Comment on Anon is anti drugs
Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Why are people like this? Shit life syndrome. What do we do with them? Offer them compassion and support.
It says a lot about life broadly that any time we invent or devise some kind of system or chemical for eliminating pain, that substance instantly becomes so addicting that we can not longer manage life at all.
Life is pain. Even if you’ve gone numb to it, every moment hurts in one way or another.
I think this is what anti-natalists are going on about, that life is more painful than joyous, don’t bring convos beings into it.
I understand that premise, but I’d argue that there is more good than bad in life, that while the universe may not care about any of us, there are plenty of genuinely beautiful moments out there, even just waking around your local park.
Death is certain, maybe some should be permitted to exit life early, but there’s gotta be a way to show people nature’s beauty. I don’t really know where to go with this comment in truth. I just hope people in pain find genuine solace.
Why is the phrase “shit life syndrome” so funny to me? 😂
Because to Cynics like us, 90% of life is shit. Happiness is a cheesecake brownie, or a 5 second orgasm, or a good round of a shooter video game. Life sucks, and it’s hard. We have it easier than any other human in the history of humanity. But we’re still human, and shit can still suck. Focus on the small, brief moments of pure joy and happiness.
5 second orgasm
I feel terrible for anyone whose orgasms last five seconds…
Why do people play videos games? Or watch movies? Or eat their favorite food? Or listen to their favorite music? Or masturbate? Or play sports? Or whatever…
For the dopamine hit. Everyone does this. But some people, like people suffering from ADHD, or people who went through severe abuse, or whatever, have a major deficit of the “Feel Good” chemical in their brains, or severe trauma/PTSD. And when they find a way to boost the good stuff, they get “addicted.”
No one wants to be an addict, a slave to a substance/experience. But sometimes it’s a shortcut to not feeling absolutely miserable. And sometimes a healthy road to solving the problem is unavailable/unaffordable.
The worst thing about Shit Life Syndrome is how contagious it is.
Stegget@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Or sometimes they already have a good life (house, kid, spouse, dogs, x2 cars and stable support) and instead they decide to burn it all down in favor of a two-week crack bender. She drained our bank account, caught a DV charge and we are now divorced, thank fuck.
rekorse@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Well, you can have all the things you listed as being part of a ‘good life’ and still be in an awful relationship, or have problems that need dealing with. I’m not sure I’d brag quite like that about abandoning someone in a mental health crisis. Its at least sad isnt it?
AeroLemming@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Nah. Gotta draw the line somewhere.
rekorse@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Like I said, its at least sad on some level. Sad things couldn’t work out, sad that she couldn’t manage to fix her problems before her loved ones had enough, sad for any kids involved.
You can be justified in leaving and it still be sad. We can have compassion for those that we feel have wronged us, and oftentimes over time perspectives change.
Stegget@lemmy.world 2 months ago
She abused me for 15+ years. I feel no sympathy for her.
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Hey man. I am really sorry for you. Was there any indication to why the substance abuse started?
Stegget@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Equal parts narcissism, bad company, deteriorating mental health and poor decisions. I had a whole thing typed up, but I’ve aired this shitshow elsewhere before. The short version is she has been a problem at every job she ever held, so she opened her own bakery and proceeded to drive it into the ground within about six months. She hung out with some shady people who did shady things, and got wrapped up in her own wants and desires. She eventually walked own (after hitting me on camera) when I wouldn’t give her my car so she could go “work” (i.e. swing by her crack dealer’s place). She stayed away voluntarily for about a week or two before I found out about the crack usage; after that I told her she couldn’t come back and filed a police report for the domestic battery in order to protect myself and our son from her. Took me a while to admit to myself that I was stuck in an abusive relationship for 15+ years.
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl 2 months ago
damn… here I am burning my own world down but at least I’m not taking anybody with me.
sry you had to go through all that. hang in there
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Thanks for sharing. Hope you and your son are in a better situation now.
Illuminostro@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’m sorry that happened to you, that sucks. People in that situation are suffering, and sometimes, they make others suffer too. Hopefully you’ll be OK, and I know you don’t want to hear this, but hopefully in time, she will too.