYoda@mander.xyz 1 day ago
I’m glad I’m not searching for romantic advice in this thread because if I were I’d have a headache.
Should I search for a friendship instead of a relationship? Should I make a move? Should I make a move on my friends?!
meyotch@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
Tina Belcher is my spiritual guide on this issue. Nothing wrong with a little erotic friend-fiction becoming reality.