I put my partner in a hypnotic trance, crossdressed as a witch, “brewed” an aphrodisiac potion, fed it to them and then myself, cast a “spell” to freeze them in place, then fucked them with a tentacle that I “summoned,” but I can’t be kinky because I’m not a fan of applying lipshit. I’m glad you know what you like, but I think it’s good to recognize that kinks are by definition often very specific, and there are therefore so many different meanings a person can have when they describe themself as kinky. If someone tells you they’re kinky and the first thing you do isn’t clarify what kinks they have, that’s a communication issue, not something to shame them for. You don’t even know if they’re into shaming at that point!
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did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 3 days ago
a self proclaimed kinky guy told me that me rimming him is “too much” for him. wdym too much that’s super basic😵💫
Jaycifer@piefed.social 2 days ago
anton2492@lemmy.nz 2 days ago
Thank you, was going to respond with something similar.
We don’t yuck others’ yums, but we also shouldn’t yuck their lack of our yums. Being kinky is not some linear progress bar you fill, it’s an incredibly varied spectrum of things that may or may not make us tick to any degree.
To that effect, as with Jaycifer here, my play is mostly mental - the physical stuff matters less, and things like rimming aren’t even on the invite list.
So gtfo here with all that “if you don’t like this then you aren’t kinky enough” shaming bullshit. Because it comes in so many forms, and that’s the awesome fucking part.
AbsolutelyNotSpez@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Next step: Grab the strap-on.
QuizzaciousOtter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
I would be okay with the strap-on but not with rimming. As another reply says, some people just don’t like the butt-mouth combination. I’m one of them.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I mean as a woman, I’ll gladly be beaten, I play with electricity and fire, and I’ve been in the leather community and power exchange scene most of my adult life, but rimming will take some convincing
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
Really?
OK then, let me convince you - after a previous bad experience I just stick to the outside, where it’s easy to check everythings clean. You can even make cleaning the area part of the play.
If you tie down your sub with their backside in the air, and reduce their senses with a blindfold, hood, or whatever, it can be a very very intense sensation for them. Plus, it can be a surprise, especially if mixed in with more harsh forms of play. I’ve never bothered with consent for rimming just on the outside, assuming they’ve consented to traditional s/m activities.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Ok yeah if someone wanted to do that to me I might give it a shot. But yeah I wouldn’t be happy if she did it to me without a heads up
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
Ah ok, I assumed your objection would be for giving rather than receiving … typically “I don’t do butt stuff” crops up in conversation before you tie someone up, and that I would respect
KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Haha hilarious that your responses confirmed your thesis sadly. Eating ass is default in 26 y’all.
halcyoncmdr@piefed.social 3 days ago
I can understand someone drawing a line between the playground and sewage facility when it comes to putting things in their mouth… But that’s not really the same on the receiving end.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 days ago
I’m going to want to kiss the person I’m fucking and if their mouth has been on an asshole I’m not going to do that. Sorry, it grosses me out and it isn’t as good as using it on my dick anyway.
iltg@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
bidets
i assume you pee from your dick so does this boil down to a ranking of bodily wastes?
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 days ago
Yes? Shit is infinity grosser than piss. I want nothing to do with it near my face.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 days ago
even then faecal bacterium still clings around after washing it.