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rafoix@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• SeeMarkFly@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I went to therapy and found a bunch of NEW things that I was (successfully) suppressing.

  I PAID to have MORE problems. I can’t afford ME.

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  • rafoix@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I know that I have a lot of problems. A therapy bill will just be one more and it’s not going to undo the previous problems.

    Understanding how and why I’m fucked up is not the same as not being fucked up.

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    • basxto@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      There are different kinds of therapy. Understanding what’s wrong is one thing anf can help to get along with issues. But there is also therapy that focuses on changing your behavior etc

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    • reev@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      But it’s a step towards being able to (hopefully) process and better live with your issues. It never claimed to magically fix everything in your life, it’s trying to get you to a point where you’re equipped to fix/handle it yourself.

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    • Tonuka@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Honestly if you’re not sure how therapy can help you, then therapy can’t properly help you. Most of the work comes from the patient

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• eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Therapy allowed me to let my guard down enough to see who I really am. That was pretty invaluable. Not easy or fun, but worth.

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  • Rooster326@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yes…but have you tried a 29 day, 696 hour vacation on a boat?

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  • gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    idk i’ve always had difficulty with therapy because it feels like a trap. “go tell all your deepest darkest secrets to that other person, they sure won’t judge you.” then they put you in jail. it feels like the “good cop” in the “good cop/bad cop” game. they pretend to be nice meanwhile they’re working with the system. at least that’s the suspicion i get.

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    • eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That hasn’t been my experience but I understand the concern

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• thethrilloftime69@feddit.online ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I don’t think it’s just as simple as going to therapy but I’ve been in therapy for years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I really got to work through stuff that I had been dealing with for years. I think it’s hard to figure it out on your own, but I don’t think a therapist is the only thing you need.

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• NaibofTabr@infosec.pub ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Just do AI therapy!

  It will tell you you’re great, and you won’t have to risk any emotional vulnerability with a real person!

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  • chtk@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    You’re also very much into spirals now.

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• SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  If you genuinely want to change and find a therapist who can help you find the right resources to do it, it’s invaluable.

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• FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  If you have very thoughtful friends or family members that you talk to and can be honest with about… Everything, then that fits the bill.

  Also if it’s just the “someone to listen to you” thing there are other free alternatives e.g online (with the extra anonymity, which is nice) or to a catholic/orthodox/high anglican priest, or to a volunteer counselling group (one big one exists in my city).

  If you’re not willing or feeling the need to give it a try, I would recommend reading about psychological concepts. Or just watch someone such as Daniel Mackler and you might learn to heal yourself through osmosis.

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